A man has achieved nothing after thirty. Does he still have a chance to achieve great things in his life? My boyfriend has an ordinary family background. How do you judge whether he is a potential stock?
The subtext of these questions is: an ordinary person with no background has a heart that is uneasy in the current situation. With this spirit, can he change his fate against the will of heaven?
After all, a few people can change their fate against the will of heaven, but the question is: Why can some people succeed, and some people achieve nothing in their entire lives? What is the difference between these two people:
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I have met a large number of bosses who start from scratch and found that those who can accomplish things have these three qualities: a bastard's heart, a blowing mouth and a fickle face.
So, if you want to judge whether your partner is a potential stock, or if you want to accomplish something, then compare it carefully to see if there are these three characteristics. If he doesn’t have any of these three qualities,
, he will definitely have no future in his life. If there are all three, but he still doesn't do well, you can scold me in the comment section.
Let’s talk about the first one, a bastard’s heart.
It’s heartbreaking. The honest child in the eyes of parents cannot do anything, because honest people are too fragile. When encountering something, they are either cowardly or have no idea.
People who can accomplish things first: don’t be afraid of things when encountering things. If you encounter extraordinary times, you still have to have some extraordinary means.
Let’s talk about the real thing first.
Once my previous company pulled a machine for the customer. After the customer accepted the case, he said there was any damage and opened his mouth and asked him to pay him 200,000 yuan.
We checked carefully for a long time and found that there was some slight wear on the machine, but if we didn't look carefully, we couldn't see it at all.
We originally wanted to reason with others, but the other party directly locked the wheels of the truck we delivered.
We first found a local acquaintance to reconcile. Unexpectedly, the other party was very tough and said directly: 200,000, no one can be missing!
There is no way, we can only call the police. After the police arrived, they said it was an economic dispute and it was not under the control of others.
We also consulted a lawyer, and the lawyer said that the lawsuit can be filed according to the formal procedures, but it takes time.
You have to know that the company has only a few big cars in total, and it can't afford to consume it at all. If this continues, the company will even be dragged to death.
What would you do if you face such a situation? You can't beat it, it's useless to be reasonable.
My boss at that time made a decision: grab the car.
That night, I brought dozens of brothers in the company and took my guys with me. I must say something here. I am not going to take my guys for fighting, but for self-defense. Dozens of people rushed over while the moon was dark and windy, smashed the lock directly, and drove the car back to the company.
Then, turn on the company's headlights and monitoring, and wait for the other party to come over.
If the other party comes to force the robbery, call the police immediately. If you don't rob, sit down and have a good talk. There was no big deal at all, so I couldn't hold on to the trouble. After all, it would be better for anyone if it was too big.
Finally, this matter was left unresolved.
Business competition is like this, bastards, bad things, and there are too many. If you don’t have a bastard’s heart, you can’t even calm down such a bastard.
Speaking of this, I think of another story.
Chapter 3: A rich man’s thing was robbed by a robber. The rich man asked his followers to chase him. No one dared to go. There was only one new man, Xiaodu, who was a newborn calf, was not afraid of a tiger, so he went.
When Xiaodu chased the robber, he was afraid of death, but he saw the biggest secret of the world in the face of the robber.
That is, robbers will be afraid. I think Xiaodu dares to chase after him alone, so I must have two tricks.
So, without much effort, the robbers were subdued.
Xiaodu suddenly realized that there are more smart people and more capable people, but why are few successful people? Because this is a world where cowards are rampant.
Everyone is afraid of failure, the strong, and the unknown risks.
Everyone has two strengths in their hearts in hedging , rationality and fear.
When a person is afraid, his IQ is 0, he will not have any action power, and of course there will be no result.
And every person who is afraid must long for a strong person to take him with him to reduce his fear. After all, people are determined, and who doesn’t want to live a more stable life.
Why do many people with low education become bosses, while those with high education work for those with low education?
The reason is: low-education comes from the bottom, ignorant people are fearless, they are bastards in their hearts, dare to fight and fight, but in the end they can make a bloody path.
Of course, it is not enough to have a bastard's heart. The underlying logic of the operation of the world is resource allocation. If an ordinary person wants to succeed, he must have the ability to connect more resources.
This requires a second characteristic, a mouth that can blow.
I always think that being able to brag is a necessary skill for a man to accomplish things.
You must have sighed that others can get what you will never make in your life with just a few PPTs. With sweet words, you can catch up with the goddess you will never be able to catch up with in your life.
Of course, you also want to be as free and easy as them, but you can't do it. Not to mention bragging, you will feel guilty if you tell a little lie.
Then the question is: Why do you do this?
Because society has two sets of survival rules, you are imprisoned by the first type, that is what adults and schools teach you.
There is no course in the school that will teach you how to make money, but it will teach you various living skills.
Because the essence of education is two: one is to remove the animal nature of children, install human attributes, and learn public order and good customs and social rules well, so that you don’t make trouble and don’t mess around.
Another is to cultivate mature human resources for society. Note that the focus is on resources. In other words, you are the same as oil and coal in the social value system.
