(original by Rongrong, infringement will be prosecuted)
Introduction:
Household violence The topic is always heavy!
Every woman who enters marriage is looking forward to a happy and fulfilling life.
But if she meets a man who is rough on her, her life will be difficult.
. Among them, the factors of the mother's family seem very important. It can be said that if the mother's family is strong enough, then the woman may be abused by domestic violence.
Let’s take a look at Xiaomei’s story. How did her parents’ reaction when she was abused!
Xiaomei remembers that when she was still in college, there was a relative gathering, and someone said to Xiaomei's mother, "Your daughter is so quiet and beautiful, you will definitely find a good husband in the future."
Xiaomei's mother said, "I don't ask for the future son-in-law to be rich and powerful. As long as he can be nice to Xiaomei and not bully her."
Xiaomei's mother said this because Xiaomei was a little too quiet and had been timid since she was a child. She liked to keep her in her heart if she had any grievances.
So she was worried that her daughter would be bullied when she got married in the future.
Xiaomei felt that her mother's worries were completely redundant. She had never had domestic violence with relatives and friends around her. How could she meet her?
After Xiaomei worked, someone introduced Liu Lei.
The two met and were satisfied with each other, so they got along.
Liu Lei is not tall, looks OK, has a good job, and speaks quite kindly.
Xiaomei's mother cares most about his temper, so let Xiaomei pay more attention.
Two months later, Xiaomei said truthfully, "Liu Lei has a good temper and has never been angry with me." After half a year of staying at
, Xiaomei's mother asked Xiaomei to take Liu Lei home for dinner, and she wanted to see each other in person.
Liu Lei is very polite and good at talking. His first time, in addition to buying gifts for Xiaomei’s parents, he also bought toys for Xiaomei’s brother’s children. After
Liu Lei visited Xiaomei's house many times. Xiaomei's family has a good impression of him and thinks that Xiaomei will be happy after marrying him.
However, after Xiaomei got married, Liu Lei changed soon.
At first, he was quite considerate and shared the housework with Xiaomei. Later, he gradually did less and less, and then he simply did nothing.
Xiaomei said to him once, but he said, "housework should be done by women. Which big man did housework every day?"
"My father and brother in my family took the initiative to do housework, and my male colleagues also helped his wife do housework." Xiaomei said.
Liu Lei said, "Who told you not to marry someone like this at that time? Anyway, I just don't like to do housework, what can you do?"
Xiaomei was very sad, but her personality made her not say anything, and she silently took on everything herself.
She thought that only by being more tolerant can she gain family harmony.
But the contrary, Liu Lei thought she was easy to bully. Not only did she not do housework, she also shouted to Xiaomei at all times.
Sometimes the work is not going well, and when you go home, you will quarrel with Xiaomei.
Xiaomei was so aggrieved that she cried many times. Not only did Liu Lei not feel sorry for her, she thought she was too annoyed.
Finally one day, Liu Lei was scolded by his leader and started to pick on his face when he got home, saying that Xiaomei’s food was not delicious, and he said a lot of things.
Xiaomei said, "I used to make these dishes like this. Didn't you say they were delicious?"
"I used to love them, but do you still love them now? Why don't you ask me what I want to eat before cooking?" Liu Lei said.
Xiaomei, "I am also working and very busy. After work, I go to the vegetable market to buy vegetables and go home to cook. How can I ask you? If I do it late, you will be angry again."
Liu Lei, "Why don't you recognize your mistake? Are you a wife like this? Even if you are not satisfied with your husband's meals, it's useless."
Xiaomei was also angry, "I am not a housewife, and I earn the money for buying vegetables myself. Why do you ask me to serve you? The couple should be equal. Now is not the time for men to be superior to women."
Who would have thought that as soon as she finished speaking, Liu Lei raised his hand and slapped her twice, "Did you still learn to talk back to me? I think you are just looking for a fight! "
After saying that, he hit him twice.
Xiaomei was stunned. When she came to her senses, Liu Lei had already slammed the door and left, and her face also hurt.
looked in the mirror and saw that his face was red and swollen.
Since childhood, how could he have suffered such grievances? Xiaomei cried sadly.
She wanted to call her mother to complain, but Another thought, would Liu Lei be even more angry if he knew that he had complained to his parents? Wouldn't he be even more angry?
Thinking of this, she was very scared and decided to endure it alone.
The next day, after arriving at the unit, her colleague soon found that her face was red and swollen.
"Xiaomei, what's going on with your face? "Sister Li met Xiaomei's mother and asked her with great concern.
" It was bitten by a mosquito. "Xiaomei lowered her head and said.
"Mosquito?" It's October, where are there any mosquitoes? "Sister Li said in surprise, looking at Xiaomei's appearance again, and then he became suspicious, "Xiaomei, to be honest, have you been beaten by Liu Lei? "
" No, no. "Xiaomei whispered, and quickly turned her head.
Sister Li is a veteran. Of course she could see this clearly. She knew that Xiaomei's personality was too cowardly, but she secretly called Xiaomei's mother and told her that Xiaomei might have been called by Liu Lei.
"What? "Xiaomei's mother was anxious when she heard this.
Her baby daughter was beaten by her son-in-law. Is this so good?
She planned to call her when Xiaomei was resting at noon and asked if Liu Lei had taken action.
