The woman’s parents hope to find a good husband.
The man’s parents hope to find a lady from a family.
Hope is always beautiful, but reality is "deficient in beauty".
As the cartoonist Zhu Deyong said: "Why are proposals always carried out in the dim light? Because in addition to deceiving the other party, you also need to deceive yourself."
It is difficult to see a person clearly, especially in love. We are easily blinded by love because of a few boring words of "thunder struck" and the ears are soft.
The ancients left a proverb: "Women look in front, men look in back."
Combining the proverb with real life, we will find that when looking for a partner, we can really judge by "front and back".
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"Female look before", not mistaken.
There is a picture in the movie " The Legend of the Condor Heroes ".
Jeh Li Zhang Wuji falls in love with Xiao Zhao , but the two get separated.
When looking for Xiao Zhao, Zhang Wuji found a back, dressed very fashionablely, exactly the same as Xiao Zhao. When he rushed forward and held the other person's hand, he found that it was an old lady, and the atmosphere suddenly became awkward.
Women are born to love beauty and like to dress up, so their backs are mostly beautiful, and may be similar. You have to look at the front to see the difference. There are two specific views on
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One, is it dignified in appearance?
From the front, a woman's facial features and figure can be seen at a glance. The shortcomings of facial features can also be discovered in time. Just like the ancients who got married, they can only reveal the answer to their appearance. This is purely "playing puzzles and buying prize tickets".
You can look at a woman's appearance by eating, chatting, etc. Of course, dignity is not "natural beauty", but a chat attitude, a face and behavior towards people.
The positive image of a woman is the most reliable impression. Those women who hide their cover-up often have other plans and need to be prepared for it.
Those who dare not show their true faces are mostly scammers on the Internet. Although the voice is soft, you can't believe it. It’s better to see it at a time than to see it in a million.
The second one, can you never get tired of reading it?
When looking for a partner, you see that the other person looks okay. It is the beginning of fate, but it does not mean that you can get married. I also have to ask myself, can I like her all my life?
When a woman becomes very old and becomes an old lady, can she still like her as before?
Think about the long-term "like" clearly and then decide whether to get married is not too late. Through face-to-face observation, it is not bad to get rid of the problem of "loving the new and getting tired of the old".
In the "hundred views", you can also find a woman's cooking skills, whether she loves cleanliness, and how to manage her house.
once or twice, maybe it was the image of the other party deliberately pretending to be, but if you look at it a few more times, you will see the "bald face facing the sky".
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"Male viewing" knows potential.
During the Eastern Han Dynasty, Minister Song Hong reported his work to Emperor Guangwu.
Emperor Guangwu's sister Princess Huyang hid behind the screen, observed Song Hong's appearance, and then fell in love with him, and asked Emperor Guangwu to plead with love and express his meaning of "willing to get married".
Song Hong refused, leaving a famous saying "A friend who is poor and humble cannot be forgotten, and a wife who is a bad person will not leave the court."
Tang Dynasty Talented Luo Yin , poems are flying all over the sky. Prime Minister Zheng Ting 's daughter likes one of the sentences very much - Zhang Hua speaks like a lyrics, not as good as Liu Hou's book.
Because of a poem, it means to marry.
One day, Luo Yin visited the Prime Minister's Mansion, and Zheng Qi's daughter peeked behind the curtain. Found that Luo Yin was ugly and a little pedantic, so he gave up his original idea.
This shows that the ancients said that "the man is watching the queen" not only makes sense, but also makes specific practices. can judge many problems when observing a man's every move behind his back.
From the perspective of real society, we should innovate and remove the essence of the dross.
First of all, look at the things behind a man and know the character.
What did the man do in the invisible place? If a man is sunny, then his life past can stand the test. Men are dark and afraid of exposure.
If you examine a man’s past, you can find his family background, education background, work background, etc. This way to judge whether he has a strong character and whether he is worth making friends with.
Men with bad records need to be treated with caution.
Then, look at the responsibility behind the man and discover the potential of life.
Many men like to show themselves in front of women. But can he maintain positive energy when he is alone? It needs to be considered in the long run.
If you are poor, you will be safe. This is the standard for a good man.
Live alone with hard work, but still have ambition. If a woman marrys such a man, her life will get better and better in the future. After all, his development has potential and plans for the future. Relying solely on your parents and living a wealthy life, you have no idea, and the future will be very hard.
, it is better to find a potential stock if you meet a rich second generation. Money can be spent, but courage and wisdom are endless.
Finally, look at the man's physique and hope he has the ability to be a good pillar.
We like to use "tiger back and bear waist" to describe a strong man, which is the symbol of health.
By looking at the back, you can find out whether walking is powerful and whether you can make decisions immediately when doing things.
Men with healthy bodies can support a blue sky for their families. This choice is also in line with the current family management model of "the male leads to the outside and the female leads to the inside".
Families that rely on women to make money to support their families have a very hard life.
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Of course, it is better to have no books than to believe in books.
The best way to observe is like a lyric: look left and right, look up and down, it is really not simple.
Observe in all aspects, put aside the prejudice of being a human being, think carefully, and communicate more with your family, and you can determine whether the partner is reliable.
And, more importantly, marriage is "management". Even a very bad man, after training, will turn back and become as precious as gold; a very vicious woman will become a good wife under the influence of a man.
Love stories may be fabricated, but marriage life cannot be fabricated.
The most fundamental view is to focus on the future.
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
Follow my text and enter your heart.
The pictures in the article are from the Internet.
