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Shakespeare once said: "An unsatisfactory marriage is like a hell. A chicken fights for a lifetime and cannot live in peace. On the contrary, if you choose a spouse who is satisfied with you, you will be harmonious for a hundred years and have endless happiness."
Marriage is always a double-edged sword for others.
It can not only achieve a happy life, but also create a tragic ending.
Born as a human being, everything cannot go well, but we ask for a happy marriage, but not everyone can get a happy marriage.
When I was young, I was ignorant and always thought that the quality of my marriage depends entirely on luck. So while enviing those with good luck, I always give sympathy to those who are full of bad luck.
Only after middle age can one realize that a good marriage never lies in luck, but in choice and management, because a good marriage has commonalities.
Common character: responsible and responsible, able to withstand wind, frost, rain and snow
Actor Jingchao once publicly told his experience of being a soft-hearted meal in the program. During those years, he had no drama to shoot. Not only did he not make money, but he also suffered great psychological pressure.
His wife never blamed him, but instead held on to the responsibility of supporting her family alone.
Fortunately, a few years later, he not only gained opportunities through his own efforts, but also became famous in one go.
Now they finally live the life they have always dreamed of, not only their career is successful, but also their family is happy.
Jing Chao's wife is kind and is willing to accompany her husband through the trough; Jing Chao is responsible and knows how to treat his wife well after her career is successful.
This is the root cause of their happiness and fulfillment.
People often complain about their misfortune marriage, but they never review the reasons.
Good marriages are never for no reason. The husband and wife are united and sharing honor and disgrace is an indispensable reason.
Two people live together, relationship is very important. Only by the determination to stand together through thick and thin can we build a happy and fulfilling family.
Otherwise, it will be difficult for everyone to have a good ending.
Many people are obsessed with appearance, height and work and family background when talking about marriage. However, they do not know that the most reliable marriage is never about these so-called conditions, but about the character of both husband and wife.
Only by living with people with good character can we get real guarantees. They are responsible and responsible. Even if life changes, they will never leave them. With such a spirit, no matter whether they are poor or rich, marriage is ultimately happy and reliable.
Family commonality: parents know etiquette and do not interfere with their children
As we all know, marriage is never a matter of two people, but a matter of two families. If a woman wants to have a happy marriage, she must not only find the right family, but also find the right family.
According to statistics from the Civil Affairs Bureau, 70% of my country's divorce rate is caused by the elderly. It can be seen that the influence of mother-in-law and mother-in-law on the small family is also extraordinary.
Family conflicts lead to conflicts between husband and wife, conflicts between husband and wife lead to changes in relationships, and ultimately they cannot live. This is a common thing in real life.
Parents care too much, young people are uncomfortable and unable to live with each other, and family conflicts naturally arise.
Parents are well-educated and well-educated, understand the distance between young people and the elderly, put their own positions, and do not participate in each other's lives. Not only does there be no conflicts, but the family is also very harmonious.
Therefore, when choosing a partner, you must pay attention to the other party’s family and their character and thoughts, which can avoid many conflicts.
And the old man’s thoughts should also keep pace with the times. In order for children to live a happy and fulfilling life, you must avoid disturbing yourself and fulfilling yourself means fulfilling others.
Common mentality: cherish marriage, but not only marriage
Yishu once said: "The life test questions are divided into 4 questions, study, career, marriage, and family. Only by having high average scores can you pass the exam. Don't spend too much time and energy on any question."
This is a good word.
In real life, I have seen more than once women who regard marriage as the whole of their lives.
They quit their jobs, abandoned their circle of friends, and revolved around their husbands and children every day. In their world, family is everything.
But the more they are, the more likely they are to be injured.
On the one hand, if they lose their lives, they will focus all their attention on their husbands and families, which is also a potential pressure for their husbands. Sometimes, they can easily lead to conflicts between husbands and their husbands.
On the other hand, they lost their source of income and lost their survival skills. The gap between them and their husbands became increasingly wider, so the two finally reached a point where they could not live together.
If they know how to adjust their mentality and correct their outlook on life from the very beginning, it may be another ending.
Everyone must understand one truth: for women, marriage is still a very important part of life, but it is by no means the whole of a woman.
Women have a lot of things to do in their life. In addition to marriage, everyone also has careers and dreams.
If you can share your energy evenly and adjust your lifestyle appropriately, you will find another world.
When you regard your husband as God and treat marriage as everything, you may not be able to receive the attention of the other party, but when you realize your own value, you will find that your husband is not willing to lose you at all. This is human nature.
Marriage is far from as simple as everyone imagines. It is a close confrontation. Women cannot keep themselves at home, but should constantly improve themselves and go hand in hand with their husbands.
Only in this way can your marriage be permanent and happy.
Conclusion:
Any happy and fulfilling marriage has similar key factors. After understanding these commonalities, we are equivalent to gaining experience in managing a marriage.
In the days to come, everyone can choose and manage their own family in the right way, thereby reducing the occurrence of tragedy.
Management of a marriage is like planting a tree. Sunshine, rain and dew, and hard care are all indispensable conditions. I hope everyone can understand it.
I am Ying'er, an original creator who focuses on the field of emotions.
