In the previous episodes, we told the story of "Wang Jiayin" from the big city of Pakistan , a girl from the big city of Peshawar , who did not give a bride gift to marry far away in rural Henan, her parents-in-law loved her, her husband liked her, and spoke Henan dialect, and she lamented that she was good in China.
Wang Dacheng and Aisha
But not every Pakistani girl is rooted in rural China, and has a sincere heart for love like Wang Jiayin. In 2017, Aisha, a girl from Peshawar, got married after 15 days after getting to know a young man from Tianjin. After coming to China, she was extremely uncomfortable with Chinese life. She was lazy and ignored her newborn daughter, and even often committed violence on her daughter.
What the husband did not expect was that during the epidemic in 2020, Aisha completely let herself go, regretting Pakistan alone, never coming back, leaving behind her husband and her mixed-race daughter.
Until today, Aisha's ex-husband Wang Dacheng still cannot let go. Facing the reporter's camera, he warned young people who yearned for transnational marriage: " married a foreign wife but was cheated, and transnational marriage is risky ."
Obviously, what a painful understanding this transnational marriage brought to Wang Dacheng.
Wang Dacheng
Rough life and love experience
1990, Wang Dacheng was born in Tianjin, China. He is a standard post-90s generation, Hui people . As a Hui people, Wang Dacheng naturally has a smaller range of choice of spouses than Han people. He either marry a Hui girl or a non-Muslim, but after marriage, he must let his wife join the Muslim, which is a very big challenge.
However, before becoming an adult, Wang Dacheng didn't have to consider his marriage life. What he had to deal with was his father's almost harsh demands on him.
Wang Dacheng's family is well off, his parents are both doctors, and there is also a sister 12 years older than him. He was only born after his parents were over 40, so in the eyes of ordinary people, he should be favored.
But this is not the case. Wang Dacheng's father is very strict with his son. If the rice grains fall on the table, his father will scold him harshly. If his sweeping posture is not standard, he will also be scolded by his father. Whenever he encounters his father getting angry, he can only run out of the yard and chat with his beloved puppy, " fox ".
In the dull family atmosphere, Wang Dacheng grew up gradually. He is introverted and dares not ask questions loudly in class. He is always bullied. In his own words, "I was timid when I was a kid." How "coward" is ? Before the age of 16, he had never even taken the bus alone because his parents were worried.
Wang Dacheng didn't like studying, and even wanted to give up the college entrance examination for one time. After learning about it, my father unexpectedly supported his idea, but the reason given by his father was: "It's better if you don't go , you'll be humiliating if you go."
Although I missed the college entrance examination, Wang Dacheng still took the adult college entrance examination and became a college student through junior college to undergraduate . During his undergraduate studies, he had a first love partner who was 9 years older than him.
The first love partner is a graceful beauty shop owner who fell in love with Wang Dacheng, the "post-90s younger brother". However, this relationship did not last long. Once, when Wang Dacheng went to Jiangsu to find his first love, he bumped into her downstairs and hugged a man. At that moment, Wang Dachengquan understood that the relationship had to end without success.
After Wang Dacheng graduated at the age of 20, he first worked in a ticketing company, but he could not accept the intrigue like "The Legend of Zhen Huan" and chose to resign. Fortunately, once when he visited his junior in the hospital, he met a warm-hearted patient, who let him be his godson and arranged for him to work in his own son's startup auction company, and engaged in the auction of various accident cars.
has guaranteed work, and Wang Dacheng also ushered in his first marriage. However, the understanding given to him by this marriage is: " Whether it is a man or a woman, you must keep your eyes open and see clearly before getting married. "
Wang Dacheng's first wife was introduced by his aunt. The woman received a 160,000 yuan bride gift, but she began to disappear after marriage and even emptied everything in the house. The two sides had a very unhappy relationship because of this and even went to court. In the end, the woman returned the 50,000 yuan gift and the divorce ended.
Because of this marriage, Wang Dacheng was depressed for a while and was so serious that he had to see a psychologist. It was not until late one night that he heard his father sighing deeply in the next room that he realized that his father loved him. The failure of this marriage not only affected himself, but also hurt his family.
