Have you seen the message I sent you? Why don’t you reply to my message? Are you very busy?
When you send a lot of messages to the other party and have never received a reply, you can't help but be suspicious, panic and random thoughts.
Because he has been treated sincerely, he can clearly feel whether he is cared about. He just doesn’t believe how can he say that he doesn’t love him or not. He always wants to wait until the other party admits it personally to verify it.
What you need to know is that N times have not been read back, which is his attitude towards you.
If you send multiple messages, even ask the other party to make a clear statement about the relationship, whether to continue or end, and the other party still ignores it, there is no need to bother you, you must learn to be "ruthless".
1. Learn to be cruel and disconnect
If a person doesn’t reply to your message, or it only takes several days to reply to your message, he is not very busy, he doesn’t have a minute, he is just accompanying someone who is more important than you.
is an era when mobile phones are always in hand. No one is busy until they don’t look at their phones for 24 hours, and no one is busy until they don’t reply messages, only people who don’t want to reply.
does not reply to information, it is a kind of information.
communicate well, want a clear reply, and even in order to force the other party to respond, he even took out the "breakup" that he felt was a bargaining chip. The other party still ignored you, so you should not be bothered.
The person who wants to leave, no matter what method you use, no matter how high your emotional intelligence continues to contact, it will be a disturbance for him, and even feel that "you are very annoyed".
So, when a person treats you so indifferently, please withdraw your enthusiasm, stop pestering, be cruel and breaking the connection, and stop taking the initiative.
Any relationship, only if the other party knows how to cherish it, can there be a need to continue.
2. Learn to let go ruthlessly
Don’t miss the past, and don’t always tell the other party that “it was not what I used to me” and “You said you will never leave me.”
When you love, you really love and you can agree to anything; when you don’t love, you will be true and you will never fulfill anything.
Don’t ask why he is so heartless, and don’t take it over and tie him up. Once a person reaches the ruthless step, he will really become ruthless and indifferent.
Ta will not tell you calmly to separate, and there is not even a solemn breakup, and will disappear quietly in your life.
You are tearful, repeatedly entangled, and quarreled endlessly, and the other party has already gone further and further away.
In love, if one of the people is gone, don’t force it, don’t look back, and don’t forget the past, but walk forward with big strides.
All people who cannot contact you, those who are unwilling to reply to messages or those who are heartless will let go of them.
3. Learn to be cruel and not reply
When you love someone miserably, even if you say something today, as long as the other party asks "Are you here?" you will still face it with all your might, and be resurrected as if you were injected with chicken blood.
But when you give your enthusiasm, he disappears again and appears again when you need you. You know that he may just treat you as a spare tire, and you still can't help but not contact.
Such a person who tramples on your true heart and repeatedly controls your emotions, there is no need to let him do whatever he wants to do with your emotions.
People who do not belong to you are, no matter how entangled, it is futile; trying to please others is a waste.
You have to learn to choose people instead of being selected, and wait for others to flip like a flop. A truly smart person never wastes time on impossible people and things. They know how to fight for it, but they also know how to give up.
The rest of your life is short. Don’t waste your time on pleasing someone who is indifferent to yourself. When no one cares about you, you must learn to be "ruthless" to someone, be cruel to leave, be cruel to let go, be cruel to breaking the connection.
What you need to do is allow him to miss you, not be greedy for meaningless people or things, and free up more energy to welcome the beauty.
