Hello, DHJ Third Princess, my husband and I fall in love at first sight, which is a flash marriage. We have been married for almost a year now, and we have no sense of happiness, sweetness and happiness at the beginning. From quarrels, cold wars to divorce, it is all because of m

DHJ Hello, the third princess, my husband and I fall in love at first sight, which is a flash marriage. We have been married for almost a year now, and the happiness, sweetness and happiness we had at the beginning were gone. From quarrels, cold wars to divorce, it was all because of money.

We are in a first-tier city. He has an annual salary of 250,000 yuan in state-owned enterprises, and has a house and a car. I work as a nurse in private hospital , and my monthly salary is 5,000 yuan. After marriage, I spent my salary myself and asked him for 2,000 yuan a month. He didn't want to give it to me, and sometimes I asked me to pay 1,000 yuan a month to my family. So what should I do with him?

At first, he gave it to me, but later he said that I didn’t spend the money at home and didn’t want to do housework, so I stopped giving it to me. I had a quarrel and he ignored me, so I just lay down and then simply went back to my parents’ home. He actually filed for divorce, but I love him very much and don't want to divorce him. I hope you can help me with my advice!

Thanks for the trust!

I think first of all, you need to change your concept of marriage. The family needs to be run by two people. From the day you get married, you have to change your role. You are not the parents’ dear, you are already a wife, and later you have to be a mother, so you have to assume the responsibility and obligation of being a wife.

Your living standards are very high among young people, but because of the money that has caused a divorce, I would say bluntly: The main problem lies with you.

The man has a house and a car and bears all the expenses of the family every month. However, after all, he is also a working class. If he is not in charge of the family, he doesn’t know that the firewood and rice are expensive, which is a considerable expense. You spend 5,000 yuan a month on your own, and you also ask the other party for 2,000 yuan as your own expense. And you don’t like to do housework, so the man will bear almost the whole family alone.

If you don’t give money, you will make trouble, you will not do anything in marriage, and even go back to your parents’ home to threaten him. The man loves you very much, and others will not be able to stand you, a "giant baby" who only knows how to ask for money in marriage.

The origin is a question of values, that is, how do women spend money?

first. Spend it on parents.

"Filialty" means being filial and being obedient. Look at those who spend money on a big deal and can’t bear to spend a penny on their parents, they won’t have money. Even if you are rich now, you are still a "rich poor person". A person who does not know how to be grateful will not last long.

second. Spend it on your husband.

When he is poor, poor or in trouble, or needs to improve, encourage him, support him, and help him. When a small tree grows into a towering tree, can he not be grateful to you? Some mother-in-law talks when their son-in-law has no money, and when their son-in-law becomes rich, they will always have a knot in their hearts, and the same is true for wives.

3. Flowers for children.

Some mothers often say: Just study hard and get good grades. In fact, she doesn't understand. It is better to travel thousands of miles than reading thousands of books. In addition to reading thousands of books, she also needs to take her children to understand the outside world, broaden her horizons, let her children know that there are people outside, learn to live, learn to be a human being, and learn to do things.

The fourth. Give yourself flowers.

is not spent on eating, drinking and having fun, not only on appearance, but also on inner improvement and learning. Be a woman with a beautiful and wise man, knowing about learning and etiquette, knowing how to be grateful and give, knowing how to cooperate and win-win, taking the overall situation into consideration, knowing the overall situation, knowing the long-term, and knowing the long-term, , can a man not love you wholeheartedly?

Fifth. Spend on relatives and friends who know the roots and have good character.

"Sentence-based help" is to accumulate blessings for yourself, family and descendants.

In short, after saying so much, the words are a bit harsh, but the heartfelt words are helpful to you. I wish you happiness!