Yang Jiang wrote in "Walking on the Edge of Life": "A person will gain different degrees of cultivation and different degrees of benefits after different degrees of training."
Life is a self-improvement practice.
All experiences, whether they are happy or sad, are all about meeting a better self.
If we do these three things well, then our life path will be more determined and more calm.
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Don't be afraid, take the first step bravely
Climber Licheng Shiduo once said: "The antonym of success is not failure, but doing nothing."
If you don't try, then you won't even have the chance to fail, let alone anything else?
This summer vacation, I suddenly became interested and wanted to learn to swim, but when I stood by the swimming pool and looked at the water, the fear in my heart came like a tide, which made me retreat.
But then I thought about it, if I never even went into the water, I would never learn to swim in my life.
So, I closed my eyes and slowly slid into the water along the shore.
It turned out that it was not that scary. As the body slowly immersed in the water, the tension gradually disappeared.
Sometimes life is like this. You have to bite the bullet and rush forward and try to break the panic and worry in your heart, so that you can write a miracle and turn the impossible into a possibility.
economist ben Bernanke once said that in all crises, there will be two types of people: dare to act and fear act .
The former is not that they are not afraid, but that they overcome their inner anxiety and timidity. Only by accepting challenges bravely can you have the opportunity to succeed and create miracles.
On the contrary, the latter was dominated by fear and did not dare to take the first step, and subconsciously denied the possibility of success.
In fact, there are many opportunities in life, hidden in some seemingly impossible difficulties. Only by trying boldly and taking the first step in can everything be possible.
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refuse to give in, grit your teeth and insist on moving forward
Once you start running, don't stop easily.
1996, a 15-year-old disabled track and field athlete, Su Huawei, will participate in the Atlanta Paralympic Games with his teammates.
In pre-match training, Su Huawei always dragged the team back and often ran until his toes were bleeding, but he could not reach the minimum standard of 15s/100m.
During that time, Su Huawei often covered his head with plastic bags and hid secretly in the corner and cried.
He fell into deep self-doubt and even thought of giving up the game.
However, Su's mother firmly believes that her son can do it and insists on accompanying Su Huawei to run on the side of the railway every day.
With the encouragement and company of Su's mother, Su Huawei cheered up again.
Get up before dawn every day to train. No matter it is windy or rainy or the scorching sun, Su Huawei never thought of giving up.
Hard work pays off. In the men's 4×100m relay competition at the Atlanta Paralympics, Su Huawei won the gold medal with his teammates, and this gold medal also opened Su Huawei's "flying man".
With this unyielding spirit and strong will, Su Huawei won a total of 6 Olympic gold medals, breaking two world records. He was regarded as "Su Shen" by Su Bingtian and as his lifelong friend by Andy Lau.
In psychology, there is a law called hurdle law.
that is, a person's achievement often depends on the degree of difficulty he encounters. The higher the railing in front of you, the higher the jump you will jump.
If there is a mountain in front of you now, don’t say much, stick to it, and you will find that there is another scenery waiting for you.
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Don’t regret it, every step is wealth
1 Two days ago, a young man born in the 1995s named Guzi quit his job as a product manager of a Beijing software company and went to Hangzhou to work as a "courier guy".
Many people feel sorry for him, and some even asked him: "I have studied hard for decades, but now I have become a courier. Don't you feel regretful?"
Guzi responded with a smile: "I don't regret it at all. Those experiences are wealth."
There is no way to go in vain in life. Every step counts, and every stage has its meaning of existence.
When Guzi is a product manager, he often goes to business and deals with people, and has trained strong communication skills.
Therefore, when there is a problem with the express delivery order, Guzi can communicate with customers based on previous experience and gain recognition and praise from customers.
Because of his ability to communicate and deal with things, Guzi has been loved and recognized by his colleagues and has accumulated rich network resources.
Guzi laughed and said that he planned to open his own express delivery company soon.
Psychologist Adler believes that How a person views the past will determine his life .
All experiences are a kind of wealth, and all encounters are a kind of fate.
Having seen the prosperity of spring and the bleak autumn, I no longer worry about the alternation of the four seasons.
Have had successful flowers and suffered setbacks from failure, so they are no longer afraid of the ups and downs of the world.
Grandma Moses said: "When you choose one road, the scenery of the other road has nothing to do with you."
Tear the past, and it can only increase your worries; only open-minded and calm can clear the clouds and see the sun.
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There is a line in the movie "Beautiful Life ": No one's life is perfect, but every moment of life should be beautiful.
We create life, and life also creates us.
Open your heart and be brave to love, fight and realize, and our lives will be beautiful in the end.
Time goes by and time goes by and time goes by.
May you always move forward bravely and never look back.
May you always be determined and ride the wind and waves.
May you always move forward with confidence and remain calm.
Author Profile: Xia Chan, a national third-level psychological counselor, appreciate life, understand life, and meet more beautiful scenery.