In 20016, Wang Dacheng saw a news online saying that a Chinese guy rear-ended a car in Pakistan. The owner of the Pakistani car asked not to compensate, but he had to marry his two daughters. Wang Dacheng was deeply inspired: " Chinese are very popular in Pakistan. I am a Muslim. I can marry a Pakistani girl! "
Wang Dacheng is an action-oriented party. In order to marry a Pakistani girl, he joined several foreign language groups, including Chinese, Indian, and Pakistani people, learning English together and contacting English dialogues. In one of the groups, Wang Dacheng and his second wife Aisha met.
met for 15 days, and quickly got married
One day in 2017, when Wang Dacheng was studying in the group, he was just about to have something to do when he was teaching him, so he asked a Pakistani girl to help. This girl is nothing else, she is the heroine of the story.
Wang had the idea of marrying a Pakistani girl at a high cost, so while studying, he took the initiative to chat with Aisha. After some understanding, Wang Dacheng learned that Aisha lives in Peshawar, a city in northern Pakistan. She speaks Urdu and is not good at English. Both of them are also half a dozen.
After two months of getting along, Wang Dacheng thought he had "found true love" and was eager to see what the other person looked like. Cute Sa told him that the appearance of a Pakistani girl cannot be easily shown to others. If you want to see it, you must meet offline. So, the two had a very interesting conversation:
"I want to go to Pakistan to find you. I like you. Are you willing to marry me?"
"Come on."
"Then I'm really going."
"As long as you dare to come, I dare to marry you."
This conversation gave Wang Dacheng peace of mind. After a month of careful preparation, he asked the company for a month's leave, and then left his parents with a sentence "I'm going to get married", and embarked on the way to Pakistan.
When Wang Dacheng arrived, a riot broke out in Pakistan at a time, and Peshawar, the "world's second most dangerous city", was even more in panic. Fortunately, Wang Dacheng's Chinese identity is his natural protection. After getting off the plane, the Peshawar police divided the passengers into two groups, one of which was Chinese and the other from other countries. A Frenchman was dissatisfied and wanted to squeeze into the Chinese crowd. He was scolded by the police: " Are you Chinese? Only Chinese can get our preferential treatment ."
The third day after arriving in Peshawar, under the leadership of Elsa's cousin, Wang Dacheng finally met Elsa's family. At that time, Elsa was wearing a worn orange dress, with a thick veil wrapped around her face, revealing only her eyes.
Wang Dacheng and Aisha's cousin
To be honest, when Aisha took off her veil, Wang Dacheng only felt that the other person looked very ordinary and did not like her. As he looked at Elsa, Elsa lowered her head and smiled shyly. The scenes of the first meeting have been remembered by Dacheng until now: " Simple woman is so beautiful! "
After the first meeting, Wang Dacheng said that he would think about it for three days and sent Aisha's photo to his parents far away in China. The parents did not object and asked their son: "What do you think?"
"It's her!" Wang Dacheng replied firmly.
Unexpectedly, Aisha's parents were more anxious than Wang Dacheng. The next day, Elsa's father came to the hotel to find him and asked straight to the point: " My daughter likes you very much. Tell me, how much dowry do you want? As long as I can afford it, I will give you ."
Aisha
This is the first time that Wang Dacheng heard that the man did not pay the dowry, and the woman even compensated the dowry. There is such a good thing in the world? He no longer hesitated and agreed to the marriage on the spot. However, in order to express his respect for the woman, he still went to several banks and withdrew 40,000 yuan, and handed it to the woman's parents as the dowry.
After receiving the dowry, Aisha's father almost cried, hugged Wang Dacheng, and said with relief: "You are really the good son given to me by Allah! ”
During his time in Pakistan, Wang Dacheng and Aisha met twice. On the 15th day, he married Aisha and . After the wedding, Wang Dacheng politely rejected the precious blanket given by his father-in-law and returned to China with his wife Aisha and two boxes containing dowry.
gave birth to a mixed-race daughter but was cheated. Now he is a single father
love is not easy, and it is even more difficult to get along with each other. This is true for two people who have lived in different countries since childhood, and even more so for a couple who have had a flash marriage. Shortly after arriving in Tianjin, Wang Dacheng discovered that this Aisha was far from his imagined perfect partner.
