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Introduction: People always say that time will erase all the trauma, and one day you will forget the pain and get better. But no, some pain will never be forgotten, and some injuries will never heal.
Forgotten is a very difficult thing, because the human brain is a natural storage, and no one can completely forget without any impact.
As time goes by, we may forget some things that happened when we were young because we were not impressed enough.
But no matter how long time has passed, we can't forget the person who has touched us, because he has long been imprinted in the deepest part of our hearts.
Although we have thought of many ways to forget, and even let new people live in our hearts, we still cannot erase the past.
This discovery made us feel very panicked because we are afraid that everything in the past will affect the present and the future, but what can we do?
Forgotten is really not an easy thing. Even if this person has completely disappeared from our world, few people can forget it.
We have been forcing ourselves to forget the past and that person, but simply forcing them will not be possible.
If you are still trying to force yourself, then I hope you can understand that when you can't forget someone, you might as well do this.
When you can’t forget someone, you might as well treat him as a friend
Many times, the more desperate you try to forget someone, the deeper the mark he leaves in your heart.
Instead of forcing yourself to forget, it is better to accept the fact that you have separated and treat him as a friend.
This so-called friend does not need to ask for his consent, it is just your own choice. Even if he is unwilling to be friends with you, you can give him this identity.
Treat him as a friend is just your unilateral behavior. It doesn’t matter whether he agrees or not. Just what you think in your heart.
does this because only in this way can you accept the fact that it is no longer possible for you and start a new life again.
Friends are divided into many types, including friends who often contact, friends who don’t contact often, friends who are familiar, and friends who are strangers. You just need to treat it as strangers who often contact.
You don’t have to force yourself to forget him, and don’t ask him to come back to you anymore. Just treat him as an ordinary friend, and your life will be much better.
When you can't forget a person, you might as well turn your attention to other things
Psychological research shows that when you force yourself to forget someone, you actually pay more attention to him. This kind of attention will not only make you more painful, but also make forgetting more difficult.
If you work hard for a long time and cannot forget someone, then don’t try harder. The wisest choice is to shift your attention from forgetting to other things.
When you focus on other things, you will think of it less and less. If this continues, you may not be able to remember it for a long time.
Although you did not completely forget him, you did more and more meaningful things than before.
You can focus your time and energy on your career and then fight for your dreams. You can also go out to gather with friends more and let friends soothe your soul.
When you can’t forget someone, don’t force yourself anymore. Learn to divert your attention, and you won’t feel that bad.
When you can't forget someone, you might as well start a new relationship
It is said that the best way to cure love injuries is to start another relationship. If you can't forget someone, you can try this method.
As the saying goes, There is no fragrant grass in the world . If you cannot get happiness in a person, it does not mean that others cannot give you happiness. If you put your hope on new people, you may gain a lot.
People cannot hang themselves on a tree. Even if you really can't bear to leave, you must start over as soon as possible.
There are many ways to start over, and starting a new relationship is the most effective. Immersed in a new relationship, you have no time to recall your past relationship.
There is new warmth and a new life, how can you miss the past again?
At that time, it doesn’t matter if you can’t forget the past. As long as you can take care of the current relationship, the past people will have no impact on the past.
Conclusion: If you can't forget the past, then don't forget it. Bury it in your heart as part of your life story, and the silent past will become nourishment.
Perhaps the past experience is unforgettable, but this is just a small node in the long life.
If you take this node too important, then your other nodes have no meaning. Even if the journey of life is full of beautiful scenery, you can't see it.
People will experience many things in their lives and fall in love with many people. You cannot move forward with everything, and you cannot keep everyone you have loved.
Losing is the norm in life. Although you can’t forget it, you must be treated rationally.
If you have always forgotten someone, don’t force yourself to forget. Do these things well and your life will still be beautiful.
