I have the idea of divorce, it has been more than 3 years!
To outsiders, I am very happy. My husband’s family is a wholesale of fresh vegetables and the business is very good. In other people’s words, money flows into my pockets.
I don’t have to work, just take good care of the children and do housework at home.
No one understands it, and no one knows the pain in it!
My husband Han Chi and I met on a blind date. We introduced our cousin who knew him, and I was also my former colleague. At that time, I worked as an kindergarten teacher in a private kindergarten.
Han Chi is very handsome. When he was in love, he said, "When we get married, I will enjoy our happiness at home, I will support you!"
This is the most caring love words for men and women in love, and it is also the biggest trap after marriage!
Not long after I got married, I got pregnant. The whole family was very happy and asked me to quit my job and raise my baby at home. This is the most wrong decision I made and I didn’t choose to stay.
Han Chi said, you have to have a good meal and don’t lose my son; my parents-in-law also whispered to each other, and I felt disgusted by shouting.
I said, don’t talk about a son, what if it’s a daughter? She will be sad when she hears it! Han Chi said, don’t say unlucky words!
When my daughter was born, I saw the disappointed look of the family. My mother-in-law said in front of me, "Oh, this is useless to do anything! What's the use of making so much money?"
I was so angry that I cried. Han Chi said, "Daughter, let's have a daughter. When you have better health, let's have another son!"
My mother-in-law is a very good performer. She carries chicken, fish, meat and eggs every noon and walks into the crowd.
The neighbor greeted her and said, "I have to change the style of cooking for my daughter-in-law. She has a bad appetite and can only eat a little bit if she changes her style!"
In fact, I have to cook all the dishes she takes home. If I don't, she will only cook the meals for the three of them. I can only eat noodles!
My daughter cried at night, and Han Chi felt quarreled and asked me to carry her to the living room, saying that he would get up early to make money, so that he would not affect his rest!
I cried countless times for a whole month! I even thought about taking my daughter to jump off the building, but in the end it was my daughter's crying that brought back my rationality.
After the full month, I lost more than 10 kilograms. My mother said, "Your mother-in-law's house sells vegetables, nothing delicious! How can you be so mean?"
I have a sister and a younger brother, and my parents don't care much about me. My sister-in-law is pregnant, and my mother is busy taking care of her. She has never been there any time except for the day of the wedding reception during the whole confinement period!
Mother-in-law smiled and said, "Oh, ask about the neighbors around me. I brought the freshest meat and vegetables from the store every day and made them in different ways. She put them down after a few bites. I feel even more anxious than you!"
I didn't say anything, and I may not care about anything, so I don't expect it!
After a full month, my mother-in-law said that her back pain was severe and that they were old and could not make trouble. I have to cook for lunch, and they have to eat and rest immediately when they come back.
I said I took my daughter with me and couldn’t even drink saliva, so how could I have time to cook?
But the mother-in-law said, "A girl, just cry!" She can also delay work because of her!
I had a fight with Han Chi for this and he said, "My home provides you with food and drink, and it's not okay to ask you to cook some food? Should my mother cook and wash clothes every day?"
I said, "The child is young, and it's very hard for me to take care of her alone. How can I have time to do housework?"
I really don't have time to cook. When they came back, they saw that there was no food. Han Chi got angry and wanted to hit me. My parents-in-law pulled him out.
They came back after finishing their meal outside, bring me some leftovers!
When my daughter was one year old, my mother-in-law began to give birth to: Who has a grandson who is only one year old, and her second child has another grandson!
I said, you should help me see the child, don’t want me to do housework, I will give birth to a child too! There was no sound for a moment.
Who knows my difficulties this year? Even my parents, siblings, say that I will not enjoy my blessings, but such a big family business makes me look like a beggar.
Aren’t I just beggar? He didn't give me the money he earned. He took the chicken, fish, meat, eggs and vegetables at home from the store, and he paid the property water and electricity by himself.
I asked him for money to buy diapers and milk powder for my daughter. He asked carefully, and then he didn't give me a penny! I even told him if I bought a bag of sanitary napkins!
I want to get a divorce, I really can’t live such a life!
But what do I take? I have no job, no savings, and no family to rely on!
I can only rely on myself!
My daughter is only over 1 year old now. At this time, I have to think about how to support me and my children before I can be qualified to say divorce.
I take care of my children, and many jobs are not suitable for me. Not only does time allow it, but low salary may not necessarily support me and my children.
I thought about many industries, but later I was rejected one by one: I have no experience when going out to work, and no one looks at children; opening a store is very risky, and I have no principal.
When I was at a loss, a friend of mine called me and asked me if I had any plans to work?
She, like me, resigned after getting married, and now she is old and wants to find a job again. She said she wanted to open a parent-child kindergarten. We both have kindergarten teacher certificate and can open a parent-child kindergarten together.
This is a huge good thing! But I backed off when she was next: she wanted me to invest!
She said, your husband is a big boss and his family has money. You can invest, I will manage, and let’s make money together!
If I have the right to control money, even if I only have a few thousand yuan a month, I don’t want to be a single mother!
I told her about my situation and said that I don’t want to give up. I hope she can help me. Let’s find a way to solve the money problem.
She rejected me, not even a reason! Only then did I realize that the reason she came to me was to ask me to invest in her.
After this incident, I also gave up my fantasy and felt that it is more practical to work hard to earn money.
My mother-in-law said that they would not come back from now on, and the store added work. They were eating and living in the store, and asked me to go to the store to clean up the dirty clothes in two days.
This is exactly what I want. They are not at home. I have time to see what is suitable for my job.
After two months of running around, I found my first job: working as a teacher in a kindergarten.
This is a private kindergarten, not far from my home. All the children of the surrounding residents are collected, and the salary is not high, but they can take their daughter to work.
My husband and I told me that my daughter is going to school and I will pick her up and drop her off on time. I don’t have time to wash clothes on weekdays, so I will wash them together on weekends.
He didn't even ask the child where he went to school or how much tuition was, but just said impatiently: "You have nothing to do at home, you can spend more money to go to kindergarten!"
I ignored him. Now I really feel annoying to say anything more. It's really sad for the couple to do this!
When I got my first month’s salary of 3,000 yuan, I burst into tears happily and bought my daughter a particularly beautiful dress! This is my first step towards freedom!
People have entered society and their horizons have become wider. I feel that making money is not that difficult.
3,000 per month, which is far from enough for my daughter and I. If I really divorced, I can’t support her!
I am not worried that they will fight for my daughter with me, because they care nothing except making money.
I began to pay attention to various part-time jobs, not to make money, but just thinking about finding opportunities.
I see many children's studios, basically some art school students help with substitutes, and the quality is average.
My children are drawing well, which is the basic skill of kindergarten teachers. I want to run such a school myself. I will communicate with my parents. The tuition fee is lower and I will do my best to do my best.
At this time, my daughter was already three years old, and my husband and I were not as good as passers-by. He was addicted to making money and often didn’t see anyone for a month or two.
I calculated it, rented a house, bought some paper, pen and toys, tables, chairs, benches, etc. It costs about 30,000 yuan, and my salary this year is enough.
The children's studio was open very smoothly. In the first year of its opening, I earned more than my salary.
With money and career, I filed for divorce. I looked at him and looked at me like a fool: Can you live without me?
I didn’t say much, it’s useless to not say anything speculative. I only have the custody of my daughter, and he gives her 1,500 living expenses a month, which is enough.
On the day of the divorce, I cried and persisted for more than three years. Finally, I no longer have to live that kind of life without dignity! I don’t know what the days after
will be like, but I will face them calmly.
