Starting from May this year, my wife's behavior was abnormal again and again. She came home very late after get off work. She always said she was working overtime, so I decided to check her mobile phone. When I was looking through her phone in June, a WeChat post with the notes Wei chatted with her very closely. After looking through the chat records, I was shocked and confirmed that my wife had cheated.
Based on known information, this person is his wife's first love, has his own family, and he also cheated in marriage. Two people who betrayed their marriage and family dated together, had dinner together, and checked in a room together without restraint.
When I said she had cheated, she said I was suspicious and suspicious. When I came up with evidence, she said: Are you done with it? Can you still be able to get through it? I showed evidence and she said it was nothing more than leaving the house with nothing or working hard to return to the family and live a good life.
I had a deep chat with her and talked about her first love. Why didn’t we talk for so long but we didn’t go to marriage? She was very sad. I said your first love is playing with you, and you still have to get together even though you know there is no result. She said that cheating was her fault, but she was just unwilling to accept it and did everything, and she did not regret it.
She sees how I choose, I will say it depends on your attitude, your attitude determines whether our fate is over. In my last conversation, the two most important points are: if you want to return to your family, you must first break up with your first love, and second, you must rebuild your trust with me and this family.
I am really really lost, my heart is empty, bored, and have no place to put it in. Experienced emotional betrayal, accompanied by deception and lies. Who knows what else will happen in the future and what should I do?
or above is a self-reported by netizens. Gu Feng suggested: If this happens, in order to minimize the damage, you have only two choices: either completely forgive her mistakes, work hard to repair the cracks, and go through the rest of your life; or give up completely and leave decisively. Here, the most important thing is your attitude. No matter what your final choice is, it must be thorough.
If you are born with a strong temperament and cannot tolerate sand in your eyes, and you will definitely not tolerate your wife's emotional betrayal, including mental cheating , then just choose to give up.
If you cannot give up your marriage resolutely, whether for your children, for both parents, or for yourself, then choose to forgive completely, forget her betrayal and hurt, and try to live the present and grasp the future with her.
Why doesn’t your wife divorce? She doesn’t love you, nor does she do it for her daughter. If she really wants to do it for her daughter, she won’t cheat. The fundamental reason is that her first love did not decide to marry her.
If you want to truly forgive your wife, you should think clearly about the following points:
1. You have to overcome the cleanliness in your heart. It is usually more difficult for men to pass than women;
2. Your wife must break up completely with the cause of cheating (including lack of love and trust in the future...). It is not easy;
3. Your wife must bear the entanglement and harassment of lovers;
4. I don’t know if anyone knows this. If anyone knows, you couple will also bear the pressure of acquaintances and society to see each other and all kinds of gossip.
So if you choose to forgive, you need to have a thorough talk with her. Whether the other party wants to continue the marriage and whether he has completely cut off his relationship with his first love, you must figure out these things, otherwise forgiveness will only hurt yourself again. If she has no regrets, she says she will make changes today and commits it tomorrow, and will not change it again after repeated instruction, then there is no need to maintain this marriage.
Your wife has no regrets and doesn't think she is wrong. I feel that you will not have a good life if you barely maintain it.
The cases and pictures in this article are from the Internet, and the pictures and texts are not related. If there is any infringement, please contact the author to delete them.
