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was written at the beginning:
There was a message in the backstage:
"I have been breaking up for three months.
A few days ago, I had a high fever and diarrhea, and I felt so uncomfortable that I called him. Unexpectedly, when he heard my voice, he came to pick me up and went to the hospital, and he left after I finished the drip.
His concern made me feel that we did not break up. I was confused. Does he still love me, so I called him to express my gratitude and offered to invite him to a meal, but he refused coldly. What does he mean?"
can be seen that many women, if they still love each other after they have broken off the connection, what they most long for is that the other party can respond to her, and they can miss her, and have a chance to make the two of them reconcile.
seems to be "a trick of a devil", but in fact they are all "what you want".
But love is actually very straightforward for men.
In other words, if he can't let you go, he will not be able to control his actions, use all kinds of methods, and want to have a reconnect with you... because he doesn't want you to leave him just now.
In short, if a man still misses you after the disconnection, his actions will be proactive and his words will be confident.
-02-
is not "lost contact"
is the real disconnection, it is not the two people who delete each other's phone number and block each other's WeChat, but the emotional one will not be moved by each other's emotions.
Therefore, breaking up is not losing contact, but emotionally no longer exposes one's own sense of needs and no longer having love for the other person spiritually.
In other words, I completely don’t love it.
is like, in our example above, women are not really "disconnected", while men seem to have not disconnected from her, but in fact they have entered the disconnected mode in their hearts.
In life, most couples enter the "disconnection" stage, which is generally divided into two types:
One is what we mentioned above, and the other is temporarily losing contact. One or both parties are waiting for the other party to take the initiative to contact themselves, waiting for the other party to take the initiative to win back themselves.
So, if the relationship between two people is the first, then most of the formal breakup has begun.
However, if the two people have the second state, then in this case, there is probably a possibility of "reconciliation".
In the process of love, there will be some twists and turns and tests.
But if you still love it, it will definitely be difficult to control yourself. Your photos will still be saved in his mobile phone. He will search your circle of friends over and over again. He will look back and forth on your chat records several times...
In short, if a person can't let you go after breaking up, and he still loves you very much, he will definitely be unable to help but come to you again.
-03-
The mentality of men and women "still miss each other" after they broke off the connection is different
I once saw a post where a girl said:
"For a long time, I have been to have dinner and always like to find two seats. I will buy two tickets when I watch movies. I always think, what if we meet again one day?
But in fact, I am the only one myself."
shows that if a woman still loves people from the past, she will be obsessed with listening to love songs and loop back and forth singles.
She will be immersed in her lost emotions and cannot extricate herself, but she will not take the initiative to contact the other person, because women will have strong self-esteem, and she will feel that if the other person still loves her, she will definitely come to her first.
However, men's psychology is exactly the opposite.
If he can't let go, he will not let his feelings of loss flood. He will do his best to find girls again. Even if there are new people around the girl, he will try to conquer them again.
Therefore, in the emotional view of men and women, a love seems to be irrelevant to each other, but most of the time, it is driven forward by men.
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After the disconnection, a man "misses you" directly expressed: with confidence, he took the initiative to find you
Love seems elegant, but it is actually the most vulgar.
Because, after the disconnection is broken, it must be the final choice made by the two people for this relationship after calming down.
So, women must distinguish whether you really want to reconcile with you when you are approaching, or are you bored to contact you, pass the time, or look for a night of joy.
backstage saw a woman's message, she said:
"After my boyfriend and I broke up, he would come to me repeatedly because I actually love him in my heart, so every time he comes, I am very happy. I always thought that he wanted to make peace with me, but every day after he left, he would think that nothing had happened to us, as if our relationship had turned into an affair. What was he going to do?"
In fact, when a discerning person sees this passage, he can understand that a man doesn’t want to be with her at all, but there is no other suitable woman around him, so he comes to find her.
Women should understand that after the disconnection, men make choices after experiencing many calm thinking.
If he still misses you and wants to reconcile with you, he will not be cold and hot towards you, nor will he be unsure of you, but will bring his determination to win back your heart.
Even if you have no desire to reconcile for him, he will want to conquer you again.
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After disconnecting, the more you can improve yourself, the less you are afraid that he will "forget you"
has seen a TV lens.
A woman broke up with a man, and the man came to her again, so in order to verify the man's wishes, she deliberately blocked the other party's WeChat.
The man didn't contact her for several days, until the sixth day, he appeared downstairs of the women's company and asked to invite her to dinner. The woman refused. The man directly pulled her into the car, but did not go to the restaurant, but went to his home, and the table was full of a sumptuous dinner he had prepared carefully.
can be seen that if a person cannot let you go, he will not give up easily, but will remain calm. He will not make a rash move, but will approach you again and again, disintegrating your heart bit by bit.
So, if a man still loves you, you don’t have to worry that your relationship will be broken due to the disconnection.
After all, I have loved each other before, and no one will forget each other very quickly. If you can't let go of
, you will definitely come to show your kindness again and again.
The only thing you need to understand is: your reconciliation is not because you are moved by him, but because you really feel that you will become better when you are with him.
You must also be clear: whether it is during the disconnection or after reconciliation, in the man's mind, he will always compare your image in these two stages.
So, don’t forget to improve yourself at any time, so that you will not be afraid of disconnection. Because you know very well that you can still attract him back now.
Author, calm fox
picture, Internet
May you find the deep affection in my words in the ordinary years! Thanks for your attention!
