The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may be one of the difficult problems in the world.
We rarely hear of conflicts between son-in-law and father-in-law, but we always see disputes between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
The reason why the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is complicated is that there are two mistresses in a family.
And women are the most delicate, sensitive and suspicious person.
The mother-in-law and his wife have a son. They both have the closest relationship with this man and hope to have a sense of control over this man.
Therefore, the contradiction arises.
Many women will sigh that they are always controlled and troubled by their mother-in-law when they marry into their husband-in-law. No matter what they do, their mother-in-law is not satisfied.
It’s strange that mother-in-law is such a magical character. She has a natural sense of "hostility" towards her daughter-in-law and rejects the women around her son for no reason.
Perhaps, this is derived from the blood connection between the mother and the son. I used to love my son the most, but now I want to start a family with another woman. If I leave my arms, I always feel an inexplicable sense of loss.
So, it was also expected that the mother-in-law "can't stand" her daughter-in-law.
Because, from a deeper level of consciousness, the mother-in-law believes that the daughter-in-law is the woman who "robs" her son.
So, after a woman marrys into her husband's family, she is destined to be suppressed by her mother-in-law. Is it incompatible with her mother-in-law?
There is a drama called "Miss Mermaid". After Yaliying married Zhu Wang, she lived at Zhu Wang's house.
In addition to in-laws, there is also Zhu Wang’s grandmother. Although Zhu Wang's family has a nanny, Yaliying still does the housework and serves her parents-in-law in order to make her mother-in-law satisfied.
However, my mother-in-law never likes Yaliying and makes things difficult for her everywhere.
Because my mother-in-law thinks Yaliying has a bad background and is not worthy of her son. Therefore, no matter how much or good Yaliying does, her mother-in-law will ignore it.
Yaliying felt wronged. The food she cooked was praised by her family and friends, and she did the housework perfectly according to her mother-in-law's requirements. Why is her mother-in-law still so harsh? Yaliying in the play actually made a mistake.
She thought that without the favor of principles and bottom line, she could win the respect of others, but the reality is exactly the opposite.
When getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is important to have a kind of "balance".
The most advantageous weapon to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Instead of accepting it, it is better to be a "not easy to mess with" wife.
It is better to be tougher when facing conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Only when the in-laws see your bottom line can they not be easily overcome.
Later, Yaliying changed her attitude.
Faced with her mother-in-law's unreasonable difficulties, she no longer tolerate and compromise, but learned to make clear and fight back.
Once, my mother-in-law blamed Yaliying for a little bit of trouble. She didn't swallow her anger, but directly hit her back.
After venting the unhappiness in his heart, Yaliying felt relieved. And my mother-in-law was stunned and locked in the room and sulked.
Later, the mother-in-law also reflected on her behavior. Although she was not compromised on the surface, she was psychologically overwhelmed.
Yaliying also cleverly gave her mother-in-law the steps. She brought the prepared food to her mother-in-law's room and apologized to her mother-in-law without being humble or arrogant.
Since then, their relationship has undergone subtle changes.
When your mother-in-law disrespects you, don’t give you the illusion that you are easy to bully.
The first time someone tramples on your dignity, he is testing your bottom line of patience.
There is no need for women to flatter and please them when dealing with conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If you don’t care about your own feelings, others won’t care about you.
Therefore, when your mother-in-law has inappropriate words and deeds, you must react and indicate that you are uncomfortable. Only in this way will she realize that you are the mistress whom her son married home, not the nanny she hired.
Being a daughter-in-law who is "not easy to mess with" does not make women arrogant and self-righteous everywhere.
The most important thing is to let others see where your boundaries are.
A person can only be respected by others if he is clear about his own boundaries and get along with others with principles and bottom lines.
For example, how couples get along is the business of you two, and you don’t want your mother-in-law to intervene; it is the mother’s responsibility in the education of children, and you don’t want the elderly to point fingers, etc.
The boundaries must be clear, and no interference should be observed, and mutual respect should be respected.
When you should show dissatisfaction, you should also show your attitude instead of being afraid that others will hate you.
The stronger your sense of boundaries, the easier it is for others to understand your principles, rather than gaining a goal.
Of course, our approach can be gentle under the premise of principle.
The meaning of "not easy to mess with" is not to be strong, but to be firm.
Don’t quarrel with your mother-in-law with bad words and attitudes. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is like a piece of paper, very fragile and sensitive, and once it is pierced, it will be difficult to repair.
Therefore, when dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you need some wisdom.
Women with "sweet and cruel heart" are more likely to be favored by their mother-in-law. My mother-in-law is also a woman and likes to listen to others’ praise. Thank you more for your hard work and be sure that your mother-in-law has done well.
In addition, there is no need to be as close as mother and daughter between mother and daughter, and a certain sense of distance is needed.
This sense of distance is the measure between people and the room for respect in the future.
When you have a conflict with your husband, try not to face your mother-in-law. Just solve the problem of your husband in private.
In short, if a woman wants to live a happy life in her in-laws’ house, she must ultimately maintain her own independence.
Don’t expect too much from others, no one is obliged to treat you as a princess;
Don’t take yourself too lightly, and happiness is in your own hands, not given by others.
Make your mother-in-law feel that you are an independent individual, do not rely on anyone, do not bring burden and negative energy to the family, and be good enough to your son, and your status in the heart of your mother-in-law will not be too bad.
Finally, sincerity is the most irresistible weapon.
It is better to treat others with sincerity than to do it. A good relationship needs to be seen over time and needs to be cultivated and managed slowly.
