I have been in the industry for more than 10 years. What should I do if I can’t talk to my partner? It is even more difficult to speak out when it comes to intimate topics.
Why does such a problem occur? Many people think that they are old couples. They have lived together for so many years, and as long as they make a small move, they should be clearer about each other’s needs and meanings.
After living together for so many years, you can’t be like a young man, just talk about love all day long. I feel that it doesn't match my age. Is
really what we think? In fact, this is not the case. I have always put forward a point of view, love must be bold. Be brave to express your love! Everyone will think that since I did it, others will understand what I mean. This is everyone's mental perception. Sometimes if you don’t say it, how can others understand? Even if some people say it, they will still have bias in understanding. So this requires us to express our meaning clearly. The same is true for emotions, don't be ambiguous.
How can couples find common topics? This is the issue involving the hobbies and concerns of the two. You might as well try to find each other's points that they dare to be interested in. For example, common hobbies, common TV, common news, interesting things I encountered today, where to go to travel, children's problems, etc. However, when communicating, you must be attentive and honest. Do not play with your phone or be absent-minded when communicating.
Regarding topics that are more ashamed to speak, this is of course when each other is relaxed. Talk about each other’s feelings, find better ways, and make better efforts to each other’s satisfaction! If you don’t say it, how can you improve it?
I am Tian Yazhu, the Yasuki Center. I endorse my happy career and professionally solve various problems in my partner's life!