. The direction of cultivation depends entirely on what society needs.
This is why popular majors always change, because it is not yourself who determines your value, but society needs.
This is an open constraint and a secret domestication. This domestication comes from your circle. The moral sense of the people at the bottom is like the pincers of crab , which restricts and supervises each other.
Whoever lied, cheated, and crossed the line, there is no need for superiors to punish you, and the spits of people around you can drown you.
In the end, you can't jump out of your own cognition or the oppression of the people around you.
But look at those who can get things done, they didn’t cut off their pliers and brag hard so that they could get more resource support.
For example, Ma Huateng When he first founded QQ, he pretended to be a girl online chatting with people. Do you think this is considered a deceptive relationship?
When Cheng Wei first founded Didi , he asked employees to install users to take taxis at work, so that they could brush data and fool the drivers to download. Do you think this is considered to be fake?
Ren Zhengfei is even more amazing. Huawei was almost unable to hold on back then, but he told the employees that in the future, the living room can be small and the bedroom can be small, but the balcony must be large. Because I will make too much money in the future, I should often put it on the balcony to dry it, otherwise it will become moldy. Do you think this is a fool?
These are the people who can accomplish things, and they all believe in the second set of survival rules.
They firmly believe that as long as you stand at the end of this world, no one will care about what posture you are using.
So, bragging is nothing in their opinion. As long as you can get things done, you dare to blow up a plate of 3 billion.
This is not only showing one's own strength to others, but also connecting with more possibilities. Why not do it? Think about it, are those around you doing pretty well, more or less bragging than ordinary people?
But bragging is different from occasions, and it is very important to grasp the scale. How to grasp the standard well? The third characteristic is needed: a fickle face.
A man who can achieve success has no face because his face will look different in different occasions.
For example, run business.
Junior salesperson always has a face, fearing customers to death, and relying on a stern face to hold on.
Intermediate salesperson, his face occasionally changes, but he is not flexible, so you will find that many salespersons, customers who can make transactions are always the same type of people.
And the top salesperson, what is the customer, he is what he is.
Customers like to drink tea, he also likes to drink tea, customers like massage, he also likes to massage. All coincidences are planned, not because we are destined to have fun.
Change a partner, and his hobbies and face will be changed immediately.
And the order cannot be wrong. Speaking on the stage is a face, and it must be able to suppress the situation. Drinking in private is another face. You have to know how to make jokes, but you have to be able to play and make trouble.
This is not the end. Sometimes, you have to change several faces at the same time. When you see your children, be kind; when you see your parents, be filial; when you see your brothers, be in mercy; when you see your lover, be in love; when you see others below, be able to withstand things.
sounds like he is very tired. Can a man who can succeed be himself? He has to wear so many masks to satisfy everyone?
If you have this idea, it means you have not seen through the essence behind the mask.
In fact, every man with a change of face has long seen through human nature and knows that human beings are not only human, but also animal and divine sides.
switch at will, it is an appearance and a means, just to facilitate your own goals.
In some occasions, you have to release your animal nature to bring in the relationship between each other, such as drinking from KTV. In some occasions, we have to talk about divine things, such as drawing pie for employees and discussing grand plans with senior management.
For close people, we must show our human side so that everyone can feel that you are a warm person.
As ordinary people just said, they are bound by the first rule. Usually, they only have a human face. Occasionally, they will behave very unnaturally and feel that it is against human reason.
also wanted to do something big, but was tied to all kinds of things in the world and could not arouse divinity. At the end, it was just a mediocre person.
To talk about this matter in depth, it is fundamentally because you don’t have firm ambitions and are attached to appearances again.
should not dwell on anything and give birth to its mind.
You can't switch at will because you focus all on secular concepts and your own face, and feel that it is too shameful to change into a flattering face.
Men who can accomplish things will not consider these stupid things, they must have a goal in their hearts. You know what you want, so you can be free to control and relax.
You don’t know what you want, and you don’t have a strong core of life, so you are always led by external concepts or led by others, and live according to other people’s requirements, and you will gradually make a stereotyped .
Once a person is stereotyped, this person will be considered useless.
I wonder if you have noticed that many people now come from afar. Although you don’t know him, you can see his profession at a glance. For example, this one sells insurance, that one sells houses, and that one works as an accountant.
. If you ask them why he is alive, he can’t even explain clearly. He is confused and walking dead. Therefore, you can only barely get enough food and clothing, and you can't accomplish any big thing.
Therefore, people who can achieve great things are essentially invisible, but they are more determined than gold. A fickle face is not a face, but a means to plunder resources. Everything is just to achieve the ultimate goal.
A bastard's heart, a blowing mouth and a fickle face are the three most important qualities that a man can accomplish things. These three qualities are also essential abilities for ordinary people to break social shackles and self-restraints.
compare and see yourself or your partner. Are there these three qualities? It’s the sentence I said at the beginning.
If there is no one, this person will definitely not be able to do anything.
If there are all three, congratulations, you will definitely achieve great things in this life. If you don’t believe it, you will make a statement in the comment area as evidence. Ten years later, we meet at a high place.
