July 25, 2021, my father was buried.
After Mr. html helped us complete all the programs, let us return.
said, "Go forward, don't look back."
really want to look back at my father. I left my father alone in the wilderness, and I felt so reluctant. My father is such a home-loving person!
Brother Chu told me that when I went to visit my father on July 15, I bought a box of glossy wax, wiped the two white lions waiting for my father, and put them on wax to prevent the lion from turning yellow and cracking when the wind and sun blow.
Follow Brother Chu's arrangements, everything was ready, and I just waited until July 15th was approaching before I went to visit my father.
The epidemic is still happening intermittently.
There are still ten days left to July fifteenth. On this day, I received a text message from the cemetery in my hometown: "The park is closed on July 15th, and all sacrificial activities will be stopped. The park will hold a ceremony to commemorate the deceased relatives on its behalf."
We can only abide by national regulations and be a good citizen to make our father feel at ease.
day after day, time flies, and it is the twelfth lunar month again in a blink of an eye.
Spring Festival ancestor worship , which is also an indispensable content. What's more, after my father was buried, he has not visited him again.
The thoughts in my heart are lingering, and the worries of the epidemic are always invading my heart. This is the norm during this period.
Still called Director Xu to inquire about the management situation there during the Spring Festival. Director Xu said: "We are not easy to grasp. Some things are notified temporarily and executed immediately. I ask me to call him often to ask."
What a enthusiastic person! I replied to me again and again with queries.
discussed with my brother and sisters, and first told me what I thought: "On January 15, 2022, my child and I took my baby home and went to visit my father's grave on the 16th. It happened to be Laba Festival. I didn't wait for the New Year to be over, and I was afraid that the cemetery would be closed."
My brother has a bus at home and is busy every day.
Although the older sister goes to work, she rests on weekends.
Brother said, "After seeing the days, I said that it is suitable for visiting the grave on the 17th."
Finally, I followed my brother's opinion and went to visiting the grave on the 17th.
My little sister and my daughter asked for leave. The eldest sister went to work normally, and her brother-in-law went to visit her father on her behalf.
This is the first time I have visited my father after burying him in the cemetery.
Director Xu said that the subsequent construction of the cemetery has not started yet. The only tomb to the west of my father has already moved in. If your neighbors have neighbors, your father will not be so lonely. He is free and can play two mahjongs!
Brother said, "When my dad was alive, I didn't like to lean against the house I lived. Fortunately, my dad is not the most out of the way."
I haven't heard my dad say it!
I thought to myself: "Thanks to choose the one that is not the one that is next to me for my dad. Although it will continue to expand to the west in the future, if I choose the one that is next to me, my dad will feel uncomfortable for the time being."
After visiting my father's grave, I was monitored by the community and signed a letter of commitment. I stayed at home for three days, so I couldn't leave anywhere. The health code turned into a yellow code!
The desolation in the west of my father continued until the spring of 2022.
Due to the epidemic, during the Qingming Festival, I received a text message reminder from the cemetery that the Qingming Festival was also closed.
I always pay attention to the epidemic control situation in the two places. It was not until after May Day that the control was a little relaxed that I was able to go home to see my mother.
The next day, I went to the flower shop to order a bouquet of flowers, and took my father's favorite fruits, dishes and snacks to visit my father at the cemetery.
Behind my father, the newly built cemetery has been sold to the public. Each tombstone has different shapes, different colors, and different fonts. The times are developing rapidly, and even cemeteries are pursuing fashion.
The west side of my father, construction has indeed started, and all four rows of bases have initial shapes.Director Xu is right, but the construction project is a little late.
July 15th, when I went to visit my father again, all the follow-up projects of the four rows were completed and were sold.
Our brother and sister were also fathers who visited in advance.
When we went, my father was crowded with men and women visiting his relatives, next to my father's house, the children were burning incense and crying. It must be because they missed too much!
The most eye-catching thing is that on the west side of my father, there are three tall and mighty women posing tributes in a newly built tomb. I felt that I couldn't even put up the items that had been brought in by passengers and freight. There were all kinds of round watermelons, chubby salt-baked chicken, big elbows with meat, and big white and fat steamed buns!
I was thinking, how did they make things come up? It’s good to be fat, and they are energetic!
A sister lit paper and started burning it. Isn’t it already prohibited to burn paper in the cemetery!
is fine, it should be just three pieces of paper. The fire was soon extinguished.
Looking back at the things I brought to my father, I felt a little shy. Compared with others, we are like poor people.
In terms of attitude towards deceased relatives, my thoughts cannot be in the same frame as my family.
I have always believed that although relatives have left us, they exist in another form, and they can see and perceive what we do.
Mother and family believe that buying good things to go to the grave is a waste. They think the saying is right: "I am unfilial to live, and I scream when I die." It is useless.
However, I think if my father had spirit in heaven, he would definitely not think that my approach was for others to see. Before he left, he also understood this truth.
Standing in front of my father's monument, thinking of my father lying inside, my tears flowed down my face again. Although I still miss my father with great pain, I will no longer be like when my father was blocked outside the iron fence and cried helplessly. I will no longer be like when I was sent away, kneeling in the direction of my father leaving!
Before I retired, I was also a well-known staff member, but I couldn’t extricate myself from the departure of my father! No matter how I cried secretly, I always thought that my father would stop moving away when he heard my crying.
After all, I couldn’t call back my father!
is so tearing!
"Wenxingyuan", a person who loved studying so much during his lifetime, he would definitely like this name. Now, the garden where my father is located is decorated with flowers, plants and trees, the road is neat and smooth, the front is endless, the mountains and forests are dependent on each other, winter is warm and summer is cool, birds and insects are accompanying each other, it is so unhappy!
After visiting my father on July 15, I suddenly felt enlightened. I did not choose the wrong place I chose for my father. I think it is particularly ideal, and my father will definitely be very satisfied!
The position of the father is neither biased nor oblique nor leaned against the edge. Thank you very much for Director Xu for helping me choose this good place that suits my father!
The cemetery I bought for my father was not used to pay for my brother and sister. We used the money we saved from our father's savings during his lifetime. My good brother helped save 5,200 yuan.
From buying a cemetery for my father to burial, the cost of getting favors and savings were basically the same. I alone bear all these expenses, and I didn't tell my mother or report the accounts with my brothers and sisters. I just want to be a daughter, and while I can do my best to my father, I can also make my mother feel at ease!
Father is gradually making me feel at ease!
