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In our imagination, a family is a whole. If one of them becomes rich and rich, the others will get rid of poverty and benefit from it, and the whole family will get better.
can be used in real life, but this is not the case.
The real situation in real life is that when a person becomes rich and rich, it is just that he lives well by himself, while others are still the same, and life has not changed at all. Why does this happen to
? Why is that rich man unwilling to take his family? Even brothers and sisters are unwilling to help?
In fact, this is the real human nature, and the reasons behind it are heartbreaking and realistic.
1: Human nature cannot withstand overestimation. Some people have more selfishness than you think
After all, people live for themselves. No matter how good the relationship is with someone, once you encounter something, the first thing you consider is yourself. This is an extremely realistic point that we don’t want to admit but have to admit. The same is true between brothers and sisters. At first, everyone's starting point was the same. If one of them became rich, promising, and rich, he would say that he would help everyone, but in fact he was still considering his own interests.
Will he measure it in his heart, if he really pulls them, will it be any benefit for him? What should they do if they don’t know how to be grateful and what should they do if they repay their grudges.
He will not act easily until he is uncertain about these, because he is afraid of affecting his future.
And at this time, his vision of his brothers and sisters may not be as pure and sincere as before. He will start to calculate and even look down on him.
So human nature cannot withstand overestimation, and you can't imagine the selfishness of some people.
2: People become rich and have a higher status, and it is easier to look down on people who are weaker than themselves
There is a saying: Only by not forgetting their original intention can they get their original intention.
The so-called original intention is actually the purpose and mind that was originally set out. Some people forget their roots as they walk, don’t care where they come from, don’t care about those who have helped them, and even look down on them. People like
have always been selfish, but they also live very delicately. They are truly egoists.
Just like Wang Qingzhi in " Happiness to Ten Thousand Family ", the whole family worked hard to support him in college. Later, he became arrogant when he became an official, and he disliked his brother who was a farmer and was reluctant to let him stay for one night even after buying a new house.
He wanted to escape from his original family, and he was afraid that his girlfriend in the city would dislike his background.
So treating brothers and parents is the same, he thinks they are the stains in his life. Looking down on them is actually looking down on yourself.
If a person forgets his roots, he will never be able to stand firm again. This means that you have no conscience and the more you walk forward, the narrower you will be. After all, people are doing things and the heaven is watching.
3: I am afraid of causing trouble for myself. After all, some people do not know how to be grateful and like moral kidnapping
The difference between the previous two situations is that some people are rich and are unwilling to give their brothers and sisters because they are afraid of giving their sincerity but not getting the response they deserve.
After all, many times, you will get thanks for helping the other person once, and you will be grateful for helping the other person countless times. When the other person gets used to it, you will take it for granted. This is an extremely realistic point in human nature.
There are many people in life who always have no gratitude and regard the help others have to do as duty rather than affection. Therefore, they will not only not give rewards, but will also become more and more powerful and want more.
Everyone will feel upset when faced with this situation.
This is also one of the reasons why many rich people are unwilling to help their brothers and sisters. They are afraid of being morally kidnapped by the other party and are afraid of causing trouble for themselves. After all, some people are really not suitable to get too close.
After all, people seek benefits and avoid harm. When they are not sure whether something is beneficial to them, they will instinctively refuse or escape.
So when you are not sure of your brothers and sisters' character, it is rational to be cautious. After all, it is true to exchange for an enemy, and this situation often happens in life.
I hope each of us can treat others sincerely.
If the other party can compliment us, support each other. If you repay kindness and revenge, then stop the loss in time.
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