Introduction: The responsibility of marriage is not long-term love, but overcoming the boredom of each other. The beginning of a marriage may be due to love, but what can persist in this marriage must be the character of both parties. Only by working together, working together, and resisting all temptations from the bottom of your heart can the ship of marriage move forward smoothly.
The temptation of extramarital affair is the same for everyone. When your marriage is wrapped in food, food, food, and food, and food, and when your marriage is under pressure from mortgage and car loan, you want to break free from this cage and breathe.
Some people just think about it and instead seek breakthroughs in their own marriage, while others put it into action and dragged another person directly into their own marriage. Once a third party appears in a marriage, divorce will become the choice of many people.
Some people say that it is different to marry whom, but the person who can get happiness is often the person who knows how to cherish. For those cheating and interfering, it is difficult for them to get the kind of happiness they want in a fixed marriage. Therefore, when a mistress becomes a habitual third, the cheater often has 0 and countless differences.
There are no two people in this world who are perfectly matched. Only when both parties are working hard for this marriage will the marriage become better and better.
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Netizens ask for help: Will remarry a happy remarriage due to cheating? My ex-husband asked me to remarry, should I agree?
My ex-husband and I are in a free relationship. We have been dating for three years and we only got married after we felt that we were suitable for each other. When we first got married, we were both as good as one person, and we were inseparable no matter where we went. Later, our daughter was born, a little girl who looked particularly like him.
Because my parents-in-law were unwilling to help take care of the children, I could only continue to stay at home after taking maternity leave. At the beginning, he was able to understand me, but as time went by, he began to dislike me, thinking that I couldn’t do anything and wasted whatever I eat. In his original words, "If you don't go to work, you can't even take care of a child at home. Look at my colleague XX, who is a mother like you, how can he take care of both career and family?"
I said she must have someone to help her. If no one helps her, how could she take a child over one year old to work? Does your company allow it? If allowed, how about I go to your company to apply for a job fair?
He said I was unreasonable, saying I was just lazy, saying I gave up on work and work, and the children were not well taken care of, and even the housework could not be handled well. Because of the tedious housework, the child cried endlessly, and his dislike and incomprehension, I suffered from very serious depression , but he didn't care at all. He thought I was looking for trouble when I was fine, and thought I was both hardworking and lazy.
We often quarreled during that period, and I felt very wronged. He felt that he had married a wife who was unreasonable, unreasonable, and idle. Later, he cheated and was said to be in that kind of business with a girl with a not-so-nothing origin. For my daughter's sake, I tried to forgive him, but he didn't want my forgiveness. He said he wanted to save the woman and pull her out of the quagmire of self-degenerate, and he said he wanted to divorce me.
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When I divorced, my daughter and the house belonged to me (he was unwilling to do about the house, but when he got married, his family was not in good condition. Among the down payment of 150,000 yuan, the 100,000 yuan was given by my parents. After marriage, we paid the mortgage together, and it was not until I couldn't go to work because my children couldn't go to work.) The family's savings and car belonged to him, and the daughter's child support was 1,000 yuan per month. To be honest, the child support is not much, but he is unwilling to give more.
After the divorce, I had no savings. I had to repay the mortgage and take care of my daughter who was less than two years old. Life was quite difficult. Before my daughter went to kindergarten, my mortgage was basically supplemented by my parents' home.Because I was eager to make money to support my family, I had no choice but to send my daughter to kindergarten when she was two and a half years old, and my life was in chaos.
In the blink of an eye, three years have passed, my daughter has grown up, and I have been worry-free. My work has gradually gotten on track and my income has stabilized. In the past three years, he has hardly seen his daughter, and occasionally he will get angry when he thinks of it, feeling that he was really blind at the beginning. But most of the time, my daughter and I are happy.
Recently, he has started to come to me and my daughter frequently, saying that he was wrong, saying that he shouldn't have let my relationship down because of a messy daughter, and that his daughter became a child without a father. He said he repented, said he wanted to pursue me again, and hoped that my daughter and I could give him a chance, and he promised not to hurt me again.
As my daughter became more and more familiar with him, I hesitated as she looked at her daughter’s expression when she mentioned her father to the children in the kindergarten. I don't know the consequences of forgiveness and the consequences of remarrying him. It may start over, but it may also repeat the same mistakes. I would like to ask, can a marriage that is divorced due to cheating still be happy after remarriage?
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How should I answer the question raised by this netizen?
I have a friend who divorced because of his ex-husband's cheating. After the divorce, the man quickly became involved in his relationship with his mistress, but his life was not happy. Soon after, the two parted ways, and then the man became involved in a new relationship, one after another, but no result was achieved.
What about a friend, I have been alone after the divorce. It took almost three years to get out of the shadow of being betrayed by my ex-husband and divorce, and muster up the courage to accept a new relationship. Just as she and her boyfriend were about to get married, her ex-husband came back and asked for a remarriage in the name of giving her daughter a home. Looking at the daughter's begging eyes, my friend struggled for a long time, broke up with her boyfriend, and remarried her ex-husband.
The year when she remarried, her ex-husband did a good job, which made her mistakenly think that he was a real prodigal son and turned back. Later, my ex-husband suggested that he wanted a son, but my friend struggled for a long time before agreeing, and never thought that he would cheat again in the late pregnancy. Later, she divorced again and took her and her ex-husband's youngest son. Remarriage did not make her life better, but instead made her life worse.
Of course, this is just an isolated case. Not all remarriages are bad, but remarriages must have a prerequisite. Be able to realize each other's mistakes, face up to the past problems, and avoid these problems reasonably in your future lives.
For example, netizens’ marriage is not just a problem of cheating, but also a husband who dislikes full-time housewife. These are all problems, and they may still exist after remarriage. It’s true that the daughter is old, but the in-laws are old and need to be taken care of in the future. Once family trivial matters are involved, can men deal with it reasonably? If you face pressure again, can a man hold on to himself and not cheating to solve it? How to avoid his re-infidelity and how to avoid the second harm he may cause to himself and his children must be raised during remarriage and should be thought clearly as much as possible.
Whether it is remarriage or remarriage, it should not be decided by emotions, and should not make blind choices.
Today's topic: Do you think the marriage after cheating is still necessary to remarry? Can you still be happy after remarriage? Welcome to leave comments.
