Storyteller: 65-year-old Aunt Chen
My wife and I have been married for 45 years and have two sons. They have both started a family and started a career.
My wife is 6 years older than me. After we retire, we don’t have to help with children. We stayed at home and did nothing.
Our pension total is more than 8,000, and we have always lived a comfortable and comfortable life.
When we first retired, we would also travel around with groups. But as I get older, I don’t have the energy to walk around.
Especially last year, I went out to buy groceries on a rainy day, and after I slipped and fell to my waist, I didn’t want to go out even more.
My wife doesn’t like to go out, she just sits on the sofa and watches the sports channel every day.
The only exercise is to go to the balcony and water his flowers.
We have nothing to do, and we will always be a little nagging when we are old.
So we almost dislike each other at home, and we always hope that each other will do more.
plus my wife's body is getting swollen, and the frequency of snoring at night is getting higher and higher, which always wakes me up and causes my dissatisfaction.
I have had sequelae after falling down. When I turned over, I felt uncomfortable when I was sleeping, and I would wake up.
When I finally fell asleep, my wife's snoring one after another would wake me up again.
A person's poor sleep quality will greatly affect his mood the next day, so I proposed to sleep in separate rooms with him.
After hearing my suggestion, my wife was surprised and opposed.
He said that couples cannot sleep in separate rooms, otherwise the relationship will become worse and worse.
We originally had many conflicts during the day. If we separated at night, the relationship between husband and wife would break down.
He also gave me several examples, saying that he had several buddies quarreled every day because they slept with their wives. In the end, the man went out and got along with other women...
I didn't take him seriously at all.
I think it's just a simple sleeping room, not a divorce between a family, so it's not that serious. He just deliberately scared me.
What's more, everyone sleeps on their own, you can turn over anyway.
Don’t be careful when you wake up and go to the toilet, and don’t be too cold because the other party pulls too much quilt.
A person is comfortable and comfortable, so you can do whatever you want.
So I am very persistent and must be divided.
Seeing that I was firm in my attitude, my wife asked me if there was someone else outside? Do you dislike him?
I called him crazy and actually slandered me like this.
He knows my whereabouts every day, how could I do something that I am sorry for him?
Although we dislike each other, our feelings are still there, and I have never thought about anything else.
sleeps in separate rooms with him, purely because he snored every night so that I couldn't sleep well. And I can't settle for it, let alone accept it and get used to it.
People are old, and the quality of sleep is really important, which is related to health and life.
But no matter what I say, my wife doesn’t agree to sleep in separate rooms.
But he couldn't interfere with my behavior, so I moved my things to the next room myself.
In order to make my sleeping environment better, I carefully arranged the room later.
He was fancy and never gave me quilt covers and decorations, and I put them one by one in my room.
I think that is my world, and I can dress up whatever I want.
Just when I was satisfied with having my own privacy space, our husband and wife relationship became worse and worse.
Since we went to bed in separate rooms, my wife has been reluctant to talk to me, and she will only send me WeChat if you have any questions.
At first I thought he was just angry, and it would be fine if the weather cleared in two days.
But who knew that after more than a week, he still kept a stern face every day and didn't give me a good look.
In the past, he didn't cook or sweep the floor, but he would help start the meal or collect clothes and fold them.
But later, he became a hand-off manager and ignored everything.
He used to not like to go out, but then he went out after breakfast during the day and went home for dinner at night.
went back to the room and closed the door after eating, and it was the same when I didn't exist.
I never know where he went during the day.
called him to ask if he would go home for lunch, and he would not answer the message on the phone.
Later I heard from neighbors in the community that my wife goes to the park to dance every day, why don’t I go?
She also said that seeing my wife and a girl is very good, and she is a dance partner of ballroom dance every day.
She told me to be more careful and don’t get snatched away from my husband when he gets old.
I also questioned him about this. But he said he was free and I had no right to interfere.
It seems that he has no right to interfere with me and is willing to sleep in separate rooms.
He also said, "Since you like to have independent space so much, if you want to sleep separately from me, then you can divide it. Let's go to divorce now, not only sleep with each other, but also live their own lives. It would be great not to disturb each other!"
In order to have a good sleep, I took care of him and took care of this family the next day, so I slept with him in separate rooms.
Not only did he not understand me and felt sorry for me, but he also filed for divorce from me because of a female dance partner...
I was suddenly disappointed and heartbroken.
Looking at his inhumane appearance, I really want to reply to him: If you leave, you will be separated, whoever is afraid of whom!
But when I got to my mouth, I swallowed it back.
We have lived together for 45 years and have long been dependent on each other. We cannot just say that we can divide it.
What's more, we are all at this age. If we make a divorce because of a woman, it would be embarrassing to tell her about it!
It is not easy to maintain a marriage, so I chose to endure it.
However, my forbearance did not exchange for his gratitude, but instead resulted in his increasing excessiveness.
He started not home at night, and when he got home, he would let the female dance partner wait downstairs.
His circle of friends also often posts photos of the female dance partner, and he doesn't take me seriously at all.
He seemed to take revenge on me on purpose, always doing a lot of things that annoy me and ignoring my wife's existence.
The sons and relatives all took turns to talk about him, but he blamed me for all his sins.
said I don’t want him first, and gave him this opportunity to make a mistake.
He even said that when I first proposed to sleep in separate rooms, I already had a ghost in my heart and wanted to betray him.
Otherwise, I knew there would be such a result, so why did I continue to divide the house at the beginning...
He said it further and further, as if everything was arranged on purpose.
evolved into such a result, as if it was caused by me alone knowingly...
I couldn't bear it anymore for him to be unreasonable and distorted right and wrong, and accepted his request for divorce.
That's it. After we split the bed for half a year, we ended this marriage of more than 40 years.
I never thought we would divorce. I was very unwilling to give up, but I was helpless.
Others and hearts are no longer with me, what's the point of keeping them?
I regret that I shouldn’t have proposed to sleep in a separate room, but I personally ruined our marriage.
, but what's the use of regretting it now? No matter how much regret it, what's the use?
I can no longer save this relationship because he has lived happily with the female dance partner.
The happier they are, the loneliness I am.
