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What is a couple?
Balzac once said: A husband and wife should understand each other by knowing each other, and then tolerating and loving each other, so as to maintain a happy marriage.
Respect, understand and tolerate each other, and be husband and wife. Instead of one person's unilateral efforts and enjoying it with another person.
So, if you want to know whether there is true love between husband and wife, you must judge from the way you two get along, rather than what love words they have said or promised you.
Some people say "poor couples are sad about everything". It is difficult for couples to have a warm marriage life if they live a bad life; but some people say "filial children are not as good as disobedient couples", and couples who lack feelings are also their best partners.
Many women will ask a question: Does the partner really love themselves, and most of the partner will give affirmative answers, but is this really the case?
In fact, whether men really love you and whether you really love you can be seen from these three details.
Ren Yuanyuan, 29 years old, self-media author: A truly loving couple can share joys and sorrows.
I always thought my husband loved me very much and never doubted it, but since the details of the quarantine, I began to shake.
My husband and I were together at college because we have common interests and hobbies, so we have a lot to say when we are together.
After graduating from university, about two years later, our work has stabilized and we both longed to get married.
So we got a brief certificate and held a wedding in his hometown at the end of the year.
After marriage, our living habits were very fast, there was no big friction or conflict, and we got along in a harmonious manner.
The nature of my work needs to be quiet and I don’t need to sit on duty, so I stay at home most of the time.
Every day when he comes home from work, he brings me some delicious food, sometimes a pack of small crispy meat, sometimes a bouquet of flowers... makes me very happy.
I think as a man, he must care about me very much if he can prepare these things for me after get off work, otherwise he would not spend time on it.
Moreover, every time we eat together, the first bite is always given to me, and there is something delicious to me will be left to me.
He did a good job of details of life like this, so I never doubted him.
But at the beginning of the year, the epidemic broke out here and everyone was quarantined at home.
Everyone stays at home, the supplies are not particularly abundant, and many families rely on inventory.
There is a pack of quick-frozen dumplings in the refrigerator. I was going to cook them and eat them together. Unexpectedly, he ate them by himself after cooking them and did not call me.
At that time, I felt mixed feelings. On the one hand, I felt that it was because he was too hungry, but on the other hand, I felt that only at this time can I see a person's true face. He still didn't love me enough.
Liu Jiayi, 31 years old, housewife: Whether two people are truly in love can be seen at the dinner table.
Whether a man loves you or not can be seen from many details, and there is no need to spend time at all.
After getting married, I no longer have a job and work as a housewife at home, responsible for washing and cooking.
My husband is a delivery for others and will go home for dinner every night, so before he comes back, I will prepare the meal.
When he got home, he never talked to me and walked straight to the dining table. If there was food on the dining table, he would start eating first.
If the food has not been served, he will be particularly angry and his face is ugly.
Every time he eats, he never waits for me to serve. When I was still cooking the last few dishes in the kitchen, he already started to eat.
Even if it is the New Year and the Festival, I will never wait for me when I want to make a meal for a whole family.
When I finished all the dishes, they were already chatting and laughing on the table, not even leaving one place, so I could only stand by and order the dishes and eat them in a bowl.
I never felt that my husband loved me, and he didn't feel sorry for me. I felt that housewives did this and felt at ease when enjoying my service.
Zhao Yifan, 29 years old, lawyer: Say less and do more, this is true love.
Men love you and pay attention to details; if you don’t love you, you should not pay attention to these things, just do as you wish.
My husband and I met through a friend. When we get along, we feel that each other is quite in line with each other. My parents are also urging us to get married, so we got married directly.
In fact, before getting married, I didn’t have too many expectations for this marriage because I had no emotional foundation.
But after marriage, I felt that I was very happy and chose the right person.
Both of us have a relatively flexible work experience. When we are not busy, we are very idle, but once we are busy, we will not touch the ground.
When I am very busy, he never disturbs me, but he will send me fruit to the second bedroom during the day and warm a glass of milk to me at night.
Usually, he cooks, and he doesn't let me in the kitchen, saying that the kitchen is so hot that it is bad for the skin.
He will also use a bento box to pack the next day's lunch and prevent me from eating takeaway because my stomach is not particularly good.
I think a detail that touched me very much is that every time I have a lot of meat in my bento, there are very few bento boxes in it. Every time I put the delicious food in my lunch box first.
Now I feel that although we got married through introductions, my experience is pretty good, so sisters should not reject blind dates.
Time Emotional Class:
If a man loves you, he will not ignore the details, and he will not do well in normal times, but it will be exposed in special times.
Because he loves you very much, you will always be the first person you think about, and you will always be the one who maintains you in the details. You will always put you first and will not lose the chain in the details.
Things like love have never been about how nice it sounds, but whether they have taken action.
Those who can implement love into the details of life, and those who are willing to tolerate, support and understand you undoubtedly love you.
I believe that when you are with such a person, you can feel unparalleled happiness, and you must be unwilling to let down his love for you, and respond to him with the same affection.
What is true love?
Zhou Guoping wrote in " Philosophical Thoughts on Humanistic Spirit ":
Heartache for a person, this is a reliable sign of love. Heartache is the most natural expression of feelings and is truly from the heart. In true love, we must feel sorry for each other.
True love is that it is giving for you, and you will not enjoy it with peace of mind. You also give him the best love you have.
