Marriage is a big thing in life.
Since I was still very young, almost every girl will look forward to that day and that moment.
Looking forward to wearing a beautiful wedding dress, becoming the focus of everyone's eyes, slowly walking towards a man, then standing in front of each other, smiling like a flower in front of all the guests, saying that he is willing.
The same is true for men. They will look forward to that moment when they become the groom and start a family with the woman they love.
After that, no matter how the facts change, no matter what happens, they face each other together and share the responsibility.
I have to say that getting married is indeed a wonderful thing, but at the same time, it often means a responsibility, which means that from then on, your life will be tied to another person.
To a large extent, that person will really determine our future quality of life and what kind of life we will live. When getting married is not just a ceremony, it is such an important thing. Before getting married, you must think clearly when preparing to get married.
Ask yourself if you know each other well enough.
Some people are always very casual about their relationship. When they first met, they can say they liked each other. They didn’t understand clearly what kind of person the other person is and what their original family is, so they can talk about marriage with each other.
is very casual, and he looks like he is old anyway, and he will get married to anyone, so he just looks like he thinks the other person is good and nothing else matters. This is already very good.
Anyway, when you decide to marry the other person and discuss the marriage with the other person, you are impulsive and irrational.
It does take some courage and impulse to get into a marriage with someone. However, if you don’t know the other person’s situation, just ignore it. This is still too unreliable after all, and you are putting yourself in a dilemma.
As long as we are willing to complete the marriage, it is indeed easy and not difficult.
However, if you don’t see the other person’s character, their values, and how they usually deal with others, you will get married easily. After getting married, you will find out the other person’s various flaws and they will not be able to get along with each other at that time. At that time, the only one who suffers will still be yourself.
either can only survive or choose to leave quickly. No matter which one it is, of course it is not good.
So, don’t be so anxious and don’t be so hasty. Before getting married, we must make sure that we understand each other enough, know what the other person’s strengths are, and know what the other person’s weaknesses are.
must be, I am really willing to do so.
When getting married, of course, you must consider the other party’s financial conditions, the other party’s family background, the other party’s parents, their own parents’ wishes, etc.
We can consider a lot and weigh them from all aspects, but in addition to all external factors, we must also ask ourselves whether we are really willing to do this marriage.
If you don’t want to marry the other person at all, but are forced by your parents, but just think that the other person has good conditions, and always feel a little awkward and fantasizing about other possibilities, then we’d better think about this marriage again.
With such thoughts, when we are unwilling to choose each other at all, but are forced to do so, even if we get married successfully, after we get married, we probably won’t be able to live a good life with each other at all.
will always be a little unwilling to accept it. It is difficult to fall in love with the other person. It is ugly to see the other person and feel it like it. It really focuses on the other person.
. When we are absent-minded and don’t treat each other very well, the other party will definitely feel it. This will affect each other’s relationship and make each other look separate in the future and live under the same roof, but they are not like husband and wife at all.
Marriage is our own, and we can only live our own days after marriage.
So, no matter what others say, no matter what the other party has in all aspects, we must listen carefully to our thoughts and make sure that we really want to get married before we get married.
Be prepared and go there well after getting married.
Even if we are not married yet, in fact, we have already seen too many of the true appearance of marriage.
It is like a parent, there are always various conflicts, such as neighbors, always quarrels, like peers around you, often complaining about your partner, saying that the days after marriage are very different from what you imagined.
We don’t have to take it seriously, but we can’t ignore it at all.
Regarding the days after marriage, we can look forward to our marriage. Unlike others, we will be more lucky than many people, but we must also realize that marriage is really not as good as we imagined.
is far more dull than imagined, and the other party cannot meet our expectations so well. There are always many things that are not done properly, they always don’t understand our minds so much, and they always disappoint us. We must have certain predictions and have a thought, that is, since we have chosen the other party, we will be loyal to the other party, and we must know how to be tolerant and considerate for some small problems and small contradictions.
You must have the determination to keep going with the other party and know how to cherish this relationship.
With such thoughts, less expectation of the other person, more focus on yourself, more thinking about what you can do for the other person, and if you can do this, you can get married with confidence.
Everyone who is about to enter a marriage will be happier. While being happy, there are also some worries.
There are many things that you will worry about not being able to handle, and there are many responsibilities you will also worry about not being able to bear.
We can think about all aspects of
and think about it carefully.
Among them, we must also confirm that we do know each other very well, be sure that we really want to marry each other, be sure that although we may not be good at it, we are willing to work hard for it.
After thinking about these clearly, the answer is yes, so there is no need to think about it anymore, just get married bravely.
If the other party doesn’t feel good about you, you always have some bad feelings. If you don’t want to marry the other party, you are actually very hesitant. If you are not prepared and cannot live a good life, it is best to slow down.
Marriage is not a joke. You must be sober, be cautious, and take it seriously.
text/Tan Meng
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