I, an African girl marrys a Chinese husband, 6,000 bride price, parents are having fun, I am very happy to have two boys, and the mother-in-law is very happy
narration: Xia Li
compilation: Mr. Xiao Han
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My name is Xia Li, I am from African country Nigeria , this year, 27 years old. Before marrying into China, I studied Chinese at Confucius Institute . My dream at that time was very simple, which was to learn Chinese well, then go to China to study for a university, graduate school, and then return to China to work. However, before I could complete my dream, my Chinese husband appeared.
My husband has been working in Nigeria for 7 years and has never returned to China. Our acquaintance was due to a friend's introduction. When we saw my husband, we felt that he was honest and honest, and he was 21 years older than me, which made me difficult for a while. After all, I was only 19 years old at that time, and I was still a young girl. I could only speak simple Chinese and the communication was not very smooth, but his gentle temperament attracted me all at once.
We were in love for 7 months and just over 20 years old. Then we went to China to register for marriage. Although we have been living in the countryside after marriage and live a simple life, we are very happy. After all, when we were in Nigeria, our house was a dirt house. We only had dinner once a day, and we would drink a glass of sugar water to fill our stomachs when we were hungry. Now I can eat and wear a lot in China. My husband would drive a sedan and take me and my children out for a trip. The days can be said to have changed drastically.
1995, I was born in an ordinary village in Benue State, Nigeria. There is a lot of land in my hometown. The food I can’t eat is sold to other states. My parents work in a small farm owner, and the money I earn is not enough to support a family of 11 people. In order to save food, many local families only eat one meal a day, and drink a glass of sugar water to satisfy their hunger when they are hungry.
Although parents can’t make a lot of money, they still try their best to get education for every child. I am the fourth child in the family. I have my brothers and sisters above me and younger brothers and sisters below. Our children basically start to receive education at the age of seven or eight. If they don’t study, they need to go out to work and earn money.
In our family, my mother is the head of the family. Whether it is brothers and sisters or fathers, the money earned must be handed over to my mother. My mother is in charge of the dietary distribution of the whole family. How much bread, beer, and sugar are needed in a week?
It is my mother's careful calculation that I have the money to study.
Each of us cherishes the hard-won learning opportunities. Many Chinese people may not imagine that we do not have the saying of textbooks in class. Basically, we just take a notebook and a pen. The teacher will record the key points of the teacher and use the front and back of a notebook.
is in such a healthy environment, and I worked hard to finish middle school, but going to college requires a lot of money. Most of them will choose to give up going to college unless I get the national scholarship and then work part-time to study. But I was not so lucky and unfortunately failed the exam. Through my own persistence, I studied Chinese at Confucius Institute while working, because the teacher said that as long as I have good Chinese literature, I can go to China to study for a university and graduate school in the future, and China is very developed.
Learning Chinese is a very boring thing because it is really difficult to learn. The Chinese teachers in the school include Chinese and Nigerians. Each teacher teaches differently, so many words have different pronunciations.
After learning Chinese for four months, I met many Chinese friends. A Nigerian Chinese teacher said she wanted to introduce me to a Chinese boyfriend. She didn't agree at the time, but she still reluctantly went to the appointment. Unexpectedly, he was much older than me, and he didn't turn around and left for the sake of his friend's sake. After more than two hours of date, I feel that this Chinese man is very sincere. Although he has been married, he has no children and knows how to communicate with girls.
His name is Wu Shengde. He is not as tall as me and has a very temperament. From the beginning when he didn't like it to being attracted by his joking temperament, our love comes a bit quickly.
He is very busy at work and basically doesn't leave the construction site. So every time he dates, I go to the construction site to find Wu Shengde. The Chinese people on the construction site will laugh. I didn't know why they were laughing. Later I found out that it was because the partner Wu Shengde was looking for was young.
Our love is very simple. Although Wu Shengde's personality looks very gentle, he is really a romantic person. He can pick wild flowers and give it to me. He will also buy a lot of Chinese food that he has never eaten before, such as instant noodles. These are very expensive in our local area and basically require two days' salary to buy a pack.
dating for 7 months, I am just over 20 years old, and I can get married according to Chinese laws. Wu Shengde went home to propose marriage to my parents, and immediately gave him 360,000 naira (about 6,000 yuan). My parents were so happy that they were "happy" in Chinese.
applied for a single certificate and passport, and then came to Wu Shengde's hometown in Hunan, China. However, the marriage was not smooth. It took almost 3 months to complete it. Fortunately, it finally got it smoothly. The next day, I was diagnosed with pregnancy. For my husband, having a child in middle age was really overjoyed.
After marriage, my husband worked outside to earn money and went home once every two months. And my parents-in-law and I lived with me. From just marrying into my mother-in-law's family, my mother-in-law ignored me, and to my attitude of giving birth to a son, my mother-in-law is really a man who prefers boys over girls.
It has been seven years since I was married. I gave birth to two sons. My mother-in-law is very happy, but my husband is both happy and worried. He said that it is difficult for his son to find a wife in the future. I said that it would not work, so I went to Nigeria to find her. After all, it doesn’t cost a lot of money to find a wife in my hometown. I built a house two years ago, and my family’s financial situation was very tight. I haven’t bought a new piece of clothing for more than two years. Many of them were bought when I first got married.
However, compared to life in Nigeria, life now can be said to be in heaven, with three meals a day, and you don’t have to do a lot of tiring work. You just need to take care of your children and cook for your parents-in-law. You can enjoy your current life very much.
