Emotional Tu Lei said in the program: "The most basic quality of a man is to bear. If you live with a man who is unwilling to bear, it is the greatest sorrow of a woman. You cannot enjoy the care of a man, and no one will share the pressure of life for you."
Men are responsible, caring for their wives and children, and giving their wives and children a stable and secure life is the most basic requirement for women to husbands. I don’t want to follow you to live a wealthy and enviable life. However, if you can’t even ensure that your wife and children are not wronged and your life is not blocked, and you are not responsible, how can a woman be happy to spend the rest of her life with you?
The responsibility of a man is reflected in many aspects, among which, reconciling the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a very important point. A woman marrying you is for happiness, working hard with you toward a common goal, not to be a free nanny in your house, but also being angry with your parents.
Don’t talk about it. I’m embarrassed to say harsh words to them. Rejecting parents is unfilial. In fact, filial piety to parents is to respond to their requests and obey their orders. It is different.
Protecting your own wife and children, rejecting unreasonable demands from parents, and asking parents to respect their wives is the obligation of being a husband.
As the screenwriter of "Double-Side Sticker" Liuliu once said: "In a trivial life, what women care about most is often not how to resolve the contradiction itself, but whether the husband is standing behind you in the process of resolving the contradiction."
If you have the responsibility, fulfill your man's responsibilities, and do not let your wife and children be wronged, then your wife will at least feel that you have not married the wrong person and can see hope of going on. If her husband makes her feel satisfied, she will not be bored and petty with her mother-in-law. At most, she will not care about your parents and will not stop you from respecting her parents.
"I have been to my wife's house three times, but she refuses to forgive me and insists on divorce. Alas, can I blame me? I know my mother did too much and hurt my wife and daughter, but she is my mother after all!"
Seeing that the family of three is about to end, Mr. Yang was anxious, but he still did not forget to keep the words "She is my mother after all" on his lips.
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Mr. Yang's marriage is in crisis precisely because of the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
"My mother gave birth to two children, one son and one daughter. I am the only seed of the old Yang family. The old Yang family relies on me to carry on the family line. However, my wife has been married to me for six years and has only given birth to one daughter. It is normal for my mother to be anxious!"
4 years ago, Mr. Yang's daughter was born. Mr. Yang, who had been staying in the hospital and waiting for the good news of her grandson's birth, was so angry that her face turned green when she learned that she was a girl. She went back to her hometown without looking back. She neither served her daughter-in-law during confinement nor took care of her granddaughter.
Mr. Yang's wife has a younger brother and is married. Her sister-in-law was pregnant at the time and her mother couldn't get rid of her. So, the wife had to go to confinement by herself and took care of her daughter. She fell ill with confinement and had never recovered.
However, Mr. Yang's parents ignored him and gave birth to a second child whenever he had time. From the fact that his daughter-in-law was still in confinement to now, putting pressure on Mr. Yang and his wife.
"Not to say whether my health is suitable for a second child. Even if I am willing to have a child, who will take care of him after the child is born? If your parents refuse to take care of me, I will not be able to go out to work. With your income, can I support our family? Don't forget that we are still renting a house!"
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Mr. Yang and his wife are college classmates. The two have been in love for two years and plan to get married as soon as they graduate.
Although they also want to own a house in this big city, it is very difficult. Mr. Yang's family is average, his parents' salary is not high, and he has spent almost all of his money to support his two children, and he has no savings at all. Mr. Yang's wife's family is not very good. In addition, she has a younger brother at home. Although her parents do not value boys over girls, they cannot afford to buy a house for their daughter.
"When we got married, she only had a 60,000 yuan gift, which was left to her parents, and nothing else was asked for. We have been renting a house and getting married now. My salary is not high, from four or five thousand at the beginning to seven or eight thousand now. However, if you want to buy a house, it is undoubtedly a drop in the bucket!"
The couple have always dreamed of buying a house. However, if Mr. Yang's wife can go out to work, the two can still save some money. If Mr. Yang's wife needs to stay at home to take care of the children, relying on Mr. Yang's income alone, the money saved is not much.
"But if you don't give birth, my parents will cry endlessly, saying that after they die, Wuyan will go to see the ancestors and ancestors. Seeing my parents in such pain, it is not easy for me to work with peace of mind! Don't worry, I have agreed with my parents that no matter whether this child is a boy or a girl, they will not say anything else and will help us take care of the children."
Mr. Yang tried hard to persuade his wife, but his wife still refused to give in. First of all, she can be sure that she can guarantee that she will give birth to a man or a woman. Once her second child is still giving birth to a daughter, her parents-in-law will still not give up. Secondly, over the past few years, I have suffered a lot of grievances and have been forced to become a full-time housewife. I have been troubled by my parents-in-law countless times. Every time I hope that my husband can stand up and protect him. However, every time, Mr. Yang stands on his parents' side, persuades him to compromise and make him tolerate. "That's my parents after all." She doesn't know how many times she has heard of this, and she has long been disappointed with her husband.
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No matter how Mr. Yang persuaded him, his wife refused to give up and give birth to a second child: "In the current situation at home, isn't it irresponsible to have a child? I can't even live a stable life. After the child is born, don't you have to suffer the same hardship as us? Don't say that your parents will take care of my children, I dare not believe your parents and your parents' promises."
Seeing that his son could not handle his daughter-in-law, Mr. Yang's parents were anxious and packed up their things, went to their son's house, and lived in, so that they could give birth from morning to night.
Seeing the uninvited parents-in-law and seeing the husband's dodging eyes, Mr. Yang's wife was extremely disappointed. Not only did her in-laws live in with confidence, she did not do anything, but also started educating her daughter-in-law since early on, asking her if she was pregnant, and throwing out all the contraceptive tools at home.
Mr. Yang's wife refused to let go and insisted on not having a second child. The relationship between the two parties was tense. At this time, Mr. Yang's mother completely destroyed her son's small family with one move.
"That day, my daughter celebrated her birthday, my wife bought meat and made her favorite braised pork for my daughter. As soon as my daughter picked up the meat, my mother knocked off her chopsticks and chopped the meat into her own bowl. She also said that losing money is worth eating meat, which made my daughter cry."
hugged her crying daughter. Mr. Yang's wife looked at her husband with cold eyes and asked her husband whether her parents wanted her parents to get out or whether they were mother and daughter. Seeing that her husband was silent, the wife left with her daughter in her arms. Mr. Yang's parents were still shouting behind, saying that the daughter-in-law could not give birth to a son and should have got out long ago.
"I know very well that in my case, if I divorce, it will be difficult to remarry. In fact, my parents also know that they didn't want me to divorce, they just wanted to hold my grandson."
But, it's too late. Two months after the conflict, my wife's heart is as hard as a stone and insists on divorce. Mr. Yang's family of three has become one.
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There is a saying on the Internet: A good mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship may not necessarily be helpful for maintaining marriage; a bad mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is definitely the last straw that overwhelms the marriage.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be so bad that it is hopeless, which shows how incompetent this man is and how disappointed his wife.
In marriage, from beginning to end, the husband is the one who cares most. The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not scary, what is scary is the conflict between husband and wife. And your inaction is the last straw that crushes your marriage.
You want to be a filial son and want to obey your parents. Yes, then don’t get married, don’t harm the innocent, and don’t let your wife become a victim of your filial piety to your parents and unclearity.
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