people should be sociable?
Most people think that if you are not sociable, just be yourself.
As Haruki Murakami said: "If you don't have a friend, then congratulations, it proves that you are mature."
From this point of view, loneliness is not loneliness, it is just that living in the vast world is like a breeze.
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Life is getting more and more lonely.
Northern Song When Su Shi was just demoted to Huangzhou, his life was very hard and he had no place to live.
An old friend Ma Zhengqing asked local officials to allocate dozens of acres of wasteland to Su Dongpo for him to farm himself.
The tiger falls into the sun and is bullied by the dog.
Although Su Shi is famous, his life is so down and out, who would look up to him? Therefore, his back of working with his family is particularly lonely.
Su Shi, who is optimistic in nature, wrote many songs "Dongpo" to make everyone happy.
"The rain washes the moonlight on the Dongpo, and the city walks all the wild people walk" . When a person gets used to loneliness, he sees the scenery of the wasteland and the night is beautiful. When all the pedestrians leave, the wild people wander alone, and they will be very happy.
When he was temporarily living in Dinghuiyuan, he found a lonely begonia , which no one appreciated.
"I am afraid that the flowers will fall asleep late at night, so I burn high candles and shine red makeup" , as long as I am good at discovering beautiful things, I will live a wonderful life anywhere alone. The excluded Su Shi can still be fragrant like the crabapple.
If Su Shi did not dare to be alone, or had no experience of being demoted, his talent would not be so outstanding, nor would he leave behind unforgettable treasures.
Zhuangzi said: "The emptiness, tranquility, loneliness and inaction are the foundation of all things."
The best state of life is to be alone - treat loneliness as a kind of enjoyment. Those who are afraid of being alone are very glorious on the surface, but in fact, they dare not tell outsiders about the pain they are suffering in their hearts.
The hero of Southern Qi Ma Xianyan , when he gained power, he was not polite to Xiao Yan .
After Xiao Yan made Emperor Wu of Liang , Ma Xianfeng had to surrender.
Ma Xianfeng was always trembling when he saw Xiao Yan, afraid of being brought up old accounts. He said: "Someone gives me food, so he recognizes him as the master."
In comparison, Su Shi and Ma Xianfeng's realm are very different. Fear of loneliness, I can't live a good life.
"The Moon" writes: "The individuals in the group are just one of many grains of sand that can be blown to anywhere by the wind."
people have many lifestyles, and they change with age. But from the perspective of appearance, there are only two types: being alone and being in a group.
When you are less and less concerned about the group, you will find that you have a lot of time and will not rely on anyone.
The ultimate goal of life is freedom. But you are even afraid of loneliness, so why are you talking about freedom? No one really understands you and no one stays with you for the rest of your life. Even your lover will have a lot of time to part with you.
Live alone, in the downtown city, don’t feel noisy, and in the suburbs, don’t feel lonely.
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The soul is becoming more and more free.
Once upon a time there was an Indian for people to be guided.
They walked a long way, and the Indians suddenly stopped and said : "If we go too fast, we must stop and wait for our souls to follow."
Life is very impetuous, and many people lose their souls because of this. Just like an adult who loses his childlike fun, he always feels that life is particularly boring.
You said you should be free, but your soul is bound, so freedom is an external phenomenon.
If you understand the true meaning of life, you will find that the most important thing to throw away is spiritual internal friction; the most important thing to have is soul freedom.
Tang Dynasty is Li Bai . He wanted fame and fortune when he was a young man, but his official fortune was not good.For a while, with the recommendation of He Zhizhang , he entered the Hanlin Academy, but because he offended Yang Guifei , he reopened his life for ordinary people.
After experiencing the ups and downs of life, Li Bai lived with a refreshing spirit - the birds flew high, the lonely clouds were gone alone; A pot of wine among the flowers, drinking alone without a blind date.
Bai Juyi , Seeking celebrity Gu Kuang , hope to get recommendations.
Gu Kuang said, "Rice is expensive in Chang'an, and it is not easy to live."
When Bai Juyi became a little famous, Gu Kuang said, "It is easy to live."
Bai Juyi smiled and didn't agree.
and Jin Dynasty Tao Yuanming , threw away the official seal and returned to his hometown to farm. Writing down the treasure land of "Peach Blossom Land" makes countless people yearn for it. It seems that an old man who farms can also be free.
"Hundred Years of Solitude" says: "Only by washing the mist in your heart with water, can the glory illuminate the original dream."
What did you need in the first place? Wait a moment and let everything you want to keep up, just like the body waiting for the soul.
Li Bai, Bai Juyi, Tao Yuanming, and all those who pursue freedom in the end are like handfuls of sand, just sprinkle them.
has scattered everything, and has vacancies itself, so there is no "loss". As Emerson said: "Only those who purify my soul and pluck my courage are called poetry."
Life has no desire, the soul is clean, wherever you stay, it is poetry and far away. If you see through it, your life will mature.
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Someone said: "The vulgar life is the same, and the interesting soul is one in a million."
It turns out that the higher the level of a person, the less friends there are. What remains is a lonely life; in loneliness, the soul is our friends.
When we are not familiar with the world, we tentatively interact with the outside world, hoping that someone will appreciate us, support us, or have a group that can speak, even a few nonsense that encourages us is good.
But the more you go into the group, the more uncomfortable you feel. The sounds of different frequencies make you feel embarrassed and eventually turn into noise. Especially those who are false and false, who always say they love you, but behind their backs they are belittled and will alienate you at critical moments.
If you don’t go into the group, you won’t be afraid of being isolated because you have been alone.
After you mature, you start to cultivate yourself. It doesn’t matter whether you read books alone, think independently, or not. If the person who comes does not pick up, the person who wants to leave does not send him. Without courtesy, there will be no debt of favor.
Don’t be ashamed of poverty, don’t be proud of wealth, don’t be anxious about ups and downs, don’t be vicissitudes of life... When you are like this, you probably have wrinkles on your face and you have survived the "helplessness".
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