The way to bring people closer together is, in addition to chatting and eating, it is probably visiting each other;
There are many people who like to visit other people's houses in their spare time to promote relationships and enhance understanding;
Interpersonal communication requires understanding basic rules and politeness. Other people's houses are not their own exclusiveness, so you naturally have to consider and be cautious when visiting each other;
Whether a person's emotional intelligence is high can be seen through visiting each other.
People with truly high emotional intelligence will do the details when visiting other people's homes, and will win the master's heart when they speak and do things, and will not cause trouble for others;
They can not only establish a good reputation for themselves, but also take care of the other party's feelings and establish a close and friendly relationship with the other party, so that they can add an emotional connection in this world.
Generally speaking, people who visit other people's houses and like to do the following 4 things often have high emotional intelligence and are worth learning.
says hello in advance, indicating the time to visit
Every family always has to deal with many trivial matters in their spare time, sometimes tutoring their children's homework, sometimes taking care of the elderly, sometimes busy working overtime, or making up for sleep;
People with high emotional intelligence will say hello in advance before visiting someone else's house, maybe a few days in advance, or at least call in advance to ask if the other party is free;
gets the other party's readily agreed and then visits; otherwise, they will make an appointment with someone else.
If you come to the door rashly, it will disrupt the pace of life in other people's homes and catch the other party off guard;
informs in advance, on the one hand, it will give the other party a time to prepare, such as cleaning up the house, making plans and arrangements;
on the other hand, it will express your politeness and respect, and give the other party a positive impression;
is best to inform in advance, you will visit your family. Time;
Because some people are hospitable, maybe you were going to their house to sit for a while, but the other party enthusiastically arranged a table of good wine and good food. You couldn't help but choose. I hope you will leave after eating;
If you have something to do, you have to get up and leave, and sweep the other party's face.
So, before visiting, take the initiative to consult the other party in advance and tell the length and time of the visit, which is a sign of high human relationships.
No matter how far apart the relationship is, bringing things to the door
to visit someone else's house, no matter what, it takes up the other party's time;
So, based on the principle of reciprocity, no matter how far apart the relationship with the other party, please carry things to the door, and don't be empty-handed;
On the one hand, it expresses your respect, and on the other hand, it also conveys your feelings and sincerity;
Others may not care much about whether the gifts you bring are valuable, but if you don't have such a deep friendship with the other party and always go empty-handed, it is inevitable that people will feel that you don't understand the worldly ways and lack some cultivation.
In fact, the gifts brought when visiting are not necessarily very expensive, and there is no need to be many. It is best to choose based on the other party’s identity and deep feelings with you. If you can meet your preferences, it would be better;
In " Beijing Love Story ", Shao Huayang pretended to be the boyfriend of Lin Xia and went to her house to visit. He knew in advance that Lin Xia’s father liked orchid , so he bought a pot in advance to express his respect for his elders;
So, regardless of your relationship or distantness, please use gifts to visit other people’s houses.
Do not evaluate other people’s homes at will, do not move other people’s homes’ items and decorations
The premise for people to get along well with each other is to respect the other person’s privacy and space, not disturb others at will, and do not point fingers;
Then, when visiting other people’s homes, do not evaluate other people’s homes at will;
Everyone’s pursuits are different, and their cognition and taste are also different;
Even if your aesthetics are different and your consumption concepts are different, don’t point fingers at other people’s houses, decorations, and placement of items;
If you have better suggestions, you can say it tactfully, instead of making arbitrary decisions, or show your contempt and sneer.
There are also people who treat themselves as their masters when visiting other people's houses, and habitually move here and touch there;
This will inevitably make others feel that you are too disrespectful to others, and even violate other people's privacy, making people feel bored;
People with cultivation will not evaluate other people's homes at will, nor will they be able to automatically place other people's homes without permission or need.
Everyone is adult. When visiting other people's homes, you must understand basic etiquette and not treat yourself too much as an acquaintance in the eyes of others and forget it.
instead, you must abide by the rules, maintain basic cultivation, learn to think from the perspective of others, do more things that make the other party comfortable and make yourself happy;
in this way, the other party will feel your respect and sincerity, welcome you more enthusiastically, and communicate with you with confidence.
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