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at the beginning:
I still remember there was a discussion on the Internet, what is the thing women want to hear most when they are sick?
Someone said: As long as it is not " drink more hot water ", you can do whatever you say.
Someone said: Where, I will pick you up to the hospital.
Someone said: Open the door, I'm at the door.
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can be seen. Every sentence reveals the true psychology of a woman: don’t just talk, but act.
No one doesn’t like being held in the palm of others. Everyone hopes to be deeply loved by the other person in their relationship.
But, unfortunately, life is realistic.
There are always people who regard love as a pastime, there are always people who regard love as a challenge, and there are also people who find someone to love for their own selfish desires and satisfaction.
How many women are confused about a love, just because men are cold and warm to her, they can never reply to her WeChat, they always don’t answer her phone, they always talk and laugh with other women...
How many men are numb to a sacrifice, just because women are lukewarm to him, they always ignore him, they always ask him to buy things, and they always don’t take him seriously...
So, the woman cried and told her to meet a scumbag, and the man argued that there were too many things for women.
In fact, in love, don’t be so serious.
After all, everyone still needs to live, everyone is very busy, no one will be so idle, and take a person's twenty-four hours to heart.
However, in the relationship between the two genders, there is a detail that allows you to feel that a person loves you very much, that is, whenever you encounter something, he will definitely bear it with you.
In the world of love, you must be sober. Everyone is realistic when you live, but you will only care about the person you love deeply.
is like, when our parents and family are in big trouble, they will immediately put aside whatever they are doing, try their best to come to you and help you solve the problem. The same is true for your lover.
Maybe on weekdays, he is taciturn, he ignores you, and he always rarely accompany you... But when you encounter problems, he will immediately come to you as if he is in trouble, and try his best to help you get out of the sea of suffering and bear it with you.
-02-
The healing of love lies in the fact that they "have difficulties together"
There is a saying "husband and wife are birds in the same forest, but when the disaster strikes, they fly together."
How many men and women are talking sweetly when they are in love, but one side is in trouble and they are separated immediately.
In fact, to put it bluntly, the so-called "difficulty" is either that there is a conflict of interest between the two parties, or that one party needs the other party to pay more, concessions, and tolerantly than usual, and even a burden for the rest of his life.
So, the depth of feelings is clearest and clearest when "in encountering things".
is like, when we look at " Charlotte Troubles ", no woman will like girls like Qiuya , and no one will want to be Ma Dongmei who loves Charlotte deeply.
only because Qiu Ya loves selfishly, and Ma Dongmei loves too selflessly.
Charlotte pursues Qiuya just for skin satisfaction, and she truly developed love with Ma Dongmei.
Because, when he needed her, Ma Dongmei always kept him behind her and "had a hard time" with him. Even if she wanted to "go to go to the woods" with Chen Kai, she was not afraid.
loves so much, but the young Charlotte doesn't know how to cherish it at all. It was not until he went back to time and achieved success and fame that he saw the good and evil of human nature around him, and when he saw the coldness of the world, he suddenly realized that his true love was placed beside him, but he lost it.
So, after middle age, Charlotte returned to modern times, lived under the healing of Ma Dongmei's love.
It can be seen that a love that "has the same as hardships" is like a lamp lit in the dark night, which not only illuminates the scenery around you, but also brings warmth in your heart.
A "If you have something to do, just go to your side" is definitely the one who loves you to the core.
-03-
A person who "when you encounter something, you are never here", does not love you much
Many people who take the initiative to leave, in fact, it is not because they don't love you anymore, but because they are too disappointed.
I still remember that I saw a post.
The woman sprained her foot on the way off work. She called her boyfriend, but was told that the other party was working overtime and asked her to take a taxi to the hospital by herself.
The woman took a taxi to the hospital, and then limped to go through various procedures. Her feet hurt so much that they were heartbroken. Then, the nurse gave her an injection, and it happened to be an intern nurse. She didn't even get into her blood vessels after several injections. The woman instantly broke down and cried with a wow.
The person next to him was surprised and said that the young people today are really pretentious.
The woman took out her cell phone, called the man, crying and telling her grievances, but the man was the same as others: Can you not be like a child? Why do you cry if you get an injection?
Then, after the woman got the needle, she went directly to her best friend's house and proposed to break up with her boyfriend.
Some people say that men want to make money, how can they guard you every day? This little injury will be cured slowly.
However, Zhang Ailing once said: If a woman is not by her side when she needs you, then you will no longer have to be by her side in the future.
Love, for everyone, it is really not about speaking, but about using practical actions to influence the other party.
In a woman's heart, perhaps, she can survive a lot of hardships when she is single, but if she has you by her side and you are so numb and cold when she needs it, then most of the time, she will choose to give up on you.
In fact, human nature is very simple.
cares about a person and will not let him go.
A love, if there is too much perfunctory, less "caring", less "sincere", less "heart-to-heart", then most of the time, there is only love between two people "on the surface" and there is not much love inside.
-04-
Love needs to be "given to each other" to love for a long time
Zhang Ailing loved Hu Lancheng and responded to his requests.
Hu Lancheng had no money, so she gave him money, and even when she broke up, she gave him all her royalties.
loves deeply and deeply.
But true love needs to be given to each other.
Only when two people encounter wind and rain, they can hold an umbrella together to withstand the strong wind and keep warm to each other, and not be afraid of the cold that is wet by the rain.
is like, in a movie, if only one person is playing a one-man show, and another person blindly seeks or gives, it will end up with a tragic ending.
Love does not have to be rewarded, but both parties must "get things together" when they encounter them.
When one party encounters something, the other party may not be able to really help, but it must give that party the attitude of "I am by your side".
You are kind to me, I feel sorry for you, so that love can settle down.
The world is vast and bumpy for life.
In love, a person's greatest confidence is that when you encounter something, you are not panicked because you know that someone will bear it with you.
Snow life, cold and cold are impermanent.
In love, a person's best vow is that when you encounter something, you are still arrogant because you understand that someone will know your warmth and coldness and your joys and sorrows.
Author, calm fox
picture, online
May you find the deep affection in my words in the ordinary years! Thanks for your attention!
