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Introduction:
In this society, our lives are full of temptations everywhere, and if you are not careful, it will cause great emotional problems. Two women over 35 years old said: "I am married, and I know that many men have different intentions when approaching us actively, but sometimes they don't want to explain or refuse directly. We women also have their own difficulties, and they really feel a lot of grievances." What kind of thing is it? Let's take a look at their stories together.
Self-reporter: Ms. Lu 36 years old
I am 36 years old this year and have been married for 12 years. I now have a son in elementary school. I am a human resources company and I am usually responsible for the company's recruitment matters. I have also met many people of all kinds, so I still have a better understanding of interpersonal relationships. I am still meticulous at work and very positive.
My husband is a barber. He has good haircuts, but he always has some weird hairstyles himself. Every time I talk about him, he always has many reasons to criticize me. He said that the hairstyles in him are all for attracting customers, but I didn’t see him making more money every month. Instead, many women approach him because of his dressing, which has affected our relationship.
Because of this, we have quarreled and made trouble, but my husband has no intention of repentance at all. He still does his own way. We have less care between husband and wife. I also found that he always contacts other women, and even chats with his mobile phone in the middle of the night. I never thought about divorce because I think divorce is not decent, so I will live like this for the sake of my children. After
hit, I was in a bad mood. At that time, a male colleague of mine always chatted with me when he saw me, and advised me to keep a happy mood. Later, with his help, I felt much better, and we became good friends who could talk about everything. I even wanted to share some things with him, and he became my first choice. I was very happy when chatting with him. I think the person who makes me happy is very important, and I must maintain this rhythm.
Self-reporter: Ms. Meng 35 years old
I am 35 years old this year. I was already very late when I got married. Because of my family conditions and my own appearance, I am still very picky when choosing a partner. I also had a few boyfriends in college, but I was unwilling to go to my hometown to develop and broke up. After graduation, my boyfriends I talked about were fast food love and had no stable emotional foundation.
I never expected that my husband I married was a man of 220 pounds. He was only 172 cm tall and weighed 220 pounds. After standing with me, a person with a height of 170 and weighing 95, it was not suitable for me. But my parents thought he was the most suitable for me, and they taught me that obesity can make me lose weight. I believed it, but the later things did not develop as I thought, which made me a little unacceptable.
Not only did my husband lose weight after marriage, but he was lazy than before. Of course, he became fatter. After get off work every day, he would play games at home or drink. His whole body looked confused and had no fighting spirit. I also advised him to exercise actively, but he always had various reasons to reject me, and later I gave up changing his ideas.
I usually like music and often attend some concerts or watch some dramas. I wanted to take my husband to go with me, but he didn't like it and even laughed at me for wasting my time. I often go to see it myself, and later I met a man who was 2 years younger than me, but I had my own opinions on music. We had the same interests and hobbies. Some ideas really coincided. I was also very happy to chat with him.
I also know that as a married woman, I cannot get too close to other strange men, but my husband really doesn't understand me, and he doesn't give me the warmth and care I want. He knows that I am happy all day long. I can feel understanding and respect from other men, so I don't think there is anything wrong with it, at least I haven't done anything else that hurts my marriage, and I think this is good.
Today's topic:
After marriage, couples need to communicate regularly, and they should actively seek ways to resolve some small conflicts. If they let them go, then the relationship between the two is designated to be cracked. This is unquestionable. If others take advantage of loopholes, their emotional relationship will be impacted, which is obviously not worth the loss.
Can you understand what these two women say in their hearts? Everyone is welcome to leave a message in the comment section below for discussion.
