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There is a saying, it is very important
Many people will say:
" When people reach middle age, most of them live either for the older generation or for the next generation, like a gyro, they just rotate blindly, but no circle is for themselves."
Yes, what are the most feared by middle-aged people?
Perhaps it is because men are afraid of career and women are afraid of divorce.
So, there is no time to consider such illusory words as "love".
Think about it, the "gossip" we hear most often in our daily life.
Most of the men were all alone before and had always been doing well, but suddenly one day they were fired, or laid off, losing their jobs in middle age, which is so sad.
Most of the women are a woman who often shows her love and husband, but suddenly her husband cheats on her, and some even have children with her mistress. She doesn't want to divorce, but she still wants to divorce.
In short, there is no happy and encouraging news.
Women are afraid of betrayal, and men are afraid of failure.
So, at this time, it is simply a fantasy to say something as romantic as "love".
Everyone is afraid of aging.
Aging means that women want beauty to be old and men want heroes to be short of breath. Halfway through life, the heroes of cannot save the beauty, and the romance and love of have become a passing cloud.
However, we all overlook one thing, that is, everyone has emotions and thoughts, and they all need to be mentally and physically healing and satisfaction.
Therefore, for middle-aged men and women, the key to having love lies in this sentence: communicate with each other and rely on each other.
Without heart-to-heart talk, it is difficult to have love; without relying on it, it is difficult to have long-lasting relationships.
-02-
People are middle-aged and rely on each other, so they have a home
Maybe when we were young, we all thought that being able to meet the person we like was a fate given by God.
But after middle age, I realized that never getting tired of getting along with each other is the true meaning of love.
A few days ago, a female reader left a message saying:
"I just completed the divorce procedures, but there was no turmoil in my heart. We two have been separated from each other for many years and are inseparable. My life is the same. After so many years, I haven't seen him get much money back, but this family has long become a hotel."
all say that companionship is a confession of love.
But there are many people who, on the contrary, for the sake of their home and for their children to make money outside, forget that the person next to them needs his comfort.
people are middle-aged and have someone by their side, so they are considered a home!
In ancient times, women marrying their husbands means dressing and eating. In modern times, as long as women return home, they must transform from a workplace expert to a gentle mother, a filial daughter, and a virtuous and quiet wife.
In ancient times, men took on the responsibility of supporting their families by marrying their wives. In modern times, when men opened their eyes, they were all kinds of things, including mortgage loans, car loans, children studying, suits and ties during the day, and when they got home at night, they just wanted to lie on the sofa to rest.
It can be seen that love has reached the modern times, two people help each other and rely on each other.
Let’s carry the storm outside the house together; do the housework at home together; let’s bear all the trivialities at home together.
The mutual advice before going out and the smile when doing housework is "romance in love".
Life is realistic, the years are vast, you used to be alone and your whole family is not hungry, and you rely on each other now.
The years are quiet and peaceful, and it means that two people walk side by side and slowly.
-03-
Middle-aged men and women, intersect each other, and love will come uninvited
Too many people are wearing masks and dating people.
The people around you come and go, and you can only be a free and true self in front of the person you love.
Love someone. Only by communicating with each other can you last for a long time, especially between men and women in the past.
The interaction between people, the first thing you look like makes you want to know depends on the sincerity between each other; and what can make you love and make you want to be with him all the time depends on the person who has inner self and can communicate with each other.
Perhaps, he has the talent and money to attract you, but he is taciturn and even indifferent when facing you. For such a man, you will always be inseparable from love.
Perhaps, she attracts your beauty and gentleness, but when you are with you, you are hiding your heart and never telling the truth. For such a woman, you will never really fall in love with each other.
Heart-to-heart talk seems simple, but in fact it is the most difficult.
In the circle of friends, there is a man who is a typical "wife is strictly managed".
Whenever I go back late, I will definitely call my wife first, and remind her to go to bed early and not worry about him. His family’s money must be kept by his wife.
He said: I know her so well. In fact, she doesn’t spend any money on her, but I know she is happy.
It can be seen that the heart-to-heart talk between middle-aged men and women is to communicate with each other, understand each other, be tolerant, and want to make each other happy.
She understands him very well, and every frown he frowned; he understands her very well, and every smile she smiles.
She understands him very well, every sigh he sighs very well; he understands her very well, every look she looks.
Love seems to be difficult, but it will come uninvited in every detail of getting along with.
-04-
The more you are together, the more you will have "love"
There is a couple around you. They have been married for more than ten years, but whenever a man sees his wife, this northern man will smile shyly on his face and have a happy expression.
In today's anxiety, it is really rare for people to smile when they are not holding their phones, but smiling at their wife.
still remembers that he mentioned:
When he was poor, he would wear a white shirt back and forth. His wife would wash it for him every night when she got home. She ironed it before he went out in the morning to make it clean and refreshing every day.
Later, his business grew bigger and bigger and he made money. The first thing his wife did was to go to the mall to buy him three suits in a row, which made him feel very moved.
The man said: Without my wife, there would be no me now. In this life, the person I cannot live without most is her.
is visible. The more you really match the middle-aged man and woman, the more you will be together, the more you will have love.
will not be separated from each other because of the amount of money, nor will the hearts not be able to communicate because the gap between the two people is too far.
Because they will rely on each other, communicate with each other, show their own truth, and make their lives better and better together.
is like the love between Sanmao and Jose . Many of the things Sanmao does are incredible in the eyes of others, but in Jose, everything is very ordinary.
people are middle-aged, and it is somewhat difficult to take time to "love" seriously. However, when we spend time together day and night, because of the other party's existence, both of us are full of expectations for every day.
Living life means she is willing to play games with you, you are willing to accompany her to do housework; she is willing to finish her work and do housework, you are willing to go home early to share with her; he is willing to go out early to send you to work, you are willing to go home to make soup for him at night; he is willing to make you happy when you are angry, and you are willing to give him more understanding when quarrels.
The love between middle-aged men and women is to communicate with each other and rely on each other in every detail.
Author, calm fox
picture, online
May you find the deep affection in my words in the ordinary years! Thanks for your attention!
