Preface
" Book of Rites " says: "It is not polite to go but not come; it is not polite to come but not come but not coming."
Dinners are particularly important to us as an indispensable part of our daily lives. After all, people cannot live without eating. Eating is not only to meet our physiological needs, but also an important way for relatives and friends to connect with each other, to enhance communication and promote cooperation. Therefore, the social etiquette of dinner parties is particularly important to us. In different occasions, there are different requirements. When others invite you to dinner, remember "five don'ts," otherwise your popularity will get worse and worse. What does "five don't" mean? Let's take a look together!
Don't be picky
"hard to adjust everyone", Everyone has different tastes, so it is difficult for a meal to satisfy everyone. The so-called "guests follow the host's convenience" , guests must act according to the host's convenience or arrangement.
When someone invited us to dinner, in his mind, there was actually a clear menu. To show politeness and respect, we had to ask what we wanted to eat. At this time, we should understand the owner’s implications and let the owner decide.
In addition, when eating, if the dishes on the table are not your favorite taste and don’t like to eat them very much, don’t say them in front of everyone, otherwise it will easily cause both parties to fall into an embarrassing situation and cause unpleasant experiences.
You must remember that for us, it doesn’t matter where we eat and what we eat. What’s important is that others’ desire to invite you to dinner should not be disappointed.
Don't be overwhelmed
The word "overwhelmed till the main" originated from "Russian Cheng Diary", which refers to the voice of the guest overwhelming the owner's voice, which is a metaphor for foreign or secondary things that occupy the original or major things.
On the dining table, there are certain rules for the arrangement of seats. When we are treated to dinner by others, we must pay attention to the order of seats, have some "eye strength" and never be a middle-aged guest. If you easily sit where the host should sit, the organizer of this meal will be faceless, and you will seem too "scattered" and always want to be the protagonist. More importantly, you will be misunderstood by others, and you will be misunderstood as the "host".
Not to overestimate the main thing is the most important point in the dining table etiquette. More importantly, the consequence of doing so is the manifestation of our own low quality and low emotional intelligence. Too much ostentatious can easily cause disgust among others and also affect our social relationships.
Don’t call other strangers
by our side, we have also had this situation! When others treat us to dinner, we originally had good intentions and wanted to take our friends to see the world, or make more friends, and we took our friends over without saying hello. But they don’t know that the person who treats the guests on the surface doesn’t say anything, but in fact they think it’s difficult for you to get along with and make decisions without taking others seriously.
For such occasions, it is better to go to the appointment alone. Unless the host clearly agrees to bring friends, you will not only destroy the atmosphere of the party, but will also leave a bad impression on the host.
Don't be empty-handed
South Korean President Kim Dae-jung once said: "The gift expresses the warmest and most beautiful feelings between people."
The so-called " gift is light and affection is heavy and ". When others invite us to dinner, we bring some fruits or drinks appropriately to respect others.
When we visit other people's houses, we often hear a sentence like "Just be fine when you come, don't buy anything." Over time, we all know that this is just a "greeting word". When the other party receives the gift you bring, it will definitely be filled with joy on his face. He will feel that you pay great attention to etiquette and know how to deal with people and things, and will be more willing to date you.
Don’t show off too much
Lin Yutang said: “If you have ten cents on your waist, you must make a sound. It is one of the ten bad habits in society."
With the development of the times, class reunions have become an important way for old classmates to meet and chat. However, in recent years, there have been endless people showing off their wealth, rich connections, stable work, and happy marriage. Little do they know that this will not only be disliked by classmates, destroy their image in the hearts of classmates, but also destroy the original good friendship between classmates.
at the dinner table, for us, showing off is even more taboo. We should not let others down because of our bold words. A kindness of human intention.
is written at the end
We live in this world, and we must socialize and meet more people. As social animals that can think independently, people must also have their own right and wrong standards. You cannot only focus on yourself, but also think more about others. No matter how happy you are, or how close your relationship is, you should pay special attention to some social etiquette. Otherwise, it will be easy to make the other party have a bad impression of you, affect your deep friendship, and gradually get farther and farther away.
