In Zhihu , I once saw a heart-wrenching topic:
"Will you marry someone who is very poor but loves you very much?"
Someone said firmly:
"No, because you are poor, you love me, and if you have money, you love others. This is how I divorce now."
In an era of material desires, poor couples are mourning.
Times are long, and even the love that is overwhelming will be exhausted in the mess of life.
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Not afraid he is poor now,
I am afraid he is poor for granted
Jin Yong in " Book and Sword Revenge " said:
"A person is good or bad, and he often misreads his first acquaintance."
Qin'er is a school beauty, but she did not choose a tall, rich and handsome boyfriend.
instead came together with Huaqiang, who looked ordinary and had no money, because she felt that Huaqiang loved her very much.
Even though her family strongly opposed it, she still followed him without hesitation and married thousands of miles away.
A year later, Qin'er found a job as a teacher, but Huaqiang was idle at home, and the daily expenses at home depended on Qin'er to support it.
Sometimes she gets off work very late, and she is afraid when she goes home alone and wants Huaqiang to pick her up. As a result, Huaqiang either gets drunk with his friends and can't get rid of her, or plays games at home, and decisively refuses her request.
Qin'er wanted Huaqiang to find a job, but he always looked for various reasons to make excuses.
Don’t understand a person without doing anything.
Qin'er slowly realized that Huaqiang was really useless except for poverty, laziness and sweet-mouthedness. At that time, she was really blinded by lard.
Two years later, Qin'er returned to her parents with her divorce certificate .
It’s a pity that everything has changed.
In Qin'er's heart, she is not afraid of men being poor or suffering, but she is afraid that the other party is willing to be poor, so that she will never see the future.
In a marriage, one party is trying hard to move forward, and the other party is lying flat. The two are destined to part ways in a conflict of disagreement of values.
No money, you can make another profit, but if a man is not motivated, it will only make your life gradually rot and sores.
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Men are different from women,
Their love is more realistic
There is a famous scene in the popular drama " Dear Life ".
When the young Guo Caiting came out of the doctor's clinic with a confused look on her face, she met Zhang Ying, a middle-aged woman who is also a pregnant woman.
She asked:
"Sister Zhang Ying, are you here for prenatal check-up today?"
Zhang Ying said:
"I am relatively idle today, and I am looking for my best friend to have dinner. Do you want to be with me? My best friend, Director Huang, aren't you also her patient?"
At this time, Zhang Zilu came out of the doctor's waiting room, walked to Guo Caiting, hugged her and said:
"Caiting, let's go."
Zhang Ying looked at Zhang Zilu and was stunned:
" Husband? "
It turns out that Zhang Zilu is Zhang Ying's husband and Cai Ting's child's father. The three of them wrestled together and became a mess in an instant...
Zhang Ying cried in Director Huang's arms and said:
"I want to abort this child, I want to divorce, I dare not get pregnant for so many years, I have been doing so many years, and the sacrifices made for this family for so many years are ridiculous. Why? Why does God want to give me such a reward? "
At the same time, Zhang Zilu also coaxed Caiting:
" I have no feelings for her for a long time. I love you very much. Once the child comes out, I will definitely divorce her. "
Caiting said angrily:
"When you were poor, your wife worked hard to earn money to support her family, and she didn't dare to get pregnant. She joined you to start a business and make you a successful entrepreneur. You are not only without feelings, but also without a conscience. You are so scumbag and do not deserve a healthy child. "
When the man saw the high-risk report of Tang Sieve, he immediately returned to the hospital, knelt in front of Zhang Ying, and slapped himself in the face:
"I was confused after drinking and got entangled, just once..."
This is the reality of human nature, and men are often better than women.
Not every woman who has worked with a man will be treated fairly and cared for by warmth.
Maug once said that women are proud of their deep affection, while men are ashamed of their infatuation.
The essence of marriage is often irrelevant to love.
If people don’t have the hearts of their hearts. Firm and too much greed will eventually lose yourself in your relationship and live up to your good fortune.
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people who can shelter you from the wind and rain,
can be together with you to be old
friends Friend Lin Yan, a beautiful and kind-hearted person, is a talented woman.
She likes to share Chinese traditional culture courses, and we all like to listen to it.
She talked endlessly when she talked about "Records of the Grand Historian", "Zuo Zhuan", bronzes and ancient buildings. Her relationship with her husband is also very sweet.
But Lin Yan's mother-in-law is very traditional, and she hopes that Lin Yan will have a son and continue the incense.
years ago, Lin Yan gave birth to a daughter After the child, the doctor said that it was difficult for her to get pregnant again, but her husband didn't mind, but her mother-in-law complained a lot and often said coldly to her.
My husband saw that Lin Yan was not happy, so he took Lin Yan and his 3-year-old daughter to Shanghai without saying a word and started over.
The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law gradually subsided as the distance went further.
Someone said:
l1 Because love is based on character, the arrival of love is not an emergency, but an accumulated event.
There is a reliable man around a happy woman who cares for her very much.
Time to recognize people, and time to recognize their hearts.
People by their minds often endure the cumbersome life and fight with the other party.
Rumors protect each other.
written in the last
Yu Qiuyu 's "Borrow Me for a Life" says:
The road of life, rely on yourself to walk step by step. What can really protect you is your own personality choice and cultural choice. Then, on the other hand, what can really hurt you is the same, your own choice .
Marrying is not about the man’s wealth, but about his inner character.
Marrying is reliable, and marriage is reliable.
He will with you the wind, frost, snow and rain of life, watch the booming sunshine, watch the rainbow after the rain, enjoy the rest of the sun, see the prosperity of the world, and see the prosperity and desolation of the world until you are old.
May you have the ability to make yourself happy no matter who you marry in this life.
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Author丨Fish Roe Sauce·Fangmei
Source丨Fish Roe Sauce Culture
