Whether good or bad or not, you must accept yourself
Psychologists have proposed four stages that must be used to achieve self-transcendence:
Accept, that is, accept yourself With the real environment in which you are;
action, that is, take action to what you decide and do your best;
emotions, invest emotions when working and studying, and enjoy them;
achievement means that you will naturally obtain the desired results through the above three steps of effort.
In this way, if you want to achieve success and transcendence in your life, the first thing you need to do is to accept yourself happily.
Only on this basis can you condense your wisdom, stimulate your psychological potential, and achieve breakthroughs in your own abilities and qualities and accept yourself happily, requiring you to accept both your own strengths and your own shortcomings.
and the improvement of human nature.
conscious of the objective existence state
However, in real life, it is common to see examples of not being able to fully accept oneself.
Some people often dare not face their guilt when they are full of confidence;
When they are depressed, they cannot believe their advantages and achievements;
Some people think that they are "mud that cannot be supported on the wall" because of their occasional negative emotions,
So they are in a depressed state; some people even give up on themselves because of others' disapproval of themselves,
is a pity.
Enmod Barke once warned: "To look at a race with a few unpopular people as an example, this generalization is extremely dangerous."
Today, it is also extremely dangerous to adopt a generalization approach to people's personality.
We should avoid this approach.
We are aggressive, malicious, and even hate others. These feelings are part of human nature.
But we don’t have to hate ourselves because of this, and feel like the abandoned child of society.
Aware of this, we can gain spiritual detachment and freedom.
Tang En thought he was a musician
However, in his friends' memory, when he was in junior high school, he was not very clever in playing hand drums , and his singing was not complete, which was really unsatisfactory.
After graduating from high school, Tang En went to the "country music capital" Nashville in order to realize his ideal of becoming a singer and composer.
After Tang En arrived there, he took out his limited savings to buy an old car, which was used as a means of transportation and to sleep. He found a job to work night shifts so that he could have time to patronize the record company during the day.
During this period, he learned to play guitar.
For many years, he has been writing songs and practicing singing, knocking on the door to success.
Finally, he became an excellent singer! Capitol has produced many records for Donn, and he ranks among the top in the national weekly popular record selections.
In a best-selling country music record collection at that time, the theme song "Gambling player" is also Tang En's masterpiece!
Since then, Don Schritz has created and sung 23 top songs.
Happy to accept yourself with shortcomings
Happy to accept yourself, not to appreciate and unconditionally accept your own shortcomings,
But to appreciate and happily accept yourself with shortcomings, even if some objective existence cannot be changed,
But you should also change those that can be changed, without being complacent, play the unique music in your unique life in your own unique way, and strive to achieve self-transcendence.
We should not look at ourselves one-sidedly because of others' ridicule, but should comprehensively examine, understand and accept ourselves in a realistic manner.
Learn to forgive yourself appropriately
Many people often demand themselves too strictly and hope that everything is perfect.
However, nothing we do is perfect. We cannot ask ourselves to be perfect,
We can only work hard to become a person with few shortcomings.
We must learn to forgive ourselves appropriately, accept and work hard to overcome certain shortcomings of ourselves, so that we can live a more relaxed life and maintain inner peace.
A psychiatrist in New York, USA encountered a patient who was alcoholic intoxicated.
has been treated for this for two years.
Once, the patient came to see the doctor and had to undergo psychological treatment.
The patient told the doctor that he was fired two days ago.
When the psychotherapy was completed, the patient said, "Doctor, if this happened a year ago, I couldn't bear it. I think I could have done better and avoided this kind of thing, but I failed to do it. For this reason, I would have drunk alcohol.
To be honest, I thought so last night.
But now I understand that since things have happened, I should face it. Accept it naturally.
Failure is like success, it is a rare experience in life,
It is an inevitable part of our life.
No one is perfect, accept
If people can calmly accept the whole life, "not be happy with things, not be sad with themselves",
Then, no matter whether it is success or failure, it is impossible to move him.
Everyone has factors that cause failure and factors that are heading towards success.
We Sometimes you can imagine yourself better, sometimes you can think about yourself worse,
But never be demanding that you are perfect,
Always maintain a good self-feeling.
Because no one is perfect, you can make yourself a better person!
