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saw a question on Zhihu: "I took my boyfriend home for the first time, but the scene was very awkward. What should I do now?"

In fact, the key point is that the family where a girl was born has a serious atmosphere, and the parents at home are relatively strict.

And boys' family style is relatively lively and democratic, and basically everything is discussed by everyone.

So, for boys who grew up in such a family, he definitely cannot understand, and even cannot accept that there is such a family atmosphere.

Two people who had a good relationship might have broken up because of a simple meeting with their parents.

1. You must remember to protect the other party

For any couple, if your relationship is stable enough and get along well enough, then one day, you will meet each other's parents.

Meeting parents is a kind of affirmation of feelings. This is not only a screening of the partner chosen by the other party, but also a chance for you to understand the other party.

In this process, the most important person is never the one who goes to someone else's house, but the one who takes someone else's home.

When your parents and your partner first meet, how should you introduce each other so that both parties can understand and accept each other as soon as possible.

Only this party is clear and understands his parents, as well as his partner's preferences and taboos, so as to facilitate communication between the two parties.

If your family raises something sensitive, how should you help the other party solve it, or even skip these topics.

Assume that your partner has done something subconsciously, but you know very well how your family doesn’t like it, and how you should save the situation.

This is all things you need to do when you bring your partner home. Instead of just being silent, echoing, or even putting your partner in embarrassment.

2. If you try to show off your skills, you must also keep it.

Someone said: "When the son-in-law comes to the house for the first time, as the woman's parents, he will definitely give the other party a warning. Isn't this the most common thing?"

Indeed, whether it is the man meeting the woman's parents or the woman meeting the man's parents, this is an indispensable thing for some families.

However, the parents of the woman give the man a warning, and the most likely purpose is to hope that in this way, the man can treat his daughter well in the future.

And the man's family should just hope that the other party can be a good wife who is obedient and can take care of her children.

These are all understandable and are a kind of encouragement for the other party’s parents, even if it is sometimes a bit extreme.

But then again, such behavior should not be too tough, and even say that you ask your child’s partner to become what you want.

‘You have to change your appearance’; ‘You have to change your job, or even give up your job and take care of my children’, these are all unreasonable requirements.

Indeed, the person parents meet may become the person who protects your child’s life in the future, and you need to tell him something.

However, it is also someone else's child. You cannot let the other child suffer grievances in order to protect your own child.

3. It is really important to meet parents

Why do some people clearly live a happy life before marriage, both of them have their own careers and friends, and their own spare time.

After marriage, the days of both parties in the marriage became a mess, and even the love that was once gone no longer existed in an instant, leaving only quarrels?

In fact, when you first meet the other parent, you can clearly understand the reason.

Some boys look gentle and elegant, and even in the eyes of your friends and his friends, they are all good men.

But his father never felt grateful for his mother's efforts, and even felt that all this was what the other party should do.

Then, almost without exception, such boys will definitely treat their wives like this after marriage, because they understand that marriage is like this.

Love, you can’t just look at the other person’s good side, but also look for the other person’s bad side, or even the hidden side. You must have a comprehensive understanding.

This judgment has nothing to do with men and women, but with self. Because what kind of person a partner is directly related to your long life.

4. Marriage is not that easy

In any marriage life, one party will definitely make more contributions in one aspect, and in the corresponding other aspect, it will make less contributions.

For example, if a wife has more time to take care of the family, then the husband should work hard outside more. All their efforts are for this family.

In terms of family efforts, no one is higher or lower, and there is no fairness or not. The key point is whether you have the other person in your heart and whether you have this family.

Don’t always look at how much you have paid, don’t use your hard work to erase the other party’s efforts. This is the biggest unfairness.

Before all this begins, first look at the other party’s parents’ getting along, and then decide whether to continue moving forward. This is the greatest responsibility to yourself and the other party.

or above, I wish you a good dream and good night.