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Is there a 100% perfect partner and a 100% perfect marriage in this world? No.
Good partners need to be run-in and grow up with each other, while a good marriage needs to be carefully managed, maintained and watered. These are not innate, so blind pursuit is useless and will only make you miss opportunities again and again.
Sometimes, love is like picking shells by the beach. You always feel that the best and most beautiful one is still behind, so you will always be picky about what you meet in front, even if it is already very good.
This kind of mentality will prompt you to keep moving forward and pick and choose. Until one day you find out that you have walked most of this road, and what you encounter later is not as good as before.
Only then will you start to regret it, but it is too late and you can't go back to the beach in the past.
Of course, you are unwilling to accept it. You feel that you have walked so far and selected for so long, and just find someone to pick it up just by just picking it up. It is a loss.
But there is no way, you don’t have too many choices, either don’t want it or just make do with it.
This is the cruel ending that older single women with picky eyes will face after they are 40 years old.
The cousin of my friend Zhang Fang (pseudonym) is such an older single woman. She is 42 years old this year. The reason why she has not gotten married for a long time is that she is more respectful than the top and no one looks down on her.
She always feels that she is beautiful, has a good figure and a good temperament, and can be worthy of a better and better man, but she didn't expect that when she is picking on others, others are also picking on her.
, but she has gradually lost her advantage.
I once saw a post online about middle-level leaders in first-tier cities.
Their age is about 35-45 years old, and their annual salary is around 300,000-700,000 yuan. It is not too much, but it is definitely not small, so they have high requirements for their partner. I always want to start a family with the other party and let the other party sacrifice more and give more. I can not only enjoy the warmth brought by the family, but also keep the status quo unchanged. The idea of
is unrealistic. Since you can think of enjoying the benefits, then isn’t it the same for people who are similar to yours? This leads to the fact that older single women and older single men look down on each other, so they are all single.
Zhang Fang is like this. She is a sales manager of a foreign company, with an annual salary of about 300,000 to 400,000 yuan. She always wants to find someone with a higher income than herself to get married, at least not less than 500,000 yuan, so that she will have more guarantees in the future.
But a cruel fact is that men who meet the requirements will not look for women like her who are over forty years old, which leads to her becoming more and more passive and having fewer choices.
She said that she has been picking and choosing for half her life, and after she was forty, she discovered a cruel truth, that is:
"Marriage is reality. When you are picking on others, others are also picking on you.
Really good marriages are always evenly matched, and everyone will only follow themselves in the end. People who are almost the same get married, or even marry people with worse conditions than themselves.
Because women have no advantage in age compared to men. After 40 years old, they are elderly mothers. They cannot guarantee their childbirth and are destined to be deducted. "
I have to say that this is cruel and realistic. Although men and women are equal, women do not have the advantage in real life. After all, men are in their prime after forty, while women will gradually decline after forty.
No matter how well you maintain it, you will be medically classified as an elderly mother.
Of course, you can also say that having children is not a necessary one, it is just a choice, and you can also not have children.
is indeed OK, but the premise is that you have to find someone who has the same idea as you.But even so, women still have to take greater risks than men, because in the future, men can find them again if they regret it, but if you regret it, it will be too late.
So I still want to remind older single women to have clear and clear plans for their lives. Unless you are a firmly unmarried person or dink , don’t be too arrogant and blindly pick and choose.
There are not so many so-called perfect partners and marriages, the best one is suitable for you. Don’t wait until you have no choice before regretting it, that is really too late.
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