Introduction:
In today's society, most elderly people support themselves in their old age. When they are reborn, they save the money and leave the remaining money to their children only after they die.
Because they are also afraid, they are afraid to give their money to their children in advance. When they are sick in their later years, their children are not around and cannot provide emergency funds in time.
So now many parents want to wait for their own departure before giving their money to their children. When they are alive, as long as they don’t get sick, they won’t spend much money, especially for the elderly in Longcun . They grow vegetables themselves, which are green and environmentally friendly.
But young people are under great pressure now, and a small number of young people always want to get some money from their parents to relieve their pressure.
But will the old man really not be upset about this approach? An old man confided: "In his later years, my son-in-law took me to retire, but I didn't expect it was for my money." Let's take a look at the old man's experience.
70-year-old grandmother Wang’s self-report:
I am 70 years old this year and live in Luoyang, Henan . After marriage, I gave birth to a son and a daughter. My husband died when I was 65 years old. Now I live a life of living alone like other single elderly people.
Although my husband and I were the matchmakers of our parents’ orders, we have always been respectful to each other after marriage. My husband is about ten years older than me and I am very aware of it. It is also a very lucky thing for me to follow him in my life.
When we were young, we worked very hard. We were both born in the mountains. In order to give our children a better living environment, after the reform, we began to leave our hometown and look for jobs in big cities.
The first time I left my home, I was not familiar with the place outside, and at first I didn’t even have a place to live, and I stayed on the street all night.
At that time, I was glad that the child was given to my mother-in-law and didn’t have to take the child to suffer with us.
I have been wandering outside for about a week. Thinking that it is really not a solution to continue like this, my husband and I went to a crowded place to set up street stalls and sell some children's toys, and sell whatever they want.
has been working for a long time, and we also know the ways in it. Our business is getting better and better. It took almost two years from setting up a street stall to renting a storefront, from selling toys, gradually selling children's clothing.
The business is getting better and better, and our lives are getting better and better. Later, I bought a two-bedroom and one-living second-hand house in the city, which is really out of the hard days of the past.
The two children are also quite successful and both live the lives they want. The daughter is married in the village next door and is very close to home. The son is determined to be far away and does not want to be trapped in this remote mountainous area. So he bought a house outside and settled in a big city.
Originally, I thought it would be fine. I didn’t have to worry about my two children in my later years. My husband and I just need to live a good life.
But I never expected that my husband would leave in front of me in my old age. Fortunately, I still have some savings on myself over the years. Even if no one provides me with my old age in my old age, I can provide myself with my old age.
I just didn’t expect that in my later years, not only did my husband leave in front of me, but I also wanted to send a white-haired person to a black-haired person.
My daughter also had gastric cancer Walking in front of me, she is still so young, I really can't accept her departure.
My husband's departure and my daughter's departure caused me to suffer a double blow. Many times I think it's so unfair to go to heaven. I have never done anything evil in my life, but these things always come to me.
In the years after my husband and daughter left, I felt that I was mentally distracted and my health was not good. In this way, in my later years, I needed someone to take care of me several years in advance.
When I first discussed this matter with my son, I was very scared because I was afraid that my daughter-in-law would like to dislike me as a rough man.
plus the place where my son lives is so far away. I am afraid that if I am unhappy in living, it will be inconvenient to come back.
I began to worry about the issue of elderly care, and my heart began to become anxious.
But that day, my son-in-law came to see me. I originally thought that my daughter had passed away and my son-in-law would not come to our house again. I really didn't expect him to come to see me again. This was an unexpected surprise.
When my son-in-law got home, he asked me how I was in good health and told me if I had ever thought about my retirement?
also said, "If my brother is far away, mom will go to my house to support me."
"This... is not suitable. After all, you are still young and you still have a long way to go in the future. You will reorganize your family again. If I go, it will affect your life."
"No, you are my mother, how can it affect my life? As for my future life, it is not something you should worry about."
I was actually very moved when I heard my son-in-law's words, but I have a son myself. Now many sons are not reliable, so how can my son-in-law be reliable.
But over the years, the son-in-law has been good to his daughter and family, but he still has to discuss with his son about his retirement.
My son still has a good impression of this brother-in-law. When he heard his brother-in-law say this, he felt that his sister insisted on marrying her was the most correct choice.
also said to me on the phone: "Mom, I think my brother-in-law's proposal is very good, and I can trust my own people. I am far away from here. Although my brother-in-law is not your own son, my brother-in-law is still very good to our family over the years. He intends to support you in retirement. I think you can consider it."
"In this way, I will basically give my brother-in-law the money in the future. Because he is the one who provides me with retirement, I can't treat him badly. Can you accept me giving the money to your brother-in-law?"
"This is what it should be. Whoever provides you with retirement will give you the money."
son is generous, but after he really arrives at the son-in-law's house, things begin to become uncontrollable. After discussing with my son-in-law, I moved to my son-in-law's house. After I went there, I found that my son-in-law had already found another one.
The children did not live with them, but sent the children to grandma's house to raise them.
Seeing this scene, I turned around and prepared to leave, but at the moment I left, my son-in-law's new wife suddenly stepped forward and held my hand and said, "Auntie, I've come here, so stay. I know you feel embarrassed, but I will treat you like a mother-in-law."
Seeing that I was so enthusiastic, I couldn't refuse, so I finally decided to take care of my son-in-law's house for a while. After all, my current body really needs someone to take care of.
During the two months of retirement in my son-in-law's house, I have always been very reserved because many of the different habits, and it is not when my daughter is still there.
But the son-in-law and his new wife are really good. Every time they cook, they do it according to my taste. I am actually very embarrassed.
But in the third month, I heard their conversation and felt extremely complicated.
That night, I was going to the bathroom. Next to the bathroom was the master bedroom of my son-in-law. The house was not particularly soundproof. I heard my son-in-law and his new wife say in the room:
"You are a mother-in-law, you are very good. You have been at home for so long, and you still take the initiative to pay a thousand living expenses every month."
son-in-law replied: "This old lady is rich and understands it. We are kind to her. After getting all the savings on her body, she let her go home and serve such an old woman every day. Her diet is different. I am almost annoyed."
I thought that my son-in-law took me to retire with integrity, but I didn't expect it to be just for my money.
At the beginning, I thought that if my son-in-law really wants to support me in his old age, most of the money would definitely be given to him, but I didn't expect that he would have such a heart.
thought of driving me out after I had finished consuming the money, and I definitely couldn't accept it.
The most important thing between people is to treat the sincerity sincerely. Since the son-in-law does not treat me sincerely, it is meaningless for me to stay here. He is neither sincere nor I want to give him the money.
After I found out, I found a reason to leave my son's house. After leaving, I thought about going to my son's house, but I seemed a little unwilling to hear what my son meant last time. Later, I directly found a nursing home and lived the life of my own happiness.
Conclusion:
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