First of all, Aisha had very poor self-care ability. She had no plans, forgot everything, and could not even remember her menstrual period. She would help wash the clothes her husband took off, but she rarely washed them. Sometimes the fruits were kept in a fruit plate for three or four days, and as long as she didn't like to eat them, she wouldn't care even if they were rotten to the point of running water.
What made Wang Dacheng even more frustrated was that his wife actually suspected her fertility and often asked him seriously: " Why did you come to Pakistan to marry me? ”
”Because I like you. "
" is not right, go check your body. "
results were checked over and over again. Wang Dacheng had no problem, but Aisha was found to have polycystic ovary syndrome , and exercise was needed to regulate hormones. But Wang Dacheng was worried. His wife didn't like exercise at all, and she was not even interested in shopping that girls liked.
Fortunately, after a long period of conditioning, Aisha finally met the conditions for conception. December 11, 2019, she gave her husband He gave birth to a mixed-race daughter named Hania.
. What Wang Dacheng didn't expect was that his wife completely let herself go after giving birth and did nothing. Even when breastfeeding, she only cares about playing with her mobile phone and asked her month nanny to hold her daughter on her chest to feed her. What's more excessive is that Aisha seems to be accustomed to using violence. As long as her daughter is disobedient, she raises her hand and slaps her daughter a few times, which makes her cry.
Wang Dacheng also found that his wife did not enjoy life in China and had no friends in China. But she is a vain person. Her best friend in her hometown had just had an abortion, and she couldn't wait to show her daughter through video until the other party cried bitterly.
The last straw that broke the camel's back was the question of whether Elsa and her daughter stayed or not. That was one day in 2020, when the epidemic was caught up, Elsa wanted to take care of her daughter I went to Pakistan and said it was safer there. But Wang Dacheng thought that my daughter was only a few months old and was not suitable for long-distance travel. Moreover, there were riots in Pakistan, which was even more unsafe. The couple had a big fight over this, and Aisha was angry and never came back.
Although Aisha did not come back, she also contacted Wang Dacheng three or four times. What she called the most was: "I miss Chinese food and Chinese air conditioners. " This made Wang Dacheng feel very angry. She missed this and that, but she did not mention their baby daughter.
However, compared with the chaos of the first marriage, Wang Dacheng was very calm this time. Seeing that the marriage was in name only, he thought of divorced Aisha. He contacted the Chinese Embassy, and the staff told him that he and Aisha had only completed the marriage procedures in Pakistan, but not in China. After the couple separated for a period of time, the marriage relationship was automatically terminated.
After so many twists and turns in life, Wang Dacheng also took it easy. In order to be a single dad, he quit his job arranged by his godfather and began to actively lose weight.From 2021 to now, he has lost 78 kilograms and returned to his normal weight of 160 kilograms.
Has it been more than two years since the divorce? He took a lot of certificates and formed his own swimming team to be a swimming coach in the team. In order to make his daughter happy, he would dress up as a mermaid princess and swim under the water. When his two-year-old daughter saw her father's appearance, she clapped her hands happily: " Dad is so amazing, dad is a mermaid princess! "
Today's Wang Dacheng often shares his daily life with his daughter on short video platforms. During this period, a friend introduced him to a partner and told him: "Don't always send a photo of you and your daughter, as it's not easy to find a partner."
But Wang Dacheng didn't think it was important. He had experienced two failed marriages and did not want to get married for the time being. He wanted to focus more on taking care of his daughter and consider his marriage when his daughter grows up.
Although Little Hania lost her maternal love, she grew up vigorously under the care of her father. Wang Dacheng said: " I want my daughter to know that her father will always shelter her from the wind and rain ."
