Brothers, I don’t know how old you are? Are you 30 years old? The reason I want to ask you about your age is because when you meet girls who are divorced and who are still using the word love, I feel it is a bit inappropriate. Of course, if you are a young man in your 20s, I think it is OK to use the word love, but why do you feel awkward?
I am 36 years old this year, I should be a few years older than you, but I haven’t remembered the word love for more than ten years. I must have said it, but for more than ten years, I have never remembered that there is this word in the world, because after experiencing the hardships of life, everything that loves or not is nonsense! In fact, we are all about living a life, and those who love or not are the questions that the young men talk to the girls, which is what the school says. In society, in families with children, it makes no sense to talk about whether you love or not? That's more about responsibility and habits.
So if you say you fall in love with a girl with a child, how can you convince your family to accept this? I think first of all, you still have to figure out the details yourself. How does this girl feel about you? Do you want to make do with you, or do you want you to help her pay her mortgage, or do you want you to help her raise her children? After we figure out these issues, we will make a decision, or we will live together for a while, and then see if there is any major friction between the two parties during this residence? Let's make a decision again.
Why do we have to be so entangled about this issue? This is because it is not that we have any special views on divorced girls, but when a girl has a child, her life stage is completely different. She has 80% of her mind spent on her children, and the child is still holding the rope at the other end. His father will influencing the harmony of your family at any time. I asked you whether you have considered this? In this case, marriage is definitely not a problem for you two, nor is it a problem for you two families. If you don’t do it well, it’s a problem for three families or even four families. You have to think carefully.
So I agree with your family, so that you don’t make decisions too impulsively, live a while, be calm, and be both parties are fine, recognize yourself, and understand each other, and find out your background to see if you have the ability to bear all this? Don't end up being empty.
