Live in such a society where money is paramount, everything is resources and limited, and the relationship between people is no exception. The linkage between individuals and society can be transformed into equivalent money under market conditions. The pursuit of money makes interpersonal relationships inevitably full of gold content, and ultimately transform them into a measurable securities between individuals - connections.
1. Understand the connections
What is connections?
Business Consultant: Liu Run said, "What kind of value you can create, you will know what kind of people you will know. He sees the essence of connections is to give value and exchange equally."
All good relationships are mutually attractive, and come naturally, and keep a close relationship with others, and there is no need to force them. The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water. A relationship that forces accompanies may not necessarily have good results; good interpersonal relationships do not require eating together every day, or giving gifts during festivals.
Many people try every means to please others or work hard to manage their connections just to help them one day. This situation is wrong.
Try to get to know someone with great people, take a photo, leave a WeChat account, and then the other party becomes your connection?
A few days ago, a wealthy businessman in Zhuhai got married, and Dong Mingzhu was invited to attend the wedding banquet.
On the same day, Dong Mingzhu, who is now 68 years old, attracted everyone's attention when she entered the venue.
Then, someone took photos and took photos, and a group of photos that were widely circulated on the Internet made the people who were watching melons sigh.
It turned out that Dong Mingzhu sat down and chatted with a man next to her.
is not difficult to see from the photo that the two communicated happily.
At this moment, a young woman in black suddenly came up, put one hand on Dong Mingzhu's shoulder, and bent down to try to get closer to Dong Mingzhu further.
At this time, the scene became awkward, and even the man next to him turned his head to look at his phone embarrassedly.
So, another woman in yellow next to Dong Mingzhu couldn't stand it anymore, so she reached out and moved the hand of the woman in black on Dong Mingzhu's shoulder away, signaling the woman not to do this, so as not to be bad for everyone. The display of the
screen is obvious, and Dong Mingzhu does not know the woman in black.
No one will feel comfortable being offended by crossing the line. In the picture, Dong Mingzhu expressed her mood in a black face throughout the whole process, and did not respond to the offensive behavior of the woman in black.
Through the photos online, many netizens are accusing the woman in black of impolite behavior.
However, in today's society with only networks, if you have no value to the other party, why should the other party help you?
Because, the reality is that when your ability and goal cannot match it, this kind of kneeling and clinging will not succeed. You must know that only when you can help him will he come to help you, which is called a win-win situation.
Therefore, when managing your connections, you must always maintain a basic mentality: put your value into others without reservation.
should try every means to help others without any purpose.
2. Achieve connections
Management connections, and I agree with this statement.
If you like a horse, don't try to catch up with it, you will definitely not be able to catch up. You should try to plant grass and flowers. When the grassland is in season, the horse will naturally come back to find you. What if this horse doesn't come back to find you?
It doesn't matter, you have flowers and grass, and have unique charm and capital. This horse will not come, and other horses will not come.
Similarly, when we become experts in a certain field after long-term accumulation and have influential works, those truly meaningful connections will flock to us. An excellent and valuable person will naturally attract the recognition and help of other excellent and valuable people.
Therefore, if an ordinary person wants to meet more outstanding people and get more recognition from others, he must first make himself outstanding. The connections are not large, but the essence is.
Of course, when you have no money, resources, and background, only by showing your strength, performance, and works is the best weapon to stand out in desperate situations.
One without real skills can't help others. No matter how many people you know, they will not be your connections.
When you make yourself excellent enough, praise, recognition, connections, and everything you want will come one after another. After all, connections are also relatively equal relationships. Only excellent people have effective connections; the greater value you can create for others, you will have as much value.
3. Growth value
There is a saying that goes very well. There is only two valuable things in the world. First, you live well yourself. Second, please help more people live well.
In December 2010, an accident caused my life to fall into a dilemma of being unable to take care of myself.
For the first time, I felt the value of health. I knew that I could only live well by working hard. I longed for health and hoped to live like a normal person. So fame and fortune are nothing more than passing clouds and mists, and what else is worthy of attachment, parents, brothers, friends, and the life I yearn for.
Although I can’t take care of myself, with the assistance of acupuncture and physiotherapy massage, the affected side begins to feel numbness and pain from no consciousness. People around me will encourage and support me to continue to persevere.
Later, after three years of scientific diet and the cooperation of rehabilitation exercise, physical fitness has undergone qualitative changes. The daily life of 10 kilometers of walking has dropped by 60, the physical condition has recovered to 80%, and the mental outlook and image are also full of vitality. Changes from the outside to the inside attract attention from the people around you.
Rousseau said that
valuable things are derived from coarseness, so you have to extract a few pages of compilation from a large shelf of books.
Someone is looking for weight loss methods, some ask for life improvement methods, and some help their family to consult about treatment and prevention in the same situation. Combined with the summary of common questions, I began to share my rehabilitation process on the Internet and guide patients with the same situation to recover from private messages. Everything started with public welfare and helping others, and I didn’t think of any self-interested approach.
What I believe in, you should teach people what you learn, and you should give them what you earn. Behind teaching, giving and getting to know people is not some kind of business demand and purpose, but letting things go naturally and coming from the heart. The more deliberate and utilitarian a cooperative relationship is at first, the more unconcealed and impatient it is, the more likely it is to go against the original intention.
Later, by chance, I did some things and needed to business expansion . Due to the novelty of the industry, there was no reference learning path. I sent some information through the Internet and quickly reached business cooperation, and then the spread and development of 0 to 1. Even if I did not actively expand, there were cooperation from home. Later, I asked my partners and I saw my previous experience sharing, which helped them prevent them, and it was also a cooperation that I believed in.
No matter what form of cooperation it is, it is achieved by first based on understanding and trust, and then constantly making yourself valuable and creating value for the people around you.
I never take the initiative to know others with a certain purpose, but do the present thing steadily, share and create value for others.
Because I know clearly that only by letting others remember who you are and what value you have, will they have the opportunity to know you and cooperate. Otherwise, even if you want a business card, add WeChat, and take a photo, others may not necessarily become your connection.
The essence of a true connection is to give value and exchange equally. What kind of value you can give will know what kind of people you will know. The greater the value you can create for others, the greater the value you have.
After all, the person you can help is your connection.