Xiaomei didn't want to tell her mother, but when she heard her mother's voice, she could no longer control her grievances. She cried while telling the various situations after marriage.
"You stupid child, why didn't you tell her parents about this? "Xiaomei's mother couldn't help but complain.
"I'm afraid he will get angry and treat me even worse. "Xiaomei said.
Xiaomei's mother: "Then you haven't said that, has he thanked you? Have you been nice to you? I'm still becoming more and more presumptuous! Xiaomei, what does her parents’ family do? It is to support you when you are bullied! ”
Xiaomei felt that her mother was right: “What should I do? "
" Just do it like that. "Xiaomei's mother told her daughter on the phone.
When she was about to get off work, Xiaomei called Liu Lei: "What do you want to eat for dinner? I'll do it for you. "
" This is quite reasonable," Liu Lei said, ordering a few dishes.
Liu Lei hit Xiaomei for the first time last night. He was nervous and afraid what to do if it really happened?
and he was thinking about whether to go home tonight.
Now Xiaomei called him like nothing happened, and he was relieved.
This woman is easy to bully!
But he never expected that as soon as he came home from get off work, he had just entered the door, and before he could see clearly, he was slapped several times in the face and kicked.
"Who hits me! "Liu Lei shouted, and he felt that the corners of his mouth were broken, with a slight smell of fishy smell.
"Me! "Brother Xiaomei said.
Liu Lei only saw it at this time. Not only did Xiaomei sister-in-law come, but Xiaomei's parents also came, staring at him fiercely from the opposite side.
He wanted to run away when he was nervous, but Brother Xiaomei grabbed the collar and took it back.
Xiaomei is amateur fitness, and has muscle mass. Liu Lei is really not a match.
"I know why I hit you?" "Brother Xiaomei asked.
Liu Lei nodded, "I know. "
" Then do you know what should you do? "Brother Xiaomei asked again.
"I apologize! Parents, brothers and sisters-in-law, I was wrong. I shouldn’t have hit Xiaomei impulsively last night, and I will definitely not dare to do it in the future. "Liu Lei said hurriedly.
Xiaomei's mother said angrily, "You not only want to apologize to us, but also to Xiaomei! If she refuses to forgive you, we will call the police immediately and divorce tomorrow!"
Xiaomei's father also said angrily, "I look down on the man who beats my wife the most. Although my daughter is not spoiled, it is also the pearl in our hands. When I handed her to you, you promised me to take good care of her. Is that what you took care of? I heard that you don't do anything at home now, and you often find fault and vent your anger!"
Xiaomei's brother became more and more angry as he heard it. He rolled up his sleeves and slapped him up again.
Liu Lei was frightened and hurriedly ran to Xiaomei, "Xiaomei, I was wrong. Forgive me, you can beat me, you can vent your anger, I won't dare to do it anymore in the future! I will definitely not dare!"
Xiaomei shed tears.
"I'll write a guarantee letter now!" After Liu Lei said that, he used paper and pen to write a guarantee letter, and handed it to Xiaomei after writing it.
"Xiaomei, are you willing to forgive him? If you forgive, give him a chance. If you don't forgive, we will take you home now and get divorced tomorrow morning!" Xiaomei's parents asked her.
Xiaomei looked at Liu Lei, and Liu Lei looked at her nervously and pitifully.
Xiaomei said, "Give him another chance."
"Did you hear it?" Brother Xiaomei asked, "My sister is generous and willing to forgive you. You know what you should do in the future. If there is another time, I will definitely not let you go! And I will never let my sister live with you again. She is gentle and kind, and you will find a husband who is good to her if you leave!"
Xiaomei's sister-in-law also immediately expressed her opinion: "Yes, we will always be Xiaomei's backing, and no one is allowed to bully her!"
Liu Lei hurriedly expressed his opinion.
He really couldn't imagine that his parents-in-law and brother-in-law were both intellectuals and usually spoke very kindly, but today they all became another group of people. They were so majestic!
The matter was finally solved, and Liu Lei took the initiative to go to the kitchen to cook, and after that, he ate with Xiaomei's family.
After the meal, my mother's family left.
Xiaomei felt a little uneasy. Liu Lei was in a very embarrassed just now. I wonder if he would get angry with him anymore.
But unexpectedly, Liu Lei not only did not get angry, but also took the initiative to wash the dishes, mop the floor, and also gave Xiaomei foot washing water.
From then on, Liu Lei changed.
no longer pushes all housework to Xiaomei, and no longer quarrels with her.
usually cares about her well-being and cares a lot, and she never asked Xiaomei to do housework again.
Xiaomei finally understood that blindly tolerant is not the solution to the problem, and cowardice cannot be exchanged for the other party's sympathy, which can only make her situation worse and worse!
She thanks for having such a powerful family, and knows that happiness and respect are important to strive for themselves, rather than to make others give alms by weakness and pity.
Miss Rongrong:
Domestic violence, you should not endure it once, and you cannot choose to remain silent.
can not get divorced, but the other party must understand that he is wrong, and you are not a person who is tolerant without bottom line!
If the other party’s bad habits are difficult to change, then you should leave as soon as possible and do not let yourself be in danger!
Patience is a good quality, but for the perpetrator, it can only encourage his arrogance, make himself increasingly weak, and make violent things worse and worse!
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