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I observed it and found that there are a lot of couples around me recently. Most of the reasons are not earth-shaking events, but trivial matters.
Do you think you have to reach the point of divorce? Actually, it is not true, but if these couples do not divorce, it may be difficult for them to be happy.
The reason is that in this marriage, two people are not working hard together. Women do more and men do less, so on some issues, there is a sense of imbalance between the two people.
I often say that once the balance of marriage is tilted, there is a destiny to go wrong. Most women will devote themselves to their family after marriage. Then, in this case, men must give accordingly and respond.
So today I give 5 advice to married men. I hope you can understand that loving your wife means loving yourself. Don’t regret it after the relationship reaches the end and your partner is completely desperate for you.
Must give your partner enough love
Many men say they are very hard in marriage because they need to make money to support their families, but I want to say that in modern society, most women also need to work. You make as much money and are all paying for supporting their families. So don’t use this as an excuse and are unwilling to give their wives some care and love.
For women, especially modern women, what they need is no longer financial satisfaction, because they have long been able to make money to support themselves and have the confidence to live independently. Maybe without you, they will live better.
So in this way, they choose marriage because they love you and hope to get love from you. This kind of love is not limited to material things, but more spiritually.
They need to have a warm embrace when they are sad, a solid shoulder when they are tired, and someone is intimate when they are entangled.
If you can give her these, then she will draw strength from this marriage and give you and this family more and better love. Such a marriage can enter a virtuous cycle.
But if you can't give her these and think that these are what she should do, then sooner or later she will leave you, the better the woman is, the more so it is.
Be sure to be loyal to your partner
For women, it is very important to gain a sense of security in marriage. They can accept the small flaws of men and can slowly get along with men with their tolerance and patience, but they will never accept betrayal and hurt. This is to tell men not to be lucky, and feel that they can’t find it secretly. Women in love are all Sherlock Holmes . Once they find out, they may never look back.
After all, the emotional principle that women in the new era follow is "no need to be unfaithful at a time". Don't think that if you love you, you can do whatever you want. When she gives up completely, you will never be able to save her again.
I have heard many male friends around me say, "I really regret it, just once." "I really don't love her anymore, I just want to try it." "I'm really wrong, but she doesn't forgive me."
You, don’t think women are soft-hearted. Once they make up their minds, they will be more determined than anyone else, especially those women who have the ability to live their own lives well. Your loyalty is her bottom line in this marriage. Once they break through, there is no possibility again.
Must learn to protect her
Most men will be troubled by the conflict between their wives and mothers. Smart men will try their best to reconcile and try not to let these two women conflict face to face, but stupid men will escape, thinking that as long as they are quiet, they can do so.
On this issue, I really recommend that men learn to protect their wives, because most women are willing to get along well with your family since they marry you, but most mothers-in-law will feel like their daughter-in-law has snatched their son away.
In this situation, if you don’t give your wife more protection, then she may not find a sense of belonging in this home, and will be sad and sad, and even want to leave you.
is like a friend of mine. When she was pregnant and gave birth, her mother-in-law was criticized by her mother-in-law, but her husband did not stand up and say a word. He thought that his wife would not divorce him after giving birth, but he did not expect that his wife would return to her parents' home after confinement. The child filed for divorce when she was less than one year old. No matter who persuaded her, it was useless.
For women, if a man cannot protect himself, it is useless to keep it. It is better to live your own life without being bullied by anyone.
Remember this, I believe that men will know how to protect their partner, because this is also the best protection for your marriage.
Don’t be a “widowed” partner
Women actually don’t want much in marriage, companionship, care and care are very important. But, in reality, many people are used to being "widowed" partners, blindly evading their responsibilities, having no responsibility, and always letting women take everything alone.
In such a marriage, women gradually get used to the lack of their partner, and even feel that they may no longer need this man.
So, they chose to leave and live their own lives. The man did not understand why this was, but he did not know that all the expectations of this woman for him had been exhausted in the process of his selective neglect.
Please remember that the meaning of marriage is that two people should share honor and disgrace like comrades, and share difficulties with each other. Only in this way can they establish deep feelings and solve various problems in marriage together.
If you just hope that the other party can help you take on the responsibilities you should have, but are unwilling to give anything to her, then don’t blame her for leaving you resolutely, because you are not worthy of such a good one.
Learn to appreciate your partner
We all say that children need encouragement, so do you know that women actually need it very much. For Chinese men who are used to being restrained, praising their wives is really a difficult thing. Even if there are any good things, they always say the opposite. They always feel that this can demonstrate their masculinity.
But do you know? Sarcasm, sarcasm, scolding, ignoring, language violence, , etc. are all poisons to kill marriage, because the other party will completely lose confidence in you and this marriage in your cold violence, and will also doubt whether you really love yourself.
Don’t use your indifference and ignorance to make your partner sad. You should also understand that praise and appreciation are actually the most affordable and cheap marriage preservatives.
Women, it’s really simple. If you appreciate her and praise her, she will be very happy. Such a simple method can make your marriage sweeter and sweeter, why not?
Marriage, it is complicated and simple. I think as long as two people love each other and can work together for this marriage, all problems can be solved. Except for a few couples who will get divorced, except for a few who really have principled conflicts, the rest may not be able to manage them.
Learn to praise and appreciate, learn to protect each other, learn to communicate, learn to love and loyalty, and learn to give to each other. I believe you will be able to find a business method that suits you.
I hope every man can remember these things, be a responsible person, protect your woman, and have the best happiness.
I am Xiyan, a columnist, an older girl who is neither old nor old. She likes to write warm words and do emotional programs. She has published "The Rest of Your Life is About Me". If you have a story, remember to come to me.
