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From this communication, we can clearly see that this mother's marriage life is unhappy, at least the inner feelings she brings to herself are tired and difficult. Why does she feel like this in ? Some people may say, "It's because her husband does not do enough", or some people may say, "She did not marry the right person..."
Yes, in most cases, in our thinking, we will think that "the reason for the unhappy marriage is in others." When we feel unhappy and uncomfortable in a marriage relationship, our instinctive first reaction is "What aspects does he (partner) do not do enough, making us unhappy!"
is like a concept conveyed by some parents to their children, "When they grow up, they find a good man to marry." In fact, this is one of the reasons why many people are unhappy in their marriage, which is to place their hopes of happiness in marriage on others and on the so-called "partner".
The logic is also very simple, that is, When we place our hopes on others, our focus will subconsciously focus on others and ignore ourselves.
In this case, when we encounter some unsatisfactory things in our marriage life, no matter whether our partner is doing well or not, we will blame him (her) and complain about him (her). When a person is complained for a long time, what follows is accusation and complaints between each other, which will fall into a vicious cycle and it will be difficult to manage a happy marriage life.
Then what should we do to better manage a happy marriage life? If you want to run a happy marriage life, we must first be clear: Who is the enemy that affects our marriage happiness? Through our observations of various marriage phenomena in real life, it is not difficult to find that the enemy of happy marriage in is "our ourselves".
So, if we want to make our marriage life happier, or to make us live happier in a marriage relationship, the first thing we need to do in is to "manage ourselves well", have a good attitude, and have a sunny, positive, optimistic and open-minded attitude.
A happy and harmonious marriage life is not something you can bear, but a good attitude after seeing through it. This will not only make us happier, but will also bring a positive and optimistic nourishment to our next generation, nourish our children, nourish their mind and mentality, plant a seed of positive energy in their lives, and help their future get better and better.
changyanchang language:
The strong enemy of a happy marriage is "self". . We need to clearly manage a happy marriage relationship. The three key points of are: ①. Marriage is the result of two people's joint management; ②. As long as we are not allowed to be hurt, no one or anything will hurt us. This is also the topic we are discussing today;
③. Don't endure marriage for the sake of your children, but change yourself for the sake of your children, and make your mentality better for your children and let yourself see more thoroughly about life. Children are born emotional experts. If we are not happy in our hearts, children will definitely be aware of it, which will affect the children's mentality. Therefore, we must first make ourselves happy, so that the children will be happy.
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