Introduction
people are so strange to live. Whatever it is? I always feel that others are often the best, just like marriage. Some people will compare marriages and think that other people’s husbands are good, other people’s wives are good, their own husbands are bad, and their own wives are bad. In fact, which pot has no dust on the bottom? It's just that you can't see it.
But some people don’t think so. They think they can find something better, so the two of them divorced in a mess for various reasons. Then after these people divorce, it is impossible for them to live alone for the rest of their lives. They will also find a marriage partner again, which has led to many second-marriage reorganization families now.
48-year-old sister Liu married a man 9 years older than her in the second marriage. So how did Sister Liu and her husband's life after marriage? Let’s take a look at what Sister Liu said? For the sake of everyone's understanding, I write it in the first person.
Narrator: 48-year-old sister Liu
My name is Liu Xinyi, and I am 48 years old this year. I now have three children. The eldest daughter was born with my ex-husband and my son and daughter were born with my remarried wife. But to be honest, our family of five was walking on the street and others couldn't tell at all that we were reorganized.
My first husband and I were junior high school classmates. I married him when I was 24 years old. Because the family's financial conditions were not good at that time, we did not have children after we got married. I gave birth to our baby daughter when I was 29 years old.
My husband and I have a good relationship, and we have a lot of things to do. For example, when I get to the house I buy, my husband will ask for my advice, what type of house to buy and which floor to buy? At what price is acceptable?
So small that he wants to ask for my opinion when buying sports shoes. See what color is right for him. He also asks me for his opinion when buying clothes. Actually, sometimes I don’t understand him, and I think he is very annoyed. Isn’t it okay to make decisions about things like this? Why ask me?
But then when I thought about it, I felt that I was wrong. In fact, my husband asked me, that was to respect me, and he was also good to me. Prove that I have a very important position in his heart. Especially after my daughter was born, my husband really held me in his palm.
I have been married to my husband for so long, and he never stayed at night. He would tell me wherever he went. I'm quite at ease with my husband. Because a person as honest and responsible as him can't do something that will be sorry for me.
My best friend is different. She takes her husband very tightly and he will ask wherever her husband goes. The key is that my best friend is often suspicious. I always feel that her husband has done something that I am sorry for her, so her husband is very disgusted with her.
Actually, I think couples should trust, support and help each other. Because the harmony of a family mainly depends on the attitude of the couple.
I am really grateful for meeting such a good husband. Although my husband’s family is not that good, I have reason to believe that after hard work, our small family will become better and better.
Just when we are full of hope for our future life, an accident suddenly came to our small family. My husband went out to work and had an accident and unfortunately he was electrocuted and died. My husband's life is always frozen at the age of 39.
My husband's unexpected death hit me very hard. Because after marriage, we both fell in love with each other, and suddenly we lost our backbone, and I will face all the difficulties in the future. I think it's scary when I think about it.
After my husband left, I became a different person. I don’t like to talk and live in my own world every day. I just don't want to go out and walk around at home.
But this really doesn't work because I have a cute daughter. My daughter depends on me. If I, a mother, continue like this, it will cause my daughter to be bad, so I must cheer up.
My daughter grows older and spends more and more at home. If I make money by myself, it will be really difficult to maintain. Besides, since my husband left.
I think everyone around us is pointing fingers at our family, and our family doesn’t eat their rice. I really don’t know what these people think. They are so full that they have nothing to do, and they talk about other people’s gossip behind their backs all day.
Several times my daughter came back crying and said to me. He said that others said his dad was a bad person, so he was electrocuted. How could these people say this? My husband died, this was an accident. How could I say such words in front of a child? The child was injured.
So for my daughter, I decided to leave the place that made me sad. To give my daughter a good environment. Later I went to the city next to us to live.
Just arrived at a place and was unfamiliar with the place, it was really troublesome. Fortunately, I have a distant relative in this strange city. When I first came to this city, I had to thank her very much for helping me, so I have to thank her very much.
Similarly, my second marriage is also a link between me, a distant relative. Because I just arrived in this city and didn't know anyone, I often went to my relatives' houses for dinner. The key is that I am a relative who is very generous and doesn't care about these things.
My cousin, her husband is engaged in engineering. Then her husband had a man under him, who was very capable and helped my cousin's husband take care of everything in an orderly manner. So my cousin and brother-in-law often invite this man to come to his house for dinner, and his name is Li Chao.
As we go to eat more times, we get to know each other. Li Chao is nine years older than me. My cousin said that his first marriage ended many years ago. Because his ex-wife disliked him for not having money, she ran away with the rich man. The two of them have no children, and Li Chao still lives alone.
After understanding Li Chao, I think he has no bad behavior, but there is one thing he doesn’t like to talk. He proves it all by his actions. He is not like some men who are slick, so I finally understand why he hasn't remarried yet.
