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People hope that they can live a happy life in their lives. However, the original intention of happiness is to be filial to their children and accompany their husbands. This kind of life is called happiness. However, the couple cannot be together for the rest of their lives. There is always one person who will leave first, so the person who stays will definitely be lonely. It would be fine if their children are by their side, but their children have their own family after all, and it is impossible for them to be with the elderly for the rest of their lives. So at this time, the elderly have special hopes that they can have a companion around them. The two support each other and spend the rest of their lives together.
Although many lonely elderly people now choose to remarry, many elderly people live a very unhappy life after remarrying. It is precisely because of this that most elderly people are afraid of remarrying and dare not try to remarry. In fact, remarrying depends on the individual and cannot represent the whole. So, should we elderly people remarry? Next, let’s take a look at the story below.
Self-reporter: Uncle Liu is 70 years old
My surname is Liu, and I am 70 years old this year. Since my wife passed away, I am the only one left at home. Although I live alone, there is no need to worry. After all, I also have a pension. Even if the pension is not much, I can't eat much. I can still live by saving some money.
My wife and I have two daughters. Both of them are very filial to me and come back every month to pay for living expenses. Many people think that my two daughters are filial and are so kind to me. I ask me why I don’t go to their house to live, so I feel at ease. My daughter will not be lonely even if I stay by my side. An elderly person is always unsafe. In fact, I am not not living at my daughter’s house, but they live very nervous, they are all developing and stressed. If I add me at this time, their pressure will definitely be unbearable. Moreover, I am old and don’t want to run around. It’s tiring, and it’s still comfortable in my own nest.
I have suffered a lot in my life. My family has never had money since I was a child. Fortunately, my wife did not dislike me. After following me, she would support me no matter whether I succeeded or not. The trivial matters at home have never worried me. The reason why my two daughters are so filial is also her credit, but a person with such a good personality has no life to enjoy happiness. Speaking of which, I feel very sorry for her. I have been suffering with me for most of my life, but I have never brought me a trip, and it is gone.
When my wife left, I had not retired. Fortunately, my work was supporting me, otherwise I wouldn’t know how to live. Since my wife left, I have never thought about finding her husband, and I still pretended to be my husband. If I found someone else, my husband would definitely be unhappy to watch him in the sky, so I have always been single and have not considered remarriage.
Later I retired and was very bored every day. I have played the places where I should go and where I should play, and I am tired of it. I didn’t have the ability before. Now I have the ability, but I don’t have that meaning. I also tried to play in the elderly center and signed up for a dance class and a Tai Chi class. But in the end I gave up and couldn’t get interested. Seeing that I didn’t know what to do day by day, my friends from many years came home. As soon as he came back, he took me to ride a mountain bike. It was also after I went with him that I realized that there were so many bikers who were interested in riding bikes. I was quite interested in this. It can not only exercise, but also make new friends, but also relax. It’s great.
also after playing with my friends, I met many people who love riding, and they all have them. They are also quite interesting. Originally, I was not a chatty person, and I was even a little introverted, but they didn't mind. Instead, they were very friendly to me. They often chatted with me and spoke very interestingly. Gradually, I integrated into this big family.
Although we ride bikes, we often get together for a picnic or have a drink together. Among our cyclists, there are not only men, but there are also many women who love to ride bikes. Their cycling skills are much better than mine, and some have been riding for a long time. They are particularly sunny and ambitious. I admire them very much.
Since I met them, I have never been anxious. I am not only happy every day, but also happy. My life has suddenly become much more interesting and colorful. I was not interested in anything before, but now I am interested in everything after playing with them. Maybe because they really regard me as a friend, I am very relaxed in this circle. I can tell them anything unhappy, and they will also help me and comfort me, so I feel that my life has become much more interesting all of a sudden.
