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Marriage is always an extremely important part of life for women.
The elderly often say that marriage is the second reincarnation of a woman, and many people do regard marriage as a turning point in their lives.
But in this world, not all marriages are happy and fulfilling.
No matter how the marriage begins, the result depends on how both the husband and wife manage it.
If a woman wants to have a happy marriage, she must first put herself in the right position and treat this relationship with a rational and objective attitude.
By the same token, if a woman blindly overestimates herself, her marriage will inevitably be messy.
Therefore, the first step for a woman to manage her marriage is to avoid overestimating herself.
overestimates the relationship between husband and wife and shoots themselves in the foot
Women firmly believe that the relationship between husband and wife should be greater than all relationships. This is what they think and do.
In many cases, they also hope that their partner can have a similar state of mind, but men and women are two completely different creatures. Everyone has different personalities and different styles of life.
For women, the husband is everything to them. He is even more important than his parents, but men are different. Most men value blood relationships more.
Women quarrel with their parents-in-law, and men may be tempted to their wives, but once they encounter a critical moment, the result may not be.
The woman overestimated her position in her husband's heart and opposed her in-laws unscrupulously. In the end, she just brought up a stone to shoot herself in the foot.
The truth that women should understand most is that people are independent individuals, and only by relying on themselves and loving themselves can they live a better life.
It’s a pity that many women don’t understand this truth.
As long as they are happy at the moment, they think they can be happy for the rest of their lives; as long as their husbands love them at the moment, they think they have married the right person, but they don’t know that life is long.
In real life, women who overestimate the relationship between husband and wife and rely wholeheartedly on men will most likely not have a good ending, and some lucky ones are just an exception.
overestimate their status in the in-laws' family, and their lives are messy
If a woman overestimates her status in the in-laws' family, she will often do some wrong things, thus making her life a mess.
. I think my mother-in-law is more inclined toward herself between herself and her husband
Recently, I have been promoting Guo Biting’s lifestyle online. Everyone agrees that she has money, beauty, children, and loves her parents-in-law. Her husband has not returned home yet. It is simply the life that women yearn for.
Someone else joked: "I originally thought Guo Biting was a fertility tool, but now it seems that Xiang Zuo is."
In the eyes of netizens, Xiang Tai 's feelings for her daughter-in-law seem to be greater than her son. Some even say that she has given up her son now and devotes all her energy to her grandson.
Is this really the case? Will anyone in this world love their sons instead of loving their daughter-in-law? That's her son who was pregnant for 10 months, gave birth once, and worked hard to raise her. Do you think it's reasonable?
Women with these ideas are either young and have not entered society yet, or their original family lacks love and have never received the care of their parents, so they have the illusion that their mother-in-law will surpass their son.
Some truths must be understood. No matter how good your mother-in-law looks to you, how she is facing you when you quarrel with your husband. In her mind, you will never be as good as her biological son.
2. Treat yourself as the owner of the in-laws’ family, and target your sister-in-law
Many women have always had an illusion that they always think that they will be the mistress of the in-laws after they marry into the in-laws’ family.
She has the right to interfere with the property of her parents-in-law; she also has the right to interfere with whether her sister-in-law returns to her parents' home.
And the result of doing this is obvious, family conflicts occur frequently, and the in-laws are extremely dissatisfied with her.
A person causes a lot of family conflicts, which leads to bad luck for everyone, which is also a common thing in many families.
overestimate their abilities and eventually become widowed marriage
A female writer once commented on some women like this: "As long as you praise her for being able, she can support the entire family."
Some women are indeed like this. From the beginning, they think about how to take care of their careers and families, so they work hard to make money and work while doing housework and taking care of their children.
They put themselves in a particularly capable and powerful position. Under the praise of others, they will do their best.
But doing this will not have any good results. She took on the work of two people alone, and in the end she will only turn herself into a widow-like existence.
The so-called widowed marriage is mostly caused by women. Men do not act and women accept it, so they form this distorted lifestyle.
One thing we must remember is that the family belongs to both husband and wife. Everyone should contribute to the family, and everyone should bear the corresponding responsibilities, rather than relying on themselves to shoulder the family alone.
Many women think they are very good and can take into account both family and career, but in the end they just make their husbands become more and more lazy and less responsible, while their in-laws think everything is just for granted.
Don’t overestimate your abilities. You must understand that you are just a weak woman. You are not a superwoman. While you do your duty well, you should also ask your husband to do his job well.
Conclusion:
Many people are used to using control to describe the relationship between husband and wife. In everyone's opinion, the first step for a woman to achieve a happy marriage is to be strong. Only the strong can control men.
In fact, it is exactly the opposite. If a woman wants to live a good life in a marriage, the most important thing is to learn to "show weakness".
Put yourself in the right position, recognize your position, and show your weak side, so that you can get the results you want more easily.
Zhuang Die Xiaomeng/Emotional Column Original creator
May your life be full of surprises and may your happiness come as scheduled.
