The reason why ambiguous relationships hurt is that there is always one party who will want a result because of anxiety, and often when this situation occurs, the ambiguous relationship has become no longer beautiful.
can enter the ambiguous prelude of a stable intimate relationship. It is usually the same frequency of the two people, emotionally, and they are in the stage of open experience, they look forward to contacting others and treat each other honestly, and the objective conditions are relatively stable.
and cannot smoothly achieve ambiguous relationships in intimate relationships. Often, both of them yearn for intimacy, but due to fear of intimacy and instability of emotional energy, they need more time to understand themselves and explore each other.
In ambiguous relationship, the self-exposed level of the party who empathizes with will be relatively high, and it will be easier to get up in a short period of time, while the party who empathizes with slight enjoys the ambiguous process and uncertain state more.
In addition, external value and psychological factors are also the standards considered by both ambiguous parties. A highly empathetic emotional person will pay more attention to the other party's emotional feedback and whether it can meet their psychological needs when the other party's external conditions meet the standards. The other party pays more attention to external conditions and whether he can control the other party's personality.
In ambiguous relationship, people with high empathy see more about the development space between the two and some excellent qualities of each other. The focus of low empathy is whether they can get better emotional experiences in the relationship.
Due to the value of emotional energy, high empathy people are more attractive and proactive in the short term, but as time goes by, the lack of feedback from low empathy people and the cold and hot, and the hesitant attitude make the emotional management and transformation ability of high empathy people gradually lose control, and it is easy to fall into anxiety and self-doubt.
The longer the time is delayed, the greater the initiative of the low-compassionists. Until the high-compassionists withdraw from the ambiguous relationship, the low-compassionists will emotionally counterattack and want to save. But the rules and regulations that are placed in front of low empathy will still block their way into intimate relationships, make them give up, or be despised by high empathy.
And the pursuit of "sensuality" things seem to be a unique way of life for women. In life, it is not difficult to find that women's "broken thoughts" basically come from sensory right-brain thinking. Women like rituals, small surprises, and small romantic atmospheres, and care about the subtle words and deeds of the opposite sex; a " red rose " is enough to make her excited. Women like to talk and communicate. Emotional topics seem to be eternal topics. Unreasonable emotional entanglement is the norm. It is a special hobby for women to like sweet words from the opposite sex. There are common posts such as "50 golden sentences for picking up girls" and 18 classic cool sentences for picking up girls" on the Internet, which are enough to highlight women's cognitive characteristics. They like to listen to emotional songs and watch emotional anchor programs, etc., which reflects that women seem to be emotional animals everywhere. Not only is cognitive perceptual; psychology reveals that "women are listening to sexual excitement" and "men are visual excitement". This also gives those scumbags who "picking up girls" and "snatching up girls" to use their skills. No matter when they go out to do things, they will always be "beauties" speak... Biological experiments show that the " dopamine " (excitation medium) "hormones" (sex hormone) secreted by women's auditory excitement is significantly higher than those of men.
Whether they are highly empathetic or low empathetic, Ambiguous relationships are all good choices. creates a harmonious atmosphere and emotional projection of both parties for a beautiful intimate relationship. It does not allow two people to truly communicate and understand each other's emotional logic psychologically. Instead, it wastes a lot of time looking for evidence of love.
Nowadays, many people are not satisfied with their marriage, and they will like to chat on various software and chat about ambiguous information. They feel that chatting with the opposite sex can seek spiritual comfort, and they will sink more and more into the ambiguous chatting with the opposite sex. There is also a kind of psychology. They never regard the opposite sex as the opposite sex, but they just think that they like to joke together like buddies, and they also chat with the opposite sex casually on social software, feeling that the opposite sex is more courageous than the same sex.Therefore, they will chat about ambiguous information on the software, so that they will not feel embarrassed.
chats with some opposite sex on social software, which will cause a restless factor in our marriage. There may be possibilities for divorce, because as a couple, it is impossible to tolerate the other party chatting with the opposite sex, which is a challenge to their personality. Many people talked about it, and they betrayed their marriage when they talked with the opposite sex.
pass the time to relieve sorrow and boredom.
This is a kind of person who has nothing to do. They have plenty of free time to spend without the company of the opposite sex. So their only choice is to find a chat with the opposite sex online to relieve boring time and pass the lonely days. Such people are very common in low-quality groups. They can't find a better way to do something meaningful. If they have a lot of free time, they will go online to chat with the opposite sex and talk about some ambiguous topics, which will not only pass the time, but also meet their own needs. In fact, we cannot criticize this practice too much. Don't expect them to spend this time working and studying to improve themselves. Level determines their height.
Sometimes ambiguity is purposeful, and it is to want certain people to obtain something or some proof. Therefore, no matter in any occasion, they will use this ambiguous relationship to declare their sovereignty and tell those who want to get close to you that you have a good relationship with him or are trapped in a unclear relationship, and do not get close easily. Anyone with a discerning eye knows that this kind of behavior will not approach or disturb you. After all, there are certain connections. If you do not refuse in this relationship, you will be able to achieve some of his intentions, and naturally others will stay away from it.
Therefore, it is important to figure out the other party’s intention to have an ambiguous relationship with you and whether you accept his ambiguous relationship. If you accept his ambiguity, or if you do not explicitly reject his ambiguity, it may have a certain impact on your interpersonal relationships. Because flies don't bite seamless eggs, if you don't have the same idea, you should also refuse. Therefore, we must distinguish his ambiguous intentions and also know how to reject his ambiguous intentions.
Ambiguous relationships usually occur between the opposite sex. Generally, this relationship is based on single men and women, or some relationships where the relationship is not clear. A very common place is in the period of excessive relationships from strange to familiar ones. It is precisely because you are in the development period of the relationship that you have better room for display. If you all know each other very well and you know what kind of person the other person is, then his ambiguity may not work. If it can work, it means that you have some meaning to him, but you are in the observation or understanding stage and dare not make certain decisions rashly. Therefore, what you must know is those who like to play ambiguous, most veterans in interpersonal relationships, or perhaps experts in love, if they have not experienced a certain relationship, they will not play ambiguously so well.
And nowadays, it is really convenient to play ambiguous online nowadays. In fact, most men often have a lucky mentality when they chat with the opposite sex online. For example, playing ambiguous relationship with the opposite sex on WeChat is more convenient than cheating directly, and it is safer, and it is not easy to be discovered by others. For men, perhaps chatting ambiguous messages will not make them feel so guilty, so they will not be so guilty and guilty when facing their wives. In fact, no matter which kind of psychology it is for playing ambiguous relationship with the opposite sex, it is a psychological cheating. Even the Internet is safer, but it will always be discovered over time.
