Many small families are facing this situation, that is, mother-in-law always likes to interfere in some things in your life, from how to educate your children, whether to change cars, or houses, and what to eat tonight, and not to stay in bed in the morning.
Then I will talk about it today, why does my mother-in-law like to interfere?
The most fundamental reason I will throw it to you directly is because Mother-in-law thinks that you two cannot live a good life, so she has to worry about it and control it.
Some sisters may say that I think I am an adult, I think I can handle it well, and the things in my own life are that my mother-in-law is too strong.
Then what Teacher Hu analyzed for you next, you can compare it. We said that people will have two states, , one is called adult state and the other is called child state.
For example, you took your child out to play today and had a great time all day, but it was dark after you got home. You two were tired, thirsty and hungry, and they even wanted to go to the bathroom. So how will adults react at this time? We will quickly judge what we urgently need to solve now.
Generally speaking, we will choose to go to the toilet first, then come out and boil the water. Then, during the boiling process, go to the refrigerator to check if there are any biscuits and fruits can cushion your belly. means that you are rational when dealing with things, and you will use the resources around you to solve problems.
What will happen to the child? The child will be very confused and start shouting as soon as he enters the house, "Mom, I can't do it anymore, I'm suffocating, I want to go to the bathroom, please pour me a glass of water, I'm very hungry now." As long as you slow down, what will happen to this child? If you can't handle your own affairs well, he may have peed his pants and may blame you. Why didn't you pour the water for me?
So what is the difference between a child and an adult? will be particularly helpless. He is always waiting for others to save him. And if others don’t help him and get this done well, he will have a victim mentality. So please compare it. Before the mother-in-law intervenes in your small family, do you and your husband often show this kind of childlike state?
For example, if your mother-in-law interferes with your children, do you usually not take care of your children? When educating your children to do homework, you are very impatient. Including on weekends, you want to play by yourself, so you throw your children to your parents. Small details such as
will trigger a judgment from the elders about you, that is, they can’t handle it themselves, so we still have to go to .
Another point is whether you have the ability to use resources to solve problems
For example, what is our first reaction when many of our sisters often have such disputes with their mother-in-law? I turned around and scolded my husband because I didn’t speak for me. I saw how hard I lived like this. Marrying someone like you, your mother always bullying me, etc.
Then this is called not being able to use resources. In fact, you can take your husband to face this matter together. You should learn to let your husband stand on the same side as you, rather than push him away when you come up.
Once you and your husband form an opposite, then there is no one in this family who can support you.
So what do you want to tell you about this issue today? If your mother-in-law has a strong desire to control, she will always interfere in the things in your life. What you have to do is not to push the responsibility on the mother-in-law or the husband. The best solution to is to strengthen yourself .
