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I like the role of the old lady of the Sheng family in " Knows ". She is wise, sober and wise. As the backbone of the Sheng family, she gives the children a lot of love and has also become a guiding light for many people.
The truths she said to the people around her are also very useful to us in reality. And the reason why she lives so clearly is because she has experienced misfortunes.
Anyone who has read the original work knows that the old lady of the Sheng family, as the only daughter of the Yongyi Hou Mansion in Jinling, has a very noble status, but she is the master of the Sheng family who is not suitable for the family and falls in love at first sight. She married Shili Hongzhuang, and she is full of thought that she will have happiness.
However, the master of the Sheng family did not let the old lady have a good result. Their only child was killed by the concubine, and he himself was also young and infected with the cold and left.
The old lady of the Sheng family was hurt, but she also supported the entire family with her own strength, allowing Sheng Hong and all her children to have happiness and future.
It is hard to imagine how the old lady of the Sheng family survived these difficult days, but it is because of this experience that she has such a clear understanding of her feelings and life.
So she gave Minglan a lot of teachings, hoping that she could live happier and freer than herself. Later, Minglan's ending also told us that understanding these principles will allow us to make the right choices at critical moments and control our own life.
Then, let us study hard together, and hope that everyone can learn from it and be invincible in their own lives.
People must live a clear life to go smoothly
The old lady of the Sheng family often gives Minglan some warning because she once thought she could get everything because of her noble identity, but she never thought that she had ruined her life because of her pride and willfulness.
Many of us will do this because life is smooth, we cannot see the worries of the future. We give up improving ourselves and lose the ability to protect ourselves.
For example, many women ask me whether I can be full-time after marriage. I really don’t agree with your ability to give up your independence for a person or a relationship, because none of us knows what will happen in the future, and there is no way to guarantee whether the person who promises to love you for the rest of his life will leave you in the future.
Therefore, always have the right to choose freely and always maintain the confidence to advance or retreat. This is the guarantee of women's happiness.
Just as the old lady of the Sheng family told Minglan, if a person wants to live too smoothly, he will inevitably be dizzy and deaf. You must be awake all the time.
Don’t escape, move forward bravely
For Minglan, the old lady of the Sheng family is the warmest existence in the world. She supports her when she hesitates and guides her when she is confused.
When she didn't know how to face her relationship with the young master, the old lady of the Sheng family gave her this advice: "The road of life is so long, there are still many things in the future, and you can't hide it." I also want to give this sentence to everyone. I hope everyone can understand that this life is very long. Don't escape no matter what you encounter, because only by moving forward can you see hope. You have to have the courage to protect yourself, you can.
Don’t be afraid of being hurt, you should control your life in your hands
When Qiheng failed Minglan, she became a joke for the whole city, which is absolutely fatal to a woman.In order to protect her granddaughter, the old lady of Sheng took her out of the place of right and wrong, but she did not think that it was an escape. She told her: "I was bitten by a snake for ten years and was afraid of the rope, and I fell down, and I didn't even dare to go out of the door."
Women, don't deny yourself because of the failure of your relationship. It's not your fault, but the fate is not enough. No matter how others point fingers, you must live your own life so that they can shut up and have a future.
is just like Sheng Minglan . If you marry Qi Heng, you may not be really happy in your life. Instead, you left him and met a good man like Gu Tingye . Isn’t this a kind of luck? Therefore, don’t belittle yourself, and don’t lose hope in life because of the failure of a relationship. You will be happy and you must believe it.
All the pain will eventually pass. You have to believe in yourself.
. When facing the twists and turns, you should be crueler to yourself. Just like the old lady of the Sheng family, no one knows how painful it was to her child killed by her concubine, and no one knows how sad it was to lose her husband at a young age, but she came over, which also allows us to see the strength of a woman.
So I hope everyone can remember what she said, "No matter how serious the injury is, you will eventually dig up the rotten meat, apply medicine to the wound, and cure it without any scars, so that you can't heal your pain."
We can definitely heal our pain, because there is no hurdle in this world that cannot be overcome, but the premise is that you must believe in yourself and you must also learn to let go of the past. Let’s be a strong woman together, move forward bravely and unwaveringly.
Don’t betray yourself at any time, especially the major marriage events
Looking at the old lady of the Sheng family looking for a marriage for Minglan, I could think of the saying "Loving children will definitely make a far-reaching plan." She never thought of letting Minglan marry into a high school, but she just hoped that she could find an equal marriage and live a comfortable life.
On this issue, I hope everyone can remember the practice of the old lady of the Sheng family. Marriage is not a tool we use to change our lives, so there is no need to marry a powerful person, let alone make things difficult for yourself, find someone who suits you and have peaceful happiness, this is the best.
Of course, if you really can't find this person, it's good to be able to live a good life alone. In short, remember this sentence from the old lady of the Sheng family, "Everyone says that getting married is naturally the best of a good match and a good friend, and it's not a fraud or a fool. No one has to swallow his anger." Control your life and feelings and let your happiness be calm and long-lasting.
Women must be rich and capable, so that they can live a more comfortable life
When Minglan got married, the old lady of the Sheng family pulled her sign language and said earnestly: "We are women, after all, we must be able to hold on ourselves. We must have money in one hand, and we must have a confidant around us, so that we can live a comfortable life."
I think this is the most clear understanding of a woman in this life, and it is also the most useful experience that an elderly person who loves her children wants to teach her.
As a woman, you must always maintain the confidence to be independent, whether in terms of economic or spiritual aspects, because only when you are strong enough will others come to add icing on the cake. To make yourself live comfortably, work hard for yourself.
Understand what you want, always stay awake
Women, they will naturally be happy if they live thoroughly, just like the old lady of the Sheng family and Minglan, they are rarely influenced by others, and they will not care about other people's opinions, because they live freely and sober.
I especially like the saying that the old lady of the Sheng family said, "When you do things, you must figure it out in your heart. As women, you must understand it even more. You must not be deceived by the sour words of the scholars in the book, nor can you be deceived by your own passion."
people, just live happily. No one stipulates what we must do, especially women, and don't be bound by those rules and regulations. You must know that the people who point fingers at you cannot help you in your life at all, and those who truly love you only hope you can be happy.
Women, we can only rely on in this life
In the drama "Know or not", the most real truth I learned is that we can only rely on in this life.
may think that this is too selfish, but you see, after Minglan calculated Changbai for himself, the old lady of Sheng family said: "Your biological mother, your husband and children in the future will not be able to keep you for the rest of your life. The road for your life is how you come and go." This tells us that truly powerful women understand that they must live well for themselves, and this is the only rule for us to protect ourselves.
You should be a strong woman, don’t think about relying on anyone, because with expectations, you will be disappointed. Only by relying on yourself can you control your life and be invincible in happiness.
If a woman can live like this, she is the winner in life, because even if she encounters difficulties, she knows how to solve them, because even if she reaches the lowest point in her life, she understands how to deal with it.
I hope everyone can live so clearly and rationally, firmly control the steering wheel of their lives in their hands, move towards the direction they want, and meet a better self.
I am Xiyan, a columnist, an older girl who is neither old nor old. She likes to write warm words and do emotional programs. She has published "The Rest of Your Life is About Me". If you have a story, remember to come to me.
