Love is a very important emotional experience in life. It can make a person start to think, become mature, and then become a person with richer life experience.
In a person's life, the love experience he has experienced usually has a very important impact on his person's production. Love has a magic that makes people's hearts rippling. It may not only make a person depressed and lost, but also make a person optimistic and positive.
In real life, some people meet good lovers. With the inspiration of love, they can face life more positively and optimistically, thus creating their own happy life; some people, when they suffer setbacks in love, they will become depressed and will no longer have the fighting spirit to face life actively from now on.
In my opinion, those who become pessimistic and negative after losing love and never recover from it have a sad life because they regard love as the full meaning of life.
In the novel "Wuthering Heights" by female writer Emily Bronte , the male protagonist Heathcliff is a person who regards love as the whole meaning of life. Heathcliff deeply loves Catherine who grew up with him. Heathcliff treats Catherine as the whole meaning of his life. He thought he could marry Catherine.
Heathcliff always thought that Catherine loved him too deeply until he accidentally learned that Catherine had doubts about this love, so Heathcliff angrily left Wuthering Heights. He wanted to make Catherine full of confidence in him again through his own efforts.
Since leaving Wuthering Heights, Heathcliff has lost his happiness. He has always allowed himself to live in pain and loneliness. In my opinion, the reason why Heathcliff's life is sad is that he regards love as the entire meaning of his life.
1. It is difficult for people with unfortunate family to be confident in love.
Writer Fromm once said in his book "The Art of Love":
Love is an art, it requires a kind of ability.
If you want to get a happy love, a person needs to have two abilities at the same time. One is inner self-confidence, and the other is external money-making ability, which can give his lover a warm and stable life.
In "Wuthering Heights", Heathcliff is a person who lacks confidence. Heathcliff has an unfortunate original family. Heathcliff is an orphan. Fortunately, he was adopted by the old owner of Wuthering Heights so that he could survive.
And Catherine is the daughter of the old owner of Wuthering Heights. It is precisely because Heathcliff feels that he is humble and has a big identity gap with Catherine that he finds himself confident in this relationship.
People with unfortunate original families find it difficult to be confident in love, and it is also difficult for them to grasp a happy love.
2. The more you lack care, the more likely you are to fall in love.
During Heathcliff's growth, he experienced a lot of suffering. He suffered from the warmth and coldness of human feelings and naturally understood the value of true feelings in the world.
Heathcliff was looked down upon since childhood. Only Catherine, who grew up with him and grew up with him, could give him care. This made Heathcliff feel grateful and deeply fell in love with Catherine.
Heathcliff feels that Catherine is the only person in the world who loves him deeply, and he also regards his love for Catherine as the full meaning of his life.
It is precisely because Heathcliff takes this love too heavily that he has been living in pain.
3. The pathos of a person lies in regarding love as the entire meaning of life.
Love is important, but it will not be the whole meaning of life. There are also many emotions worth cherishing in life, such as family affection, friendship, and pursuit of career, etc.
If you only regard love as the whole meaning of your life, it will be difficult to find the joy of life in life.
When Heathcliff learned that Catherine was not firm enough about this love, he left Wuthering Heights in pain. He felt that the reason why Catherine was not firm enough about this love was because of his humble origin.
When Heathcliff made a lot of money through hard work, he returned to Wuthering Heights, but found that Catherine had married someone else.
Although Heathcliff used various methods to get Catherine back to him, the experience of losing Catherine made him unable to face himself or Catherine.
It was not until after Catherine died of sorrow that Heathcliff painfully discovered that his life had also lost its meaning.
The novel "Wuthering Heights" tells us that regarding love as the entire meaning of life is a person's greatest tragedy.
Love is indeed one of the very important emotional experiences in life, but it should not be the whole meaning of life. People who invest too much in love are more likely to be hurt by love.
Only by knowing how to cherish when you get love, and after losing love, can you achieve a happy life.
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