In the TV series " Genesis ", Fang Jianping, played by Liza Wang, , knows that her husband Huo Jingliang is not hysterical when he is spending time outside, but always maintains decentness and will not ask about her husband's contact with women outside in daily life.
Because, she doesn't want to embarrass herself and her daughter. Although Fang Jianping ignored her husband's love affairs, he actually had a bottom line in his heart and could not tolerate it, so Fang Jianping simply divorced.
Her daughter Helen resented her father in her heart, and she didn't understand how her mother could be so calm. Fang Jianping told his daughter:
"I made an appointment to face the ups and downs of life together, but we didn't think about how to face a changeable other person. Now that he has changed, let him go. Even if I blame him again, what can I change?"
Since the husband has betrayed, Fang Jianping will not blame others. She will clean up her mood and consider the way she will take in the future. This is Fang Jianping's principle of being a person and dealing with things.
Fang Jianping had already walked out of that failed marriage. What he couldn't let go was her daughter. The real pain was the third party Wen Baoer. She betrayed her best friend but did not receive the sincere treatment of Huo Jingliang to her, and eventually committed suicide.
Fang Jianping said something at her funeral: "In this world, no one is qualified or necessary to be responsible for another person's life, except for himself."
Fang Jianping is indeed a wise woman, and she is very clear about people and things. Therefore, she is very open about her husband's betrayal of her. Her calmness and wisdom and unscrupulous attitude towards life are worth learning.
When a man betrays his marriage, his wife just shouts for divorce. Let’s take a look at the correct way to save himself.
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First of all, don’t be stubborn and close your heart.
Many original wives have no expectations for the man's betrayal, which is equivalent to being hit by the man and being knocked out of mind. It can easily cause people's stress, and she may not be able to withstand the blow and lose control of her emotions.
The original wife will feel deceived by a man and start to deny herself, feeling that living is worthless and not worthy of being loved.
doubts that no one in this world can believe it. She is desperate about the future and completely collapses psychologically.
Some people also ask men why they betray her, question whether men still love themselves, and keep themselves closed.
I feel that I love the wrong person, feel that it is not worth it, feel that I have been let down, I am very desperate, I feel that I should be very happy, but I have endured too much pain that I should not bear.
always wants to ask an explanation for betrayaling a man, and insist on asking clearly where he is inferior to a third party. What should a man betray her? The original wife got into the horns and it was easy to do something that she would regret for the rest of her life.
The original wife's approach will only make herself suffer. You can try to relax thoroughly first, listen to music, take a walk, and don’t let betrayal men hurt yourself. If you don't allow it, no one can make you sad.
In the TV series " Xiaoshe De ", Zhao Na loves Nan Jianlong very much. She can't even understand why Nan Jianlong is still in a state of crisis and still has the intention to betray the middle-aged female nurse?
The deeper Zhao Na loves and hates her stronger, especially because she was once the treasure that Nan Jianlong held in her hand. I never thought that one day Nan Jianlong would suddenly betray her.
After Nan Jianlong betrayal, Zhao Na lost more than 20 pounds in a month, was heartbroken and painful, her hair fell out in large quantities, and she suffered from depression. She took the medicine for almost two years, and Zhao Na no longer believed in love and marriage.
But fortunately, Zhao Na is a particularly responsible mother. She lived like a princess before the divorce. After the divorce, she also made herself and her daughter Nan Li live as delicate as possible.
She finally let go of her past and let herself go. In fact, she did not lose. Although she suffered a blow, she lived in a delicate way in the end, which made Nan Jianlong feel guilty towards his daughter.
The third party Cai Juying married Nan Jianlong as she wished, but she worked as a free nanny for the rest of her life. She was always carrying a bad reputation in the second half of her life. She was poked by someone with her fingers and had been 2 years old. She lived a trembling life and was as humble as dust.
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Secondly, if a man betrays him, if a wife wants to save the marriage, she must find the crux of it and solve it from the root.
Women should be able to view their marriage correctly and learn to reflect on themselves. In marriage, whether they are too strong, too domineering, and too self-centered. It may be easier to understand their partners and understand their behavior after self-reflection.
In the movie "0,000 Arrows Punching the Heart ", Li Baoli discovered that her husband Ma Xuewu betrayed him, and she reported him in anger. Ma Xuewu was forced to lay off due to this, and she was separated from the third party.
Li Baoli felt that she finally had a sigh of anger, but her relationship with Ma Xuewu was completely disappointed.
Ma Xuewu faces his strong wife every day and feels frustrated at home. He can't stand it and filed for divorce. Li Baoli disagreed. Ma Xuewu felt as if he was ashamed and eventually jumped into the river and died, which became Li Baoli's lifelong pain.
is because Li Baoli didn't know how to reflect after her husband betrayed and failed to solve the fundamental problems that arise in the marriage.
The wife must have a basic judgment on the betrayal of a man. Women must not exaggerate things. A man betrays his lifelong happiness will be gone, his pure love will be defiled, etc. Don’t catastrophize things.
Instead, we should rationally analyze the problems between each other and where the situation is wrong from the matter of men betrayal. Including the reasons for men's betrayal, only by finding the root cause can we better solve it.
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Finally, when a man betrays her, women not only cannot be depressed, but also make themselves better and live a wonderful life.
Yishu once said: "Love yourself, be calm, and then love your partner."
Women should be mentally prepared to irreversible marriage from the moment a man betrays him and prepare for the future.
When faces her husband's betrayal, women not only cannot complain and live a life of depression, but they must also learn to work hard to improve themselves. They will no longer betray their husbands all day, and they will not always be humble and please them in front of him.
After a man betrays a woman, don’t worry all day long, but plan for a better life in the future, so that her life will be fulfilled, and at the same time plan her future life.
Women want to make themselves independent and strong, and at this time, they may not have to take the initiative to win back the man. They will go up and change their minds and return to their family. By then, it will be a question of whether the woman wants him or not.
Hong Kong sister Xie Lingling is such a wise woman. She relies on her husband Lin Jianyue for the first half of her life, but after her husband betrayed her, she insisted on divorceing her. Xie Lingling had enough of a man's half-heartedness and made a living independently in the second half of her life.
When her dream of a wealthy family was shattered, she was also in pain and confused, but she quickly figured out that her happiness was in her own hands, and whenever she could choose, she had to control her own choice.
Just like the psychology master Jung said: "Everyone has two lives. The first time is to live for others to see, and the second time is to live for themselves."
Women like Xie Lingling are the most rational. She can live her own wonderful life after she breaks out of the wealthy family.
When your husband betrays you, your wife should not panic, try to find hope for life, a bright future is in your own hands, and only you are your savior.