Later, after becoming more and more familiar with Li Chao, if I have any busy family, I would call him to help me. For example, if the electric lights in the house are broken or the showerhead in the bathroom are broken, I bought all the things back. A phone call came over, and it didn't take long for Li Chao to help me get it done.
The key is that when I get along with Li Chao, my daughter is also quite satisfied with this uncle. Of course, Li Chao is also very nice to my daughter. He often goes out with my daughter to play, buys toys and school supplies for her. This made me feel a little embarrassed.
Later, during a meal, my cousin asked me to go to the room and said I had something to tell me. It turned out that she wanted to match Li Chao with me. My cousin said that Li Chao is a very good person, but he just doesn’t like to talk, and he is pretty good in other aspects.
And I now bring another daughter, and it is really difficult to live alone. She said if we were two of us together, it would be good for both.
What my cousin said is indeed the truth, I thought about it, but I was afraid that Li Chao would not accept me, after all, I brought a scoop. But my cousin said that Li Chao didn't mind. Now the doubts in my heart were finally eliminated.
Since Li Chao doesn’t dislike us mother and daughter, then I will accept his confession. After accepting Li Chao's confession, he took me back to his house to meet his parents. I spent a short week with his parents, and his parents were very satisfied with me, my prospective daughter-in-law. Besides, I am also a reasonable person, and I am quite concerned about his parents.
Later we got married. Our wedding was very simple, just a meal between the two families. Because we are all second marriages, there is no bride price, nothing. But to be honest, I don’t care about those things, I just care that Li Chao is good to me and my daughter.
After marriage, I am mainly responsible for my daughter's life and study.Li Chao still works on his cousin's construction site. Li Chao is really an honest man.
He has a monthly salary of 7,000 yuan. He will take the initiative to hand over 6,500 yuan to me, so he will leave 500 yuan himself. I think a man can only have some money, so I only have 5,000 yuan a month, and he holds 2,000 yuan in his own hands.
But I found that Li Chao is really a good husband, and he holds the 2,000 yuan in his hand every month. He spent 1,500 yuan on us. She often buys us two clothes online and other daily necessities. On the contrary, he is very stingy with himself. He can wear a piece of clothing for several years and a pair of shoes for two or three years.
The third year after we got married, I was naturally conceived by and gave birth to a pair of twins . This made Li Chao very happy, and his parents were also happy. After all, Li Chao finally became a father. And his parents finally became grandparents. And two little babies came at once. Li Chao joked that it was really that the smoke was coming from his ancestral grave.
With the arrival of two little babies, the pressure in our family is getting greater and greater. Fortunately, my daughter was older at this time and could help me share some housework. She also knows how to take care of her younger brothers and sisters.
Although Li Chao has his own biological baby, he still treats my daughter like a daughter, which touched me very much. And my parents-in-law are also as good as my eldest daughter, which is really rare.
I took care of two children at home until I was three years old. Because we had to have too much pressure on life, I handed over the child to my grandparents and went out to work. I wanted to relieve my husband's financial pressure.
Because I also have to take care of two little babies, I chose the hourly worker. Because the hourly work time is relatively free, and you can get a salary immediately after you finish it. The moment the employer paid me the salary, I felt that all the efforts were worth it.
Sometimes I think fate is really teasing, but I am very grateful that I could meet a husband like Li Chao when I was married. Because in my heart, I feel that my first husband is the one who loves me the most in the world. I really didn't expect to meet such a good husband after the second marriage.
Our family of five is very happy now, although we don’t have a lot of money. I didn't live in a big house or drive a luxury car. But everyone has a different definition of happiness. Now, we two in-laws rely on our own hands to earn money to raise our three children, which I think is a kind of happiness.
Conclusion
Sister Liu is a lucky woman. Although she failed to grow old with her first husband. I can't enjoy all the care I brought to her for a long time. But Sister Liu met a good husband like Li Chao during her second marriage.
Li Chao not only treats Sister Liu's eldest daughter like a biological daughter, but also treats Sister Liu like a pearl in her hand. It is enough to love her very much.
so Sister Liu is really lucky. Li Chao is also a good father. Sister Liu risked her life to give birth to a pair of twins for Li Chao. Now their family of five lives a simple and ordinary life. I think this is something to be proud of for Sister Liu and Li Chao.
Many second-marriage families live a mess, because people who are second-marriage have their past emotional experiences and other factors, so many people will not be happy.
However, there are also a few people who have had a happy second marriage. Just like Sister Liu and Li Chao, although Li Chao is nine years older than Sister Liu, this does not affect their relationship at all.
If you are a second marriage, your second marriage partner will come to live with you with your son or daughter. Can you treat the other party’s children like Li Chao as your own biological children? You are welcome to express your views in the comment section.
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