Every woman wants to live a life with a man she loves, thinking that only love will lead to everything. In fact, it is not. Love is just the basis of marriage, not the whole of marriage.
In other words, having love between each other is only one of the conditions for marriage, but a marriage with love is difficult to last for a long time. Women should consider it in many aspects when getting married. Only when you think carefully can you be happier after getting married.
means what kind of person the other person is before marriage. You must first figure out and don’t regret it after getting married.
If you don’t keep your eyes open before marriage and choose the wrong man, then you will be destined to suffer for the rest of your life, tired for the rest of your life, and regret is useless.
As a woman, don’t marry such a man, otherwise marriage will only be a kind of pain and it will be difficult to be happy.
1. A selfish man
A good relationship is never a one-sided effort, but a contribution from both parties. That is to say, if only one person gives in a marriage, then such a marriage is difficult to last.
The party who pays feels very tired, and the party who doesn’t think it’s natural. How can such a relationship last for a long time?
I have an uncle who is a selfish man. After getting married, he only has himself and never considers his aunt.
It seems that in their family, the aunt does whatever she does. When the guest comes to serve her, the aunt does a lot of work at home. Even so, the uncle still doesn't appreciate it. He thinks that this is what he wants to get married and go home.
Whenever my aunt complains, he does not comfort her at all, because in his opinion this is the value of her aunt.
Not only that, he still has double standards for his aunt and himself. He will go for a checkup immediately when he is sick or disaster, but if his aunt feels uncomfortable, he will not pay attention to it at all.
Once, my aunt had a headache, and my uncle didn't care at all. In my aunt's words, my uncle seemed to have not seen it.
When my aunt talked about this to us, my uncle seemed to be right, saying that it was just a headache. Isn’t it just a headache? Just take a few pills and there is nothing to make a fuss.
I can't see from my uncle's eyes that he loves his aunt. He only has himself in his eyes. After all, he is a selfish person.
It is really sad for women to marry such a man because there is no love seen from them.
Women love someone again, don’t rush to marry the other person. Put a question mark on it and ask if the other person is worthy of his or her life. If you find out that the other person is a selfish man, you should be more cautious.
2. Men who like ambiguous
As a woman, you should know that love has exclusiveness , that is to say, love is a matter between two people, and no betrayal of either party. If there is betrayal, then love will end.
A man who likes ambiguous loves you after all, he doesn’t love you. If he loves you, he will definitely not be ambiguous with others. So never believe that a man who is ambiguous with others loves you, and his love is mostly a lie.
If you find that the person you love is ambiguous with other women, then you don’t have to think about it and choose to leave decisively. Only in this way can you protect yourself the greatest protection.
Although leaving temporarily will make you feel heartbroken, you should know that long pain is worse than short pain. Instead of making yourself suffer in the future, it is better to end it decisively now. Only when it is over will you find love again.
My friend Jia Jia talked about a boyfriend who likes ambiguousness. At first, she didn't know that her boyfriend likes ambiguousness, and she also wanted to live with the other person wholeheartedly. If it weren't for the friend sending a photo of her boyfriend having an ambiguousness with another girl, Jia Jia Jia didn't believe that her boyfriend was such a person.
When her boyfriend saw this photo, he wanted to explain to Jia Jia. Jia Jia directly said that there was no need to explain. She only believed that the facts were seen in front of her. Since the other party no longer loved her, she would not force her and chose to break up directly.
Many people think that losing someone who doesn’t love you is a loss, but in fact it is not. Since he doesn’t love you anymore, then you will have no loss. It’s because he doesn’t love you anymore, it’s because you don’t love him anymore, it’s because he loses someone who loves himself deeply.
It is really scary for men who like to play ambiguous relationships. They do not understand the true meaning of love, because the essence of love is loyalty. If a person cannot even be loyal in love, then how can he keep going?
Jia is living a very good life now. She knows that if she didn't choose to leave at the beginning, she might continue to compromise in this relationship and live a particularly painful life.
As a woman, you must know at any time that when you fall in love with a man who is dissatisfied with others, it is difficult to feel happiness. The deeper your love will be, the more painful it will be.
I hope all women in the world can understand that instead of sticking to a relationship that is not cherished, it is better to end this relationship early, because this life is really too long, and we don’t need to waste time on people who don’t love ourselves, right?