When they learned that I was single, they also said to introduce me to a partner. When they enlightened me, they told me a lot about finding a partner. At least they had to have someone around them who knew warmth and warmth. When there was something urgent and couldn't make a decision, they could discuss it together. The most important thing is that when they were sick, they could still take care of me. To be honest, they were so worried about my life events. From the bottom of their hearts, I am grateful and thank them for worrying about me. They also seriously introduced me to a partner. I have never refused and refused to meet. I have seen everyone they introduced, but it is a pity that none of them met.
I know this is their kindness. I shouldn't be so picky, but I think if I actually want to find a partner, I must take it seriously. Only in this way can the two of them live a happy life. If they find a partner at will to understand the situation, they will be too irresponsible to others. In the end, they will do something wrong due to randomness. So they have to be cautious and cannot eat hot tofu even if they are anxious. I always believe that it is mine, it is mine after all, not mine, and it is useless to force it.
Later, after everyone's help, I met the right person. She was Xiaolan. She was three years younger than me. She looked quite young and had a decent family condition. She also had a son who developed in other places and rarely went home, so she would not cause trouble for her. The most important thing is that she has a good personality. After we were together for a while, I also found that Xiaolan had a lot of common hobbies with me, and she was also very diligent. She was indeed the right person I had.
After I saw her character clearly, I didn’t make sure to be with her at the first time. Instead, I learned about it first. I can’t be too anxious to be together, otherwise I will be done after some trouble occurs, so I still have to understand it slowly.
Xiaolan may also see some of my thoughts, but she never said that she used actions to let me discover her goodness. After seeing all her actions, I also confirmed that she was the person I was looking for. I also understood my thoughts. I was very sure that I wanted to be with her for the rest of my life. We were indeed quite in harmony. There was absolutely no conflict when we were together. But I told her that if we were together, we would only work together but not get a marriage certificate. It was not that it was not that it would be love her if we didn’t get a marriage certificate. But I think that there is no need for the elderly to get a marriage certificate so much. Moreover, getting a marriage certificate will involve many unnecessary things. If the two of them can’t get a marriage, it will be very difficult. So I don’t want to ruin our happiness because of an marriage certificate . I hope she can understand me. I actually chose her. Then I have her in my heart and will not let her lose.
I thought she would get angry when I told her that she would only work with her and not get a marriage certificate. However, what I didn’t expect was that Xiaolan was so generous. She told me directly that I didn’t want to have these ideas. She also said that she had no plans to get a marriage certificate with me, and she also said that she didn’t care about a marriage certificate, but how I treated her, so she accepted my opinion and only worked with her and did not get a marriage certificate.
Xiaolan is so understanding, I will definitely not let her down on me, so I promised her that all the living expenses at home will be paid by me in the future, and I will give her 3,000 pocket money every month, so that she can buy whatever she wants without saving money for me. I thought that if people don’t dislike me, I can’t give anything to others, then I will definitely give her happiness and make her feel that it’s not wrong to be with me. However, she doesn’t buy anything for herself in the pocket money I give her every month, but instead buys me all kinds of things. My clothes, shoes, and socks are all bought for me. When she goes out shopping and sees things that suit me, she will buy them for me without hesitation. Such a woman is really right, and I have no reason to treat her badly.
After we were together, I wouldn’t say that she would do the housework at home alone, and watch with her legs crossed her legs, but would do it with her. When she was cooking, she would help her to pick up water and wipe the buildings on the high ground. When she saw me helping her everywhere, she was also happy. When she was happy, I was happy and she was even better to me.
Both of us have their own children, and our children also support us very much together. Since we were together, they have regarded each other as their brothers and sisters. They will sit down and discuss anything together. They will also send money to come back to be filial to us every month. Occasionally, when they have time, they will all come back, making our small family lively. Now we have been remarried for more than two years, and our relationship is still so good. The children are also very filial to us. Seeing me having all this happiness, I have to thank Xiaolan. It is all because of her arrival that my life has a new beginning and I live a happier day by day. I hope that such a happy life can be with us for a long time.
