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I don’t know if you have such an experience: I originally told the other party about your secret out of trust.
As a result, the other party was back-stolen, and his story was spread everywhere, which made him have a bad reputation.
Some things, even if they are rotten in your stomach, don’t say them out. People’s hearts are separated from their belly. It’s really a matter of knowing people but not their hearts.
To be honest, women can be kind or careless, but no matter who they get along with, you must be reserved.
Just as Maugham wrote in "The Moon and Sixpence":
At that time, I didn't understand how paradoxical human nature was. I didn't know that there might be pretentiousness under the sincerity and sincerity, and there might be despicable shamelessness hidden behind the noble character.
People’s hearts cannot see through. You will never know what the person who smiles at you will look like after turning around.
Therefore, keeping three points in everything is to be responsible for your own life.
Three women use their personal experience to tell you: no matter how careless women are, these three things must be hidden in their hearts. Don’t just talk to everyone
Yao Xiaoqiong, 34 years old, company employee: Don’t tell your neighbors about the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Just talk to the people closest to you. Neighbors are really not suitable.
My mother-in-law and I didn’t get along very well, nor did it mean that it was just one person’s fault. It must be that both of us have something wrong.
My mother-in-law is a very old-fashioned person. She is very thrifty and has a relatively rigorous work.
And I spend a lot of money, like to buy clothes, and spend a lot of money on all kinds of food.
My mother-in-law doesn't like me, so she will talk about me, but sometimes her tone is not very good, so we can easily quarrel.
My husband doesn’t care about the relationship between me and my mother-in-law at all. If we let us handle it ourselves, I will be under a lot of pressure.
Moreover, my mother-in-law especially likes to tell the conflict between us to her neighbors. Maybe she wants to hear others say she is right and prove that I am wrong.
She often talks about the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and I must be unwilling to accept it. This is not my fault alone. She talks about it like this only will only destroy my reputation.
I couldn't help but talked about my resentment with my neighbors and told my mother-in-law about her unreasonable things.
But my neighbor spread what I said everywhere, saying it to everyone, and even demonized the relationship between me and my mother-in-law, saying that we are incompatible.
I was speechless after I found out. They added fuel to the fire and exaggerated the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Our reputation was ruined. My relationship with my mother-in-law reached a point where it was incompatible. Life was really sad.
"Do not bring up family scandals" are really reasonable. The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law really cannot be said casually.
He Jiani, 29 years old, kindergarten teacher: I did a stupid thing and said something private, and the relationship between husband and wife became particularly tense.
My husband and I were not particularly harmonious in their intimate behavior. I was a little dissatisfied and suspected that he had some problems.
But I wasn't sure, so I told my friend about this and asked her to give me an idea.
Unexpectedly, she not only did not help me, but also told me about it, which really hurt me.
She told others directly that my husband had physical problems and I was in a miserable state, and she felt sorry for me.
Then this incident is "one to ten, ten to hundreds", many people know about it, and my husband also knows about it.
Others pointed and pointed at my husband behind his back, and joked that he had problems, which might hurt him.
My husband blamed me when he came back and told the couple about their private affairs. He reacted very loudly and felt that his dignity had been trampled on.
I apologized to him many times, and no matter how I please him, he was indifferent.
A few days ago, he called his friend on the balcony. I heard part of it, he was hesitating whether to marry me.
I really didn't expect the situation to develop so seriously. Every second I regret not saying these things out, and my intestines are going to regret it.
Really, things related to men's dignity must not be said casually, because you can't control the situation.
You Lili, 28 years old, anchor: I accidentally revealed that my parents were not very satisfied with my boyfriend, and now my relationship with my boyfriend has become stiff.
My family has good conditions. Both my parents run businesses and have never suffered any hardships.
And my boyfriend came from a small place. Although he is also a well-off family, if I compare my family, there may still be a little gap.
My parents are not very willing to date my boyfriend. They think that with my appearance and family, I can find a man with good family conditions, at least better than my boyfriend now.
Although I said I didn’t agree with my parents’ opinions, I did realize the gap between us, and maybe I was a little concerned in my heart.
Once, he went out for dinner with his boyfriend. He told me that he wanted to go out for a trip with his friend and wanted to quit his job first.
When I heard him say this, I was definitely not satisfied. He actually quit his job for travel.
I felt that he was particularly unmotivated and did not consider our future at all for his own little "freedom".
I just said a few harsh words, meaning that no wonder my parents look down on him, he just doesn’t make any progress. After I finished speaking, I regretted it, and my boyfriend's face changed.
Later, he did not go on a trip and went to and from get off work step by step, but he just didn't contact me.
I also reflected on myself. I did hurt his self-esteem, and I regret it too.
Time and Emotional Class:
Some things feel different when you say them, and they will particularly hurt your feelings.
It's like conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, secret matters of husband and wife, parents' dissatisfaction, etc., it would rather rot in your stomach than say it out.
For the sake of quick success, I vented the matter at that time, but the consequences were beyond your control.
When doing things, you have no mind and no sense, and you should leave some way out for yourself. You must know that if you say many things, it is almost impossible to take them back.
The old saying also says: what you say is like splashing water.
You cannot predict what others think. Perhaps for you, it is just to vent your dissatisfaction, or you think that the other party can share the secret with you.
But many words have another meaning in the ears of others.
So, remind women that no matter how kind and simple you are, let the words you shouldn’t say be rotten in your heart.
