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Zhou Guoping said: "What a pure and passionate love. As long as it is the true love of the world, it must have human nature and is contaminated with the smell of fireworks in the world."
We always regard love as a woman's patent, but forget that men actually yearn for love. Especially middle-aged men.
When I was young, it was easy to meet someone I was moved by. If the other person looked good, he thought it was love. When I was young, I was passionate enough about love. I could stand downstairs and confess my love to my beloved girl with a guitar.
Time flies. When people reach middle age, the trivialities of life and pressure from all directions from all directions have gradually hidden the once hot love.
Although it is not as romantic as before, instead, he does not often say "I love you" to you like before, but he always remembers that you have a bad stomach and will cook a pot of porridge for you every night.
Maybe in your eyes, I think he is not romantic enough. In fact, he is loving you in another way. This way is longer and warmer, just like that bowl of porridge, which tastes comfortable and heart-warming.
The love given by a middle-aged man is not the "I love you" as easily as a young man, but when you need him, he will immediately arrange the things at hand and come to you. Even if he cannot reach you due to objective reasons, he will listen carefully to you about the troubles you have encountered.
Then give you rational analysis and advice, so that you feel that you are not alone, and even if he is not around, he will be with you.
You will find that he is always loving you deeply and protecting you with his various identities.
Like friends, understand you
A good relationship between husband and wife will affect every corner of life, so if you want to maintain harmony between husband and wife, you must first get along like friends.
Some people may say that it is clearly a lover relationship, but why did they become friends again?
Although couples are lovers, they should understand and respect each other like friends.
We often see couples quarreling and fighting, but rarely hear quarrels between friends. It is precisely because we think that the other party is a family member anyway, so we say anything unrestrained to the other party, regardless of the other party’s psychological tolerance.
There is no blood relationship between husband and wife. When the contradiction is prominent, it is difficult to continue to live in harmony.
If couples are like friends, they will have a certain sense of boundaries and will not be careless. Instead, they will leave more respect and tolerance to friends.
Sister Ping said that her and her husband are friends. They are in their early forties this year, and they have a clear division of labor at home every day, cooking, washing, picking up and dropping off children. After finishing these things, the two will sit on the sofa at night and talk about their own feelings.
It seems like I have returned to the state of a friend who was not full of lovers when two people first met, and it was very comfortable.
Like a brother, tolerate you
"For the rest of your life, please give me some advice" There is a very touching marriage vow in "The rest of your life, please give me some advice", which says: "I swear that I will be as patient as my brother, as funny as my friend, as considerate as my lover."
And the heroine also replied, "As tolerant as my sister, as understanding as my friend, as romantic as my lover."
Isn't this the love that is truly accumulated in life?
The middle-aged man who truly loves you will be considerate of you as brothers, and understands the hard work of taking care of children and the elderly, so he will choose to tolerate you when you can't help but nag and complain.
Because he knows that apart from complaining to the closest he is closest, there is no one behind you.
Like a father, pampering her
It is said that women are spoiled by men. After the man who loves you, he will play the role of a father and treat you as a child.
In "Wife's Romantic Travel", the middle-aged couple Wang Xinjun and Qin Hailu are envied by many people.
Qin Hailu loves to sleep in every day. Her husband Wang Xinjun will gently go to the kitchen to prepare breakfast, then bring it into the bedroom, kiss her sleeping lover, and let her eat breakfast with the smell of love.
While climbing the mountain, Qin Hailu was still wearing high heels for the sake of beauty. Wang Xinjun did not object, but quietly carried a pair of flat cloth shoes in his bag. When Qin Hailu finally couldn't help but screamed in pain, he silently took out the shoes and put them on them for her personally.
He knew that every woman had a little girl who couldn't grow up in her heart. Only by pampering the women around her well could she live up to her choices for herself.
Writer Maugham once said: "Love needs to be outdone, have the desire to protect the other person, have the spirit of dedication, and have the mentality of pleasing others - in short, love needs to be selfless, or at least need to hide your selfishness without revealing traces, and love also needs to be reserved."
When you meet a man who respects you, understands you, tolerates you, and loves you, you must remember to cherish it. After all, life is long, and it is not easy to meet a man who keeps you in his heart, thinks about you all the time, and thinks about you everywhere.
