Liu Xianglian went to the Jia Mansion to inquire about You Sanjie's origin. When Jia Baoyu said that You Sanjie was Jia Zhen's sister-in-law, Liu Xianglian regretted the marriage on the spot and said:
"This is not good. In your East Mansion, except for these two stone lions, I am afraid that even the cats and dogs will not be clean. I will not be the remaining turtle."
The self-deprecating person is despised; people who are self-clean are worthy of admiration.
. In life, keep three places clean and life will not be too bad.
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Circle of interaction
People rarely become bad by themselves, and more often they are the result of influence from others. Making friends randomly is the beginning of corruption.
Two days ago, I saw a "Confession" written by a fallen official online.
He used to be a county-level cadre. He liked to build a "circle of friends" and was keen on dealing with various bosses and making friends of all kinds of things.
often mingle with them, and when they touch their glasses, they call them brothers, and when others say a few compliments, they will fight with others.
Slowly, those bosses, contractors, and brokers began to ask him for some affairs. He also paid attention to "loyalty", gave them the green light, and accepted their various gifts and benefits.
It’s like this. Over time, he also tasted the sweetness. He responded to their requests and lost all his principles in doing things, and acted more recklessly.
Finally, he went from a county-level cadre with a glorious horizon in front of him to a corrupt official who everyone despises.
He wrote in the article: Careless friendship has brought me to this point today. Those so-called "brothers" and "friends" are the "boosters" for my violation of discipline and laws today.
True friends will support each other, promote each other, and grow together. Brothers with alcohol and meat will lose your wealth and reputation at the least, and at the worst, you will lose your health and freedom.
" Humble Room Inscription " says: "There are great scholars in chatting and laughing, but no white dicks in exchange. You can adjust the zither and read Jin Jing . There is no chaos in silk and bamboo, and no labor in the form of documents."
People who truly live a clear life know how to filter their own circles. Make friends with people with high moral integrity and do meaningful and valuable things.
Continuously optimizing our circle of friends and interacting with wise and good people is an important task for us to live.
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Information received
Laozi "Tao Te Ching" says: "Five colors make people blind; five sounds make people feel deaf; five flavors make people feel refreshed; galloping and hunting makes people crazy;"
What we see every day, what we hear from our ears, and taste from our mouths, if we do not control and filter, the more we enter, the more we lose.
TV series " Tiandao ", Ding Yuanying left the German private equity fund , returned to Beijing to close the company, and decided to live in seclusion in the ancient city.
Before leaving, Han Chufeng asked him, "Are you not able to find a corner to rest as you can in Beijing as a city? Ding Yuanying replied that this place is too noisy.
After arriving at the ancient city, the person who sent him thought the conditions there were too simple, but he said that having a bite of food and listening to music was enough for him.
So, he lived a life of deafing the news outside the window in the ancient city. Those who don’t understand him say he is a weird person. Anyone who understands him knows that he is a master.
The famous cartoonist Mr. Cai Zhizhong said in an interview:
"I have no mobile phone in my life and no watch. I never want to know information that has nothing to do with me, or knowledge and wisdom. If anyone wants to say me to me, I will always say thank you, please don't tell me."
Now in society, material life is rich, and information is like a torrent of explosion. The higher the pattern, the simpler and cleaner their lives will be.
And those who come without rejection are either disturbed by various noisy sounds and their thoughts and behaviors become confused; or those who are inspired by the ambitions are dazzled and chase after desires non-stop.
Instead of watching, listening, and curious in the dazzling world, it is better to devote your energy to self-improvement.
Only when the heart is clear can people become wise and have a successful life.
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voices spoken
I remember a few years ago, I participated in a corporate management class, and an entrepreneur classmate talked about his experience in class.
He was particularly lively, cheerful and confident when he was a child. However, when he was in the third grade of elementary school, the class teacher teased him in public in class, which made the students burst into laughter and gave him a nickname, which was later called by his classmates for many years.
It is precisely because of this public humiliation that caused great harm to him, and he became very inferior and still affects him.
After he finished speaking, the teacher in the management class asked him two questions: "Do you think your class teacher's evaluation of you was true at that time? Are there anyone laughing at you now?" His answer was no.
teacher continued, "Then why do you have to be inferior? You are now in a business, providing good products for society, and solving the employment of many people. Don't you think you are very great?" The sentence
opened the heart of this classmate. Since then, he has become more confident and the company has done better.
I once read this sentence:
"Absent words cause harm to others, too many words make people disgusted, false words are looked down upon, and light words are humiliated by others."
Language is powerful. A good word can warm a person. A bad word can also hurt a person.
What kind of people will say. Conversely, you will become what you say.
A person who speaks kindness, wisdom and creation every day will change with the improvement of his personal temperament.
choose words and speak them, and they are not harsh words. Only by treating speaking well as a lesson can you bring noble people and good luck into your life.
Lin Yutang Mr. Lin Yutang once said:
"A person with a clean heart, clear thinking, and no unnecessary emotions or delusions will bring people a sense of security."
The soul of a person with a clean body and mind emits a fragrance. Not only will you live calmly and calmly, but you will also bring beauty and tranquility to the people around you.
If you are not satisfied with your life now, then let yourself integrate into a clean circle, stay away from spam, and say more good words and love. Please believe that time will definitely give you a brand new life.
Author profile: Feiyang, with words to accompany you, nourish the soul with knowledge, explore the world for the rest of his life, and be a better self.
