People in the city want to go out, people outside the city want to come in
There is a long-standing " Siege " at home, and it is also a pirated book, but it doesn't prevent me from reading it, because the epidemic is blocked at home, and I can't buy genuine books. The main reason that attracted me to read this book was the one I heard before, "Marriage is a besieged city. People outside the city want to come in, and people in the city want to go out." So with such curiosity, I went to read the besieged city.
As the literal meaning is, I think siege is a state of mind. Whether it is life or marriage, you often encounter all kinds of unsatisfactory in life. Nine out of ten things are unsatisfactory in life. Just as Mr. Yang Jiang said, "The normal state of life is a mess, and poetry and distance are occasional luxury." Therefore, unsatisfactory life is also the normal state of life. There is no need to feel sad or sad about it. Adjust your mentality, love life, find fun in unsatisfactory days, discover beauty, live well, and work hard. Then, the same is true for marriage. The book also describes the protagonist's emotional line. To be honest, no matter who you marry, after getting married, you will always find that you are not the original person and have changed to another one. What is marriage? Marriage is two strange adults who live together. No matter how sweet you feel when you get married, you say "I do". Life after marriage is actually different from what you imagined, so marriage is like a besieged city, and everyone has a preliminary understanding of the besieged city.
But what the siege really writes about human nature. I don’t know Fang Hongjian at first reading, but I am already a person in the book after reading. Everyone is vain, indecisive, and has various shortcomings, but we must learn to overcome shortcomings, or avoid shortcomings and carry forward their strengths. Life is surrounded everywhere. We must learn to face difficulties and break the siege that plagues us, instead of lamenting in the siege. Someone read Weicheng and said: The best way to go is to go downhill. So just like a novel, a beautiful beginning does not necessarily lead to a beautiful ending. There will be thorns and flowers blooming in the journey of life, but no matter what, such a life is the real life.